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Disagreement about parenting 16 year old offender

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Beyonce

Member since
May 2023

63 posts

Posted Fri September 29, 2023 5:22pmReport post

Hi just after opinions about how to ease my husband & myself arguing about how we believe his son needs parenting since his arrest in April.We have always had different ways of parenting & I have 2 children,he has 1 but we have never had shouting swearing arguments.

His son is waiting to hear what the police decide to consequence him with since he viewed category B & C inappropriate images of girls aged 10-16years(he did this when aged 15)
He is now at 6th Form doing ok.I believe he needs to be encouraged to get out of his room & live in the outside world but his parents want to 'protect'him so aren't encouraging him to get a part-time job,get on a bus,etc

My husband is a big softy which I love but it's a very tough time & we are both so hurt with what his son has done & want his life turned around.

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Fri September 29, 2023 7:38pmReport post

Is he having therapy at all? I imagine they would be recommending he gets a good support network around him of peers as well as family, that he gives himself purpose through work and college courses etc.

The type of protection your husband is talking about is ultimately not protective as it doesn't give him the skills to successful navigate life

Having said that you have limited control, especially due to his age

SoTired

Member since
March 2021

387 posts

Posted Sun October 1, 2023 3:34amReport post

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