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Caggie164

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October 2023

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Posted Thu October 12, 2023 7:01pmReport post

So I'm back at work..so far so good regards other staff etc. Noone knows only SLT and a close friend who I work alongside.

I had a risk assessment done and I think it was slightly OTT. I understand the seriousness of the situation but I'm no longer living with my OH but we are still in contact via messages and I pop into the house occasionally.

I understand no picking me up/dropping me near school.but I have to leave my phone in my bag until all pupils have left site. I'm a cleaner/caretaker so usually have it on me in case my manager or any contractors turn up and the office phone me so I can go and meet said people. They said if we start living together again I have to let them know which I totally understand but then it was almost implied that if I met up with him out of school it could be frowned upon and not taken in a good light.

LADO had sent an email saying what they had found( will they have just looked at the Facebook vigilante sting) or do they have access to police documents but he hasn't been charged with anything yet

His pre-charge bail sheet just says sexual communication with under 16. But LADO also said sending pseudo images of a child. ( it was a picture of an adult in a school girl fancy dress costume that he'd got from Google) not to be funny but he's sent something like that to me in the past and one of a sexy secretary. Just accessible images from fancy dress suppliers

So the way it was worded wasn't pleasant

Sorry to spout off but it really bugged me. I will still meet up with him but will be cautious. I think a walk in the evening away from my place of work really shouldn't concern anyone.

Thanks all x :)

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Fri October 13, 2023 10:06amReport post

That does seem ather over the top. What is their specific concern in regards you having a phone?

A risk assessment should identify risk, identify likelihood of risk, and identify potential harm and likelihood of harm, then set out protective actions to be taken. I would question the proportionality of yours given you have not and are not suspected of doing anything wrong. Have you see the risk assessment?

hpl111

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November 2022

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Posted Fri October 13, 2023 10:31amReport post

@Caggie164



The pseudo Image claim seems a bit ridiculous.

There doesn't seem to be any common sense.

If you go on a legal porn webpage now, you will find plenty of pics/videos of adult performers in school girl outfits.

Is everyone who watches these videos a sex offender?

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Fri October 13, 2023 11:04amReport post

Exactly what I thought. I think they've not had to deal with anything like this before so they're maybe covering themselves albeit dramatically. Glad you think the same.

I was there when the risk assessment was being done and none of it was about me really. I think the phone thing is if my other half was to contact me whilst I was at school etc but he wouldn't and I think the way LADO had phrased their email to the head made it all sound worse.

Thanks for the support

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Fri October 13, 2023 9:09pmReport post

Surely a more proportionate' response is 'if he rings you at work you must not answer'?? Are you able to ask for this to be revised if it's going to present an issue for you?

Edited Fri October 13, 2023 9:10pm

Caggie164

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October 2023

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Posted Fri October 13, 2023 9:36pmReport post

It's not an issue for me but I did think it was quite extreme. Like I said I think everyone is covering their backs and having never dealt with anything like this before I wasn't sure what to say and neither did they. Guess I was the test dummy!!

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Fri October 13, 2023 9:42pmReport post

And the pseudo image of a child comment. Out of interest today I went on Amazon and typed in adult fancy dress school uniform and was amazed at the variety of images that came up.