What do I do?
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Hi, im new to this and not really good at speaking my feelings.
Backstory: Me and my partner have been together for nearly 3years, everything was amazing a dream come true. The knock at the door happened 2years ago when he told me what I thought was everything. We have gotten to the court process where he is on a suspended sentence and 10 years on SR. I found out that he did this during the start of our relationship and had lied throughout our relationship about it.
I dont know what to do as we have been so stable and this has completely messed with my head since court, he proposed last year and we are due to get married next year but im not sure where I am at. I love him with my life but I feel so lost now.
Does it get better?
Backstory: Me and my partner have been together for nearly 3years, everything was amazing a dream come true. The knock at the door happened 2years ago when he told me what I thought was everything. We have gotten to the court process where he is on a suspended sentence and 10 years on SR. I found out that he did this during the start of our relationship and had lied throughout our relationship about it.
I dont know what to do as we have been so stable and this has completely messed with my head since court, he proposed last year and we are due to get married next year but im not sure where I am at. I love him with my life but I feel so lost now.
Does it get better?
All I can say is for me no truth no trust no future I gave them 1 chance to be truthful they could not it meant I could never be safe or be able to trust them again. Only you can decide what's right for you.
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The key is that there is no time frame for when a decision has to be made. I am 18 months post sentencing and i still do not know whether I am staying. I am still taking each day as it comes. Personally I try to imagine life without my OH and what i would think if he went out with some one else, how would i feel. I know deep down i still love my OH but still cannot get past his crime. But i am not putting a time limit on my decision. Instead i am trying to build a life for me. Where my life does not evolve around him, or anyone else as it happens. So far i have started a new dance class and i am organing trips to xmas markets with friends. I am trying to get the courage to book a holiday on my own, but i am not there yet. The point is take your time. There is no right or wrong. X