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Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Mon July 15, 2019 10:38amReport post

Hi

I just wanted to tell you how the Mumsnet has helped, it's led on to me and Lee 1969 connecting on the phone initially then with Paula, it was so emotional taking to people who got me and me them, it was kind of freeing.

We now have a WhatsApp group with some beautiful lovely ladies and also just through Mumsnet as it's not for everyone to give up what you have keep secret for so long.

Please ladies (and gents as I know there have been a couple on here) if you feel you want more go through Mumsnet. My user name is TB14 - it truly has been a life saver for us all xxx

Paula

Member since
September 2018

80 posts

Posted Mon July 15, 2019 2:21pmReport post

Hi Paula here. I'd like to echo these comments. Being part of this strong supportive Whats App group means that I never feel alone. Whatever is going on during this long and painful journey, there is always someone there for me. Someone who knows exactly what I'm going through. And hopefully sometimes I can offer strength and support back. This connection has changed my day to day life. I am so grateful to them all, and for the incredible contributors on this forum. xx

Mabel

Member since
June 2019

208 posts

Posted Mon July 15, 2019 2:42pmReport post

Hi everyone,

yes me too I can only say what this group has done for me is so wonderful, I no longer feel alone which was so difficult for me feeling like that all the time.

If you reach out and connect with someone it really does help, I know it is taking a bit of a leap of faith into the unknown, but I can only say it has helped me so much.

I am Mabel111 on Mumsnet x

Jayne G

Member since
March 2019

125 posts

Posted Tue July 16, 2019 7:36pmReport post

The thought of connecting with others and uncovering my “real” identity was daunting, to say the least, but it is the best thing I’ve done in the past four months.

I’ve connected with a group of strong, empowering women who have built me up and reminded me of who I am. I might be a victim of circumstance, but I’m also ME and I’ve felt able to be myself.

I can’t convey in words what the WhatsApp group has done for me. I really am so, so grateful.

If anyone feels they may benefit, I’m JayneG1989 on mumsnet and I set up a new, accompanying email address so that if I felt uncomfortable or exposed at any point, I wouldn’t feel my own identity had been risked. Just something to think about if you’re not ready to put yourself out there fully xx

Booboo

Member since
September 2018

22 posts

Posted Fri July 19, 2019 10:26pmReport post

Being actually connected to others in the same ship as me has been just fantastic I feel like I have people to talk to who really understand the awful feels I have feeling totally devastated and betrayed by the person who was supposed to protect us, but in the same breath like others I have connected with still care for our husbands / partners, to be honest being connected with these ladies make me feel Not alone or isolated anymore.

Vic87

Member since
October 2018

39 posts

Posted Tue July 23, 2019 5:51pmReport post

How do I add in to this group I have done a netmums account just not sure on what I am doing

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Mon July 29, 2019 7:50pmReport post

Hi guys

Just wanted to say some of us have now met up, what an amazing experience being with someone who 'gets' it.

I truly believe I have got beautiful people in my life who I hope will remain there for a very long while.

If you want to join Mumsnet my user name is TB14

This could be an additional lifeline asking with the forum for you

Xx

Dottie

Member since
June 2019

236 posts

Posted Mon July 29, 2019 8:28pmReport post

Lee1969

Have sent a message via mum's.net. Hopefully I have managed to do it properly. X

Carlyan

Member since
July 2019

11 posts

Posted Wed July 31, 2019 7:27amReport post

Tracey I have joined mumsnet and sent a message. I am unsure what I am doing so just letting you know I have connected with you and am looking to join the group you mention. Complete tevhnophobe so hope I have done it right.my username is carlyan2

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Sun August 4, 2019 7:26amReport post

Hi guys

Just wanted to tell you that 4, yes that's right, 4 of us met up yesterday for tea and cake, we spent 4 hours chatting, laughing and understanding each other.

This has been an amazing experience although it does take a massive leap of faith to do it because of letting go of the secrecy but so so worth it now.

If anyone wants to go through Mumsnet to join us my user name is TB14

Obviously this isn't for everyone and I still come in the forum most days but for me and some lovely, special ladies is been the best thing I've done so far

Xx

Carlyan

Member since
July 2019

11 posts

Posted Sun August 11, 2019 10:18pmReport post

Hi I would like to add, the group is amazing, always someone on hand to help out. Speaking openly with people who really understand has been do freeing. Everyone is lovely and today I met with one of the ladies who is not too far from me and to be able to sit face to face, have a high and share feelings, experiences and have true empathy was just something I couldn't imagine before I found this group I have only been a member for a couple of weeks but it has honestly been a life changer for me. You dont have to go through this alone - this is the one good thing to come out of this horrible situation. xx

Carlyan

Member since
July 2019

11 posts

Posted Sun August 11, 2019 10:19pmReport post

Should say have a hug not a high :)

Maddie

Member since
August 2019

14 posts

Posted Tue August 13, 2019 7:31amReport post

I must say that this sounds amazing that some of you are able to connect in the real world, which feels quite a hostile place to be at times. Can anyone join mumsnet? I'm not a mum myself though my partner has kids. I'm not sure how easy I'd find it to meet up with anyone mind you... I live out in the sticks without easy access to public transport and don't drive so it's hard to go very far on my own x

EmmaJ

Member since
August 2019

19 posts

Posted Tue August 13, 2019 12:20pmReport post

Just wanted to say what a support speaking to other ladies has been. No judgement, plenty of love and support and many, many laughs. Thank you. Xx

Maddie

Member since
August 2019

14 posts

Posted Tue August 13, 2019 8:34pmReport post

Thank you Lee 1969, I will take a look and sign up. Prepared to seek out every bit of help and support I can find x

Mumof2

Member since
December 2018

21 posts

Posted Tue August 13, 2019 10:59pmReport post

I've joined too! It's a bit of a minefield but hopefully I've done it right! My username is Lka1988 xx

Maddie

Member since
August 2019

14 posts

Posted Wed August 14, 2019 6:59amReport post

Well I have joined mumsnet. My username is DarkHorse60.

What next... point me in the right direction ladies!

Dance in the rain

Member since
July 2019

14 posts

Posted Thu August 15, 2019 12:04pmReport post

Hi ladies,

I have signed up to mums net, my username is RM85, could someone please advise what else I need to do?

Thank you in advance! Xx

Jayne G

Member since
March 2019

125 posts

Posted Fri August 16, 2019 5:09pmReport post

Hi everyone, I know this is already at the top of the topics, but it deserves to be. This support network and the chance to message/call/meet real life women in similar situations to me has without a doubt saved my life.

I had the scariest moment of this whole situation this week, and these ladies rallied round me and got me through it. The support is unreal. Xx

Maddie

Member since
August 2019

14 posts

Posted Tue August 20, 2019 7:57pmReport post

Just wanted to say what a difference it has made now that I am in contact with a couple of you ladies on mumsnet. Simply knowing that I'm not the only one in this situation is helping lift the burden. Got to say that I find the mumsnet messaging system very cumbersome though, very irritating that you can't read messages as a 'thread' so you don't lose track of what's been said. Are some of you on WhatsApp? Do you find that better to chat, and can you still keep it fairly anonymous?

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Wed August 21, 2019 8:41amReport post

Hi Maddie

I've messaged you through Mumsnet xxx

Maddie

Member since
August 2019

14 posts

Posted Wed August 21, 2019 1:29pmReport post

Thanks Tracey, I've only just had a chance to reply while I'm on my lunch break x

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Sat August 31, 2019 7:59amReport post

Hi Guys

It's so awful to see so many new people entering this scary world that brings us all to this forum.

I just wanted to reiterate the Mumsnet abs more if you want to get more support. Yes it takes a massive leap of faith but there is no one that I'm in touch with that regrets it.

I'm off to have lunch with another beautiful lady today and the support we both gain from that is amazing

My name on Mumsnet is TB14 - it would be lovely to hear from you xx

Pat32

Member since
September 2019

14 posts

Posted Fri September 6, 2019 11:12amReport post

Hi all,

I am very new to this forum. I had 'the knock' on Friday. I already have a mumsnet account and was wondering if I could get involved with the group? My username is Bearno2.

Thank you

Nonna

Member since
December 2018

85 posts

Posted Tue September 24, 2019 12:44pmReport post

Hi , just to say I am a mum of a Son who has been convicted of downloading images , I connected with this great group through mumsnet, and there is a fair few of us connected now , as the support we offer each other is amazing



Ums

CornishTea

Member since
August 2019

91 posts

Posted Wed September 25, 2019 12:32pmReport post

I am also on Mumsnet as Chocaholic4672. Have been quiet lately but have had a lot of appointments and am just struggling this week. So hard as I feel I powerless.

KLK

Member since
October 2018

99 posts

Posted Wed September 25, 2019 7:10pmReport post

Hi Cornish Tea

I've just sent you a message on Mumsnet x

Julesie14

Member since
November 2019

1 post

Posted Tue November 12, 2019 7:26pmReport post

Our knock happened exactly a week ago and our whole world has turned upside down.

I have just joined mumsnet as JulesC111 & would like to join the WhatsApp group please



This group has been a lifesaver already ?????

Hisangel

Member since
March 2019

7 posts

Posted Tue November 12, 2019 10:41pmReport post

Hey,

im not a member of mumsnet because I don't have kids...



would be nice to be a part of a group that communicates regularly though. Is there any way I can join the group?



thanks in advance

Hisangel

Member since
March 2019

7 posts

Posted Wed November 13, 2019 12:11amReport post

Hi, I sent a pm to you on mumsnet (I think... I sent it to mintypeas from glowupgirl)

ignore the cheesy username I couldnt think of anything else

Fairandlovely

Member since
October 2019

33 posts

Posted Thu November 14, 2019 5:58pmReport post

Hello everyone, i have joined mumsnet but have no idea how to find any of you... where do i look?

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Thu November 14, 2019 9:45pmReport post

Hi ladies,

My user name is TB14, please use it if you'd like to get in touch.

Just to let you know how amazing everything is, 7 of us are meeting up tomorrow for a weekend away, some of us haven't even met the others but we just feel like best friends.

It's just another form of support, it doesn't suit everyone but my goodness it's certainly helped me

Xx

Fairandlovely

Member since
October 2019

33 posts

Posted Thu November 14, 2019 9:46pmReport post

Thanks lee1969 its Supportive123

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Sat December 7, 2019 10:58amReport post

Hi I wanted to boost this up to keep it live but also tell you about the weekend away

We met, strangers who were best friends but didn't know how we took our tea and coffee.

We laughed until we cried and cried until we laughed

We're missing each other and taking of the next meet up - best therapy ever

My user name is TB14 if anyone wants to use it

Xx

Tutleymutley

Member since
November 2019

104 posts

Posted Sat December 7, 2019 11:13amReport post

I have signed up to mumsnet but no idea (on this phone) how to contact individuals on there. Got my laptop back yesterday but the keyboard no longer works on it. My user name is same as here. Tx

Tracey

Member since
December 2018

450 posts

Posted Sat December 7, 2019 11:54amReport post

Hi tutleymutley

I've tried to message you but Mumsnet isn't recognising your user name

Xx

Tutleymutley

Member since
November 2019

104 posts

Posted Sat December 7, 2019 3:42pmReport post

I've just rechecked - and found I'd put my password as my username instead of TM. Duh. Have changed it now - and I think I've succeeded in messaging YOU Tracey.