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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Afternoon lovlies x

Hope you are all doing ok x

A busy week at work for me but quite enjoyable at the same time , I have Monday off so a longer weekend, oh what to do with myself apparently the weather is meant to be nice but I did think about doing a bit of Christmas shopping (yep I said that word) :-) just a few bits, spoke to my son a few times this week he is ok, they are getting phones installed in there cells over the next several days so that will be good he will have a bit more privacy as he has his own cell, x

No visit this weekend but no doubt we will speak at some point

This check in is about how you are all doing but I do want to mention something, about certain comments that have been made on a few posts, I for one would have been so lost and lonely had it not been for this forum it is the one place where no judgement is made just understanding and support, I think I speak for everyone that we do not for one second condone what our loved ones have done but yet we all share that one thing in common of ending up here ,of course everyone has the right to have their own opinions but in all honesty the forum is not the place to share the negative comments, society has it's own opinions and we know, but here is a place to feel undertood, empathy and the biggest impact is to know we are not alone so respecting each and everyone of us is just to be mindful of what is said, or how it is said please,

This is about us , we are all walking in the same shoes, the same journey, so as they say if you cant say anything nice then say nothing at all

Phew got that off my chest sorry ladies

Sending strength and hugs as always xx

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 4:07pmReport post

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

142 posts

Hello friday I too have Monday off. I also started the shopping!!

I agree this place is like a comfy jumper, I look in now and then. It's a difficult time for all, so coming here and seeing the friendly names makes me happy( weird I know) knowing I'm not alone and I love reading the positives , and how great it is how so many offer amazing advice. We have enough heartbreaking moments as it is.

Sending all a virtual hug

X

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 4:47pm
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Dawn19

Member since
June 2023

166 posts

Hi upset - well said.

Enjoy your day off on Monday. It's never too early for Christmas shopping. I've already started but then forget what ive already bought. I bought my daughter a stranger things calendar last Saturday but then was reminded that we've already got her a Harry potter one...ooops. I heard my first Christmas song on radio 2 this morning, Cher has released a new song which happens to be a Christmas one and they played it, that is too early. And the pub where we go to for knitting and crochet group has already put up their Christmas tree. It was really confusing as they also had Halloween decorations up.

As for my week I've just been busy at work as usual. My boss is on holiday this week and next week so it is more relaxed in the office. We still get interruptions but not as many and Tuesdays seem to be the worst day. We seem busier on Tuesdays than any other day and the PE teacher has arranged a football tournament for next Tuesday with 7 schools coming to our school.

My daughter has been busy picking up a few shifts pot washing at the golf club where my other daughter works as a chef. She is enjoying earning her own money and has a couple of shifts over the weekend.

All the best x

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Bitterbean

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Lee

Messaged you so sorry about your furbaby xx

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 5:32pmReport post

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Anne20

Deffinatly not weird, we look at the names we know and have gotten to know on this journey x

Day one of finding this forum I spent hours reading, months lurking not been brave enough to post, but yet I have met some truly amazing people who have got me through this journey and that is why it is so important to each and everyone of us xx

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 5:37pmReport post

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2751 posts

Hi my dear friends - yep Christmas closes in, in my opinion far too early and commercial these days. Innocence gone.... I am a moaning old biddy. Enjoy your Christmas shopping trip Upset x

I'm ok and had an upbeat week. Son is ok and still grappling with the weeds in the prison grounds. He has settled in his new wing - which is such a relief, all I want is for him to be safe and get through this with minimum anxiety......

I agree with Upset and personally I have felt a little put out with some comments on the forum. It's so important whatever our loved ones have done, be it viewing images, sharing/distribution, chat rooms, contact, we all sail in the same boat.

Not one of us condone what has happened, we are on the forum to receive understanding, sympathy and support.. We have to deal with enough prejudice and pain as it is - this is OUR escape and long may it last. Let's work at it and keep it going for everyone that sadly joins us daily :-(

oh weekend, I'm just glad to chill and have a lie-in xxxx

Lee / so sorry about loosing your fur baby. Never been a dog person but we now have a beautiful fur baby in our family circle, I am hooked and love him so much....

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 5:38pm
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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Dawn x

Oops lol I do that but instead of calendars I by my daughter candles and knickers lol x

Glad your doing ok and work has been more relaxed x

It must be nice to see your daughter earning her own pennies hope she is treating herself been a bit independent xx

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 5:48pmReport post

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Bitterbean x

I think sometimes we overthink what others say having an outlet to talk and discuss the journey we are on is so delicate as is this journey we are all on , sometimes I want to shout from the rooftop that sometimes I am hurting and I am here because of my son but then I remember we are all here because of our loved ones , for me personally I have become far more understanding, I have always been aware of others before myself but now I'm even more so, this forum and others like it is a lifeline, x

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 5:58pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2504 posts

Smile xx

So glad your son has settled xx

Without this forum I would have never met you xx

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 6:16pmReport post

Newlady

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April 2021

644 posts

Happy Friday, love your wee Friday post even though I don't comment much . Been a busy work week for me (I'm a nurse so you can imagine) . Chilling with Netflix tonight, my person in his place we are spending tommarow together and I'm looking forward to much to it . We just had an amazing 4 days away so anyone wondering if your relationship would make it or be good again, I'm proof it can x

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 7:14pmReport post

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Newlady

A nurse how amazing x

So glad you have had a well deserved break somewhere nice ?x

I'm watching Itvx dramas I binged watched so many lol x

Netflix has a new film called Reptile apparently its meant to be good x

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 7:20pmReport post

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2751 posts

You are a precious friend to me Upset.

just imagine how lonely our journey would be without this forum.

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 8:02pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2504 posts

Smile x

Always there for you and our boys xx

I will always be grateful to the forum for finding a dear friend who I consider as family x

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 8:07pmReport post

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Thank you , I'm watching love is blind lol it's drama and it's mindless entertainment lol I've eaten so much chocolate and I'm not even sorry lol

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 8:19pmReport post

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Newlady

Seen it x honestly I have watched so many and I have to agree chocolate is so so good lol xx

Malteers are so good x

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 8:31pmReport post

Webb89

Member since
July 2022

531 posts

Hello friday check in

Yep I have also started xmas shopping but unfortunately i have ended buying more things for me than other people, oops.
I had a couple of days off which i did not do much with. Just read my book really. Not sleeping too well, so ended up either shattered or not waking up and being late for work. So far my supervisor has not noticed, yet!
Ended up doing a long walk last weekend, no long walk this week but meeting up with family tomorrow and friends another day. A bit apprehensive as I have not seen my friend since the arrest. As far as i know I they do not know, but who knows....as my OH has five entries on google anything is possible. My daughter is coming with me for support as i am a little anxious about it, which is sad as i should really be looking forward to it. Started a new councillor and so nice to talk to someone who is not going to judge me. This is the first in person i have had as the precious one was over zoom Still doing my line dancing which I find so much fun.



Lee i am sorry for your loss. A furbaby is a member of family and hope you are ok. Upset glad your son is ok and will have more privacy for calls. All things positive.

Hope everyone has a good week. X

Posted Fri October 6, 2023 9:16pmReport post

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Webb89

It is absolutely right to buy yourself more lol

Glad the walk did you well a beautiful place to loose yourself with just the wind and fresh air to keep you company xx

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Parkerpoo1

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Parkerpoo1

I am so very sorry the passing of your mum sending strength and hugs to you xx

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Ocean

Member since
September 2023

982 posts

Hello Friday Check in, I know it's no longer Friday but I thought I'd still check in. Not a bad week for me. I managed to attend a social event and have now had 3 days in a row when my anxiety has felt more manageable.

I haven't really thought about Christmas yet. I usually host a big family Christmas. This would still be manageable as far as SHPO restrictions are concerned as children will be supervised but I'm not sure if SS could put something in place to prevent it. My son is waiting on a post sentance risk assessment to be completed so hopefully we'll know more when that's done.

Upset, great news about the phone. That should make conversations much more comfortable for your son.

Lee, I'm so sorry to read about your dog. Losing a family pet leaves such a great big hole in the family, I really feel for you.

Parkerpoo, I am so sorry to know that your mum has passed away. I can only imagine how you feel and what you are going through.

With regards to unhelpful comments can I please ask that if anyone ever feels I have written something which they find unhelpful that they drop me a message to let me know as I would hate to upset any of you lovely people.

I'm so thankful for this forum and hope you all manage to take some moments for self care this weekend.

Posted Sat October 7, 2023 8:02pmReport post

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

581 posts

Late check in for me this week.

Parkerpoo I'm so very sorry to hear about your Mum and know how hard it must be for you.

Upset and Smile so pleased to hear that your sons are doing well.

Been a reasonably good week here I managed to get to the theatre which was lovely but for the past few days I've been feeling very tired and low for some reason and ended up at an urgent care centre yesterday where blood tests showed that my blood count is low so more tests next week.

Please take care all of you and thanks always for your support xx

Posted Sat October 7, 2023 8:58pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2504 posts

Seaside x

I hope the tests come back ok, x you have had so much to deal with so please try to look after yourself x the amount of pressure you have been under it's not surprising you are run down xx

I hope your son is doing ok x and you know I am here for you xx

Posted Sat October 7, 2023 9:37pmReport post

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

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Ocean x

Glad to hear you are ok x you have never posted anything that could offend so dont stop posting x I hope your son is doing ok x

Xmas is overwhelming this year as it my daughters first Christmas in her own place I said to my eldest it could be just us so a takeaway is on the cards lol I dont want my daughter to feel under pressure to be with us , we hope to book a visit on xmas eve with my son as hard as it is it is so very important xx

Posted Sat October 7, 2023 9:43pmReport post

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

365 posts

Just loved reading all these posts. Made me feel normal again.

Parkerpoo1 so sorry to hear of your mum's passing. Sending condolences x

Lee I'm so sorry for the loss of your furbaby X

Sending you both hugs

I went shopping ( not Xmas) on Friday. Bought a jumper and boots I didn't need but who cares!

Also very lucky that I can move into a little property my sister owns and move out of my daughters. I love her very much but I need my own space and so does she and her little family.

My OH is staying in our home for now as he doesn't have any other options

I'm so glad I found this forum

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