Turning phone on afte release from prison
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For those of you with someone that's come out of prison, did they turn their phone on after?
My person had said he won't. That no good will come of it. He's so ashamed. He didn't tell anyone what was happening, just disappeared. When he's released he will literally only have me, I don't think this is healthy for him but also puts a lot of pressure on me and us. I on the other hand think there are likely to be people that don't know and possibly people that will understanding.
He'd left a long term relationship and moved from the city he lived in just prior to lock down so friendships had drifted and our relationship started in this time so I hadn't built a relationship with his friends (nor are they social media people. So there is a chance that some people won't know and he could make the decision to tell them. If people did know, it's very unlikely they'd know the details needed for Find a Prisoner.
I wondered what others had done? Had anyone been surprised by messages of support or am I being to optimistic?
My person had said he won't. That no good will come of it. He's so ashamed. He didn't tell anyone what was happening, just disappeared. When he's released he will literally only have me, I don't think this is healthy for him but also puts a lot of pressure on me and us. I on the other hand think there are likely to be people that don't know and possibly people that will understanding.
He'd left a long term relationship and moved from the city he lived in just prior to lock down so friendships had drifted and our relationship started in this time so I hadn't built a relationship with his friends (nor are they social media people. So there is a chance that some people won't know and he could make the decision to tell them. If people did know, it's very unlikely they'd know the details needed for Find a Prisoner.
I wondered what others had done? Had anyone been surprised by messages of support or am I being to optimistic?
Hey Sal,
I don't have any experience with this but I will say that men will be deeply ashamed by situations like this. I believe it's a normal reaction to what happened to be afraid to be available for contact with people that could judge them. No one wants to be judged and maybe having the phone on seems overwhelming right now. But it is not healthy to rely on just one person for support. He will need to work on himself and realise that it he wants to maintain a healthy relationship with you, he will have to put in the time and effort to become better and be willing to get out there and try and live a normal life. No good can come of living under a rock, we all need friends and social groups. His quality of life will be a lot lesser if he goes no contact with everyone, but for the short term I think it's normal to want to isolate for a bit. Give him that time to come to terms with the new life he has and then he can take steps to getting back into the social aspect of life
I don't have any experience with this but I will say that men will be deeply ashamed by situations like this. I believe it's a normal reaction to what happened to be afraid to be available for contact with people that could judge them. No one wants to be judged and maybe having the phone on seems overwhelming right now. But it is not healthy to rely on just one person for support. He will need to work on himself and realise that it he wants to maintain a healthy relationship with you, he will have to put in the time and effort to become better and be willing to get out there and try and live a normal life. No good can come of living under a rock, we all need friends and social groups. His quality of life will be a lot lesser if he goes no contact with everyone, but for the short term I think it's normal to want to isolate for a bit. Give him that time to come to terms with the new life he has and then he can take steps to getting back into the social aspect of life
Set me thinking. My son will need a phone when released to keep in touch. I'm sure he won't be allowed to use the internet.
Is there such a phone available with no camera or access to the internet?
Is there such a phone available with no camera or access to the internet?
Smile through tears- yes there is a phone available from Voda phone, it's very basic calls and texts only, it does have a camera but so basic and can't send or receive unless he wants to pay extra (think phones about 20 years ago) it's £10 per month pay as you go unlimited calls and texts (it does come with rolling internet but the phone inself doesn't allow internet access so it's basically useless for that)
Sounds perfect. Thanks Dragonmama