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Caggie164

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October 2023

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 2:20pmReport post

I've just had a call from my line manager as I'd spoke about going back to work next week. I work in a school although not directly with the children. I have to have a risk assessment with the head and someone else from the authority I work for. I'm suddenly very anxious. I almost feel like it's me that's done something wrong. I know it's just a formality. I'm not living with my OH any longer but we are in contact via messages. I also call round usually at the weekend to collect any post and any other personal things I might need and tbh it's nice to spend a bit of time in my own home. Do I need to tell them this or wait to see if they ask. Thanks

Inthemoment

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 3:06pmReport post

Do you have a union? I'd seek their advice if you do. Is it the LADO, the other person?

Caggie164

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 3:44pmReport post

No I'm not in the union and yes the LADO is the other person who is attending

Dawn19

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 4:58pmReport post

I also work in a school but not directly with children. I work in the office. I wasn't risk assessed - LADO just phoned and spoke to the Principal. They asked if she was happy for me to continue to work there and she said yes, and that was the end of that. I went straight to the Principal and talked to her as she is the safeguarding lead and I continue to update her, even though there isn't anything to update her with. I continued to go to work because I needed something to keep my mind off it, so I didn't have any time off. x

Inthemoment

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:17pmReport post

I am surprised they are doing a full risk assessment, especially if you don't work directly with children. However, I think you have little to worry about. I think acas can also give support if you have questions

I am a social worker and the lado also gave advice and all was ok as my person had moved out

I'm not sure what will happen when we request he moves back in after we're finished with court etc

LifeRuined23

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:27pmReport post

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Caggie164

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:29pmReport post

Thanks for that. I told the head straight away too and she's been great but I'm employed by the county council not the school so I think that's why there's a risk assessment. The head did say this would happen when I was due to go back.i've been off for three weeks and need to get back to some sort of routine again

Caggie164

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:33pmReport post

I'm sure it will be fine and is just routine. It's just all a bit daunting. I'm not living with my OH so there's no worry in that regard. I suppose schools have their own different policies and procedures for this kind of thing.

LifeRuined23

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Caggie164

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Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:50pmReport post

Thank you x

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Inthemoment

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Posted Sun October 8, 2023 12:16pmReport post

I'm employed direct by the county council so tbh it sounds like a bit of inconsistency. Do update with how it goes. As others said, you've done nothing wrong so nothing should need to be done

Caggie164

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Posted Sun October 8, 2023 1:03pmReport post

Thank you. I will update on Tues when I've had my meeting x

Caggie164

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Posted Sun October 8, 2023 3:01pmReport post

Just had a reassuring message from the headteacher. She says the meeting on Tuesday is nothing to fret about. It's just to make sure all safeguarding procedures were/are met and it's not LADO attending it's a senior manager from the department I work for x

Inthemoment

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Posted Sun October 8, 2023 8:47pmReport post

That sounds positively, hopefully they are kind and supportive and recognise how incredibly difficult this is for you!

Caggie164

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Posted Thu October 12, 2023 9:24amReport post

So I'm back at work..so far so good regards other staff etc. Noone knows only SLT and a close friend who I work alongside.

I had a risk assessment done and I think it was slightly OTT. I understand the seriousness of the situation but I'm no longer living with my OH but we are still in contact via messages and I pop into the house occasionally.

I understand no picking me up/dropping me near school.but I have to leave my phone in my bag until all pupils have left site. I'm a cleaner/caretaker so usually have it on me in case my manager or any contractors turn up and the office phone me so I can go and meet said people. They said if we start living together again I have to let them know which I totally understand but then it was almost implied that if I met up with him out of school it could be frowned upon and not taken in a good light.

LADO had sent an email saying what they had found( will they have just looked at the Facebook vigilante sting) or do they have access to police documents but he hasn't been charged with anything yet

His pre-charge bail sheet just says sexual communication with under 16. But LADO also said sending pseudo images of a child. ( it was a picture of an adult in a school girl fancy dress costume that he'd got from Google) not to be funny but he's sent something like that to me in the past and one of a sexy secretary. Just accessible images from fancy dress suppliers

So the way it was worded wasn't pleasant.

Sorry to spout off but it really bugged me. I will still meet up with him but will be cautious. I think a walk in the evening away from my place of work really shouldn't concern anyone.

Thanks all x :)