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Scaredkitty

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October 2023

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Posted Tue October 10, 2023 5:54pmReport post

First time posting so please accept my apology if this is in the wrong place.

My OH got caught in a sting online talking with a women about her supposed relationship with her daughter. Turns out there is no child and he is being sentenced tomorrow . We spoke with his barrister today and they said expect a custodial sentence as the charges are very serious, This is the first time he's ever been in trouble with the police, since he got "the knock" he's been going to SAA meetings weekly as he admits he has an addiction, he's also been attending therapy weekly and even the PSR apparently said they don't believe he is a threat, He had been dealing with this for 22 months now and I've only been in the relationship for 6 months. I'm praying he doesn't get a custodial sentence as he's doing so much to show how sorry he is. He made a really stupid mistake. He says he never thought the situation was real as it was a fantasy. I'm absolutely terrified. I don't have anyone I can talk to so I'm just really posting here to try and get this out of my head.

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Blue Sky

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 9:45amReport post

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Scaredkitty

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 9:57amReport post

Blue Sky.

Yes I'm currently sat in the courtroom reception waiting to see what time we are due in court, it all seems to be very messed up as the judge is elsewhere on another case.

we both just want to know what is happening so we can start to rebuild our lives and try and move on.
I just feel sick.

Blue Sky

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 11:41amReport post

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Ocean

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 1:08pmReport post

I've just read your post and wanted to reach out to let you know that you've come to the right place to get support. As someone who has recently been through what you are facing today my heart goes out to you.

Scaredkitty

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October 2023

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 3:47pmReport post

So due to a clerical error the case has to go back to the magistrate court as he had actually pleaded guilty to something he hadn't done. Feels like we are back to the starting point but with the correct charges we are hopeful the outcome will be less severe.

I am very grateful that I found this forum and know that I have some support out there. X

Inthemoment

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February 2023

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Posted Wed October 11, 2023 7:02pmReport post

Sending lots of positive thoughts to you today. I hope you get the best possible outcome for you and your oh

Scaredkitty

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October 2023

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Posted Mon October 23, 2023 12:21pmReport post

Just wanted to post a little update, We now have a new court date on the 15th Nov for my OH to give his plee to the correct charge,

We are just trying to keep posotive and enjoy our time between now and then.

Ocean

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September 2023

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Posted Mon October 23, 2023 6:11pmReport post

Thank you for the update. As the time gets nearer I'm sure your anxiety will spiral again so remember that we're all here to support you.
I hope you get to enjoy the time you have together between now and 15th November.

Scaredkitty

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October 2023

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Posted Thu November 16, 2023 4:16pmReport post

Well we are back in a hotel for the night as tomorrow is the day. We've been told that he could get a suspended sentence but I'm so scared that I'll be walking out of court tomorrow alone. Please keep us in your thoughts tomorrow.

Mandymoo

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September 2021

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Posted Thu November 16, 2023 6:38pmReport post

Will be thinking of you tomorrow. I hardly slept the night before so know how you will be feeling. This time tomorrow it will hopefully all be over for you xx

Ocean

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Posted Thu November 16, 2023 6:45pmReport post

I'll be keeping you both in my thoughts and wishing you the best possible outcome.

Caggie164

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Posted Fri November 17, 2023 8:24amReport post

Sending you positive thoughts. Hope today goes well for you both and have strength xx

Mandymoo

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Posted Fri November 17, 2023 10:09amReport post

Thinking of you today. Xx

Inthemoment

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Posted Fri November 17, 2023 1:04pmReport post

Thinking of you xx