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Afternoon lovlies x
I hope your week has been kind to you all x
A relatively quiet one for me
My son finally had his in cell phone connected (they were meant to have them done over a year ago) he was saying how the prison has got its inspection been done) and low and behold the phones are sorted, they have more officers about the good old roll out the red carpet for the officials, but at least he can call after 5pm now so all good, and rather than 15 min calls we have 20 so I can bore him to death for a little bit longer :-)
No visit this week but he is ok in himself x
Not sure what I am up to this weekend maybe a bit more xmas shopping, I am popping over to see my daughter Sunday so get to walk the furbaby,
I hope you are all holding up , love sent as always xx
I hope your week has been kind to you all x
A relatively quiet one for me
My son finally had his in cell phone connected (they were meant to have them done over a year ago) he was saying how the prison has got its inspection been done) and low and behold the phones are sorted, they have more officers about the good old roll out the red carpet for the officials, but at least he can call after 5pm now so all good, and rather than 15 min calls we have 20 so I can bore him to death for a little bit longer :-)
No visit this week but he is ok in himself x
Not sure what I am up to this weekend maybe a bit more xmas shopping, I am popping over to see my daughter Sunday so get to walk the furbaby,
I hope you are all holding up , love sent as always xx
Hello friday and hello upset
Had a nice weekend last weekend being at the seaside with my furbaby, the young one. It was her first trip and she loved it. And she was very good, as she is getting to the age that when i call her she thinks about it before respnding and it is anyones guess if she comes back. The week is mainly work. Went to my dancing and learning a dance for halloween.
Nothing major to report really. Second week of new councellor and seems to be going alright.
weekend working to earn more money for xmas as the only breadwinner now. But will be out the following day with my furbabies. So not all bad.
Hope everyone has a good week. X
Had a nice weekend last weekend being at the seaside with my furbaby, the young one. It was her first trip and she loved it. And she was very good, as she is getting to the age that when i call her she thinks about it before respnding and it is anyones guess if she comes back. The week is mainly work. Went to my dancing and learning a dance for halloween.
Nothing major to report really. Second week of new councellor and seems to be going alright.
weekend working to earn more money for xmas as the only breadwinner now. But will be out the following day with my furbabies. So not all bad.
Hope everyone has a good week. X
I've had a fairly quiet week.
Having started counselling a few weeks ago (NHS) and then having it stopped as the counsellor went long term sick, I now have a date for re-starting. Only 8 months after I first requested help. Still not sure what I expect from it or how it can help but it can't hurt.
Having started counselling a few weeks ago (NHS) and then having it stopped as the counsellor went long term sick, I now have a date for re-starting. Only 8 months after I first requested help. Still not sure what I expect from it or how it can help but it can't hurt.
Hi lovely ladies.... gosh what a foul day weather wise!
Not a bad week - suffered a little with side effects from my flu and Covid jabs, I'll live - a small price to pay. So going to rest up this weekend.
Son fine.... although some bug in the gardens decided to bite his ear, so it's swollen, red and itchy good job he has some cream.
lots of sad stories on the forum at the moment, here's sending our newcomers a comforting hug x
Not a bad week - suffered a little with side effects from my flu and Covid jabs, I'll live - a small price to pay. So going to rest up this weekend.
Son fine.... although some bug in the gardens decided to bite his ear, so it's swollen, red and itchy good job he has some cream.
lots of sad stories on the forum at the moment, here's sending our newcomers a comforting hug x
Hi Webb x
So pleased you had a lovely time with her at the beech, I can imagine the fun she had ;-)
So pleased the new counsellor is going well for you x
You really are a credit to yourself never forget that , I hope the Halloween dance is going well it makes me think of Michael Jackson & Thriller xx
So pleased you had a lovely time with her at the beech, I can imagine the fun she had ;-)
So pleased the new counsellor is going well for you x
You really are a credit to yourself never forget that , I hope the Halloween dance is going well it makes me think of Michael Jackson & Thriller xx
Runawaygirl x
Bless it's so frustrating isn't it but as we know the NHS are under pressure but it just adds to you having to pay the consequences of not having the right support, hopefully they will resolve it for you, it will deffinatly be beneficial for you xx
Bless it's so frustrating isn't it but as we know the NHS are under pressure but it just adds to you having to pay the consequences of not having the right support, hopefully they will resolve it for you, it will deffinatly be beneficial for you xx
Runaway girl. I was put down for NHS councelling, and 18 months later I still have heard nothing. Now paying to see a councillor from a charity so cheaper than private but still costs me every week.
Upset, yes we are dancing to Thriller lol.....
Upset, yes we are dancing to Thriller lol.....
Webb89
What a great guess, it had to be the most iconic dance for Halloween x
What a great guess, it had to be the most iconic dance for Halloween x
Hi everyone
I've just done my first week back at work. I've felt super low these last couple of mornings. I'm staying with my daughter and her family so the happy face I'm putting on for my granddaughter every morning is probably taking its toll.
I'm moving into my own place hopefully next week so time to myself will be good
My OH is keeping busy . Phone calls and weekly therapy sessions.
I hope you all have the best weekend that you can :) x
I've just done my first week back at work. I've felt super low these last couple of mornings. I'm staying with my daughter and her family so the happy face I'm putting on for my granddaughter every morning is probably taking its toll.
I'm moving into my own place hopefully next week so time to myself will be good
My OH is keeping busy . Phone calls and weekly therapy sessions.
I hope you all have the best weekend that you can :) x
Hi everyone thank you for keeping this going. I'm still here, still waiting, 3 years on, reading your posts regularly to know I'm not alone. Though I don't always post I am here with you all.
I have had a really hard time recently. A break up with someone I met since the knock. I was lied too and cheated on multiple times, it's been a big shock.
My ex has been there for me through it all, just as I have supported him since the knock although we did split. Still good friends.
sending all a big hug xxxxxx
I have had a really hard time recently. A break up with someone I met since the knock. I was lied too and cheated on multiple times, it's been a big shock.
My ex has been there for me through it all, just as I have supported him since the knock although we did split. Still good friends.
sending all a big hug xxxxxx
This week has felt slightly better for me, I feel like I'm taking steps forward rather than backwards. My son has been out of the house each day (even if it's only for an hour) which is real progress. He still avoids going anywhere where he could bump into people he knows but is no longer hiding away all day at home.
My thoughts are with those of you who are in the early days of this awful journey and those facing court in the very near future.
My thoughts are with those of you who are in the early days of this awful journey and those facing court in the very near future.
Mixed bag of a week for me. Was starting to feel less anxious about things but then we heard that my sons ex was going to fight him all the way so he can't have supervised access to my grandchildren, after she stopped it a few months ago. I miss them so much and solicitors said it will cost £1000's to take it through the courts. Trying not to give up hope but it's hard x
Hi
A little late for Friday but I thought I'd post. A mixed week with some positives. I've gone back to work nearly full time and I think it's been good for me. I haven't started the day crying and trying to pull myself together for a few days now so that's a win! I went for a walk along the river with my nephew and it was lovely. Definitely going to get out walking more and enjoy the autumn colours!
Also just a though re fighting fir contact with children- might check out if CAFCAS can help (not sure if they're still around or in what format).
A little late for Friday but I thought I'd post. A mixed week with some positives. I've gone back to work nearly full time and I think it's been good for me. I haven't started the day crying and trying to pull myself together for a few days now so that's a win! I went for a walk along the river with my nephew and it was lovely. Definitely going to get out walking more and enjoy the autumn colours!
Also just a though re fighting fir contact with children- might check out if CAFCAS can help (not sure if they're still around or in what format).
Hello lovely ladies and happy Friday.
Not a good week for me I'm afraid. Starting last Sunday, my person (fiancé, arrested in July, RUI, stayed together) got something in his eye. I didn't realise how bad it was, was tired and grumpy from 3 hours sleep, worrying, so he ended up at his mum's, she then phoned me all angry, telling me she was taking him to A&E which is what I should have done and that I don't deserve him, then hung up! I was so angry, especially as I'm standing by him, but I didn't retaliate. I just haven't got it in me.
He was supposed to report for bail on Tuesday, but the OIC phoned him and said they haven't got access to his phone yet, so he didn't need to go, she would just extend it for another 3 months.
Then my youngest daughter, who started University 3 weeks ago, FaceTimed me, first time she's ' needed' me so far, all upset and lonely, with slight regret that she moved so far away as she needs a mumma hug. Broke my heart. But it's natural I guess and I know she'll be ok (she's 4 hours away, but such a good uni).
And finally, and this is the big one, I might lose my house ???? I've been struggling for a few years (separated from husband 11 years ago, his name still on mortgage), and now I've missed too many payments (not consecutively). My ex has been dragging out the divorce and financial settlement for 5 years (which is how long I've been with my partner). There is so much equity in the house, and the plan was to remortgage, pay the ex off, clear all my debts and start afresh with partner. But that may not be an option any more. The bank are looking into my situation and finances and will either come up with an affordable solution, or repossess my house.
I honestly don't know how much more I can take ???? ????
Not a good week for me I'm afraid. Starting last Sunday, my person (fiancé, arrested in July, RUI, stayed together) got something in his eye. I didn't realise how bad it was, was tired and grumpy from 3 hours sleep, worrying, so he ended up at his mum's, she then phoned me all angry, telling me she was taking him to A&E which is what I should have done and that I don't deserve him, then hung up! I was so angry, especially as I'm standing by him, but I didn't retaliate. I just haven't got it in me.
He was supposed to report for bail on Tuesday, but the OIC phoned him and said they haven't got access to his phone yet, so he didn't need to go, she would just extend it for another 3 months.
Then my youngest daughter, who started University 3 weeks ago, FaceTimed me, first time she's ' needed' me so far, all upset and lonely, with slight regret that she moved so far away as she needs a mumma hug. Broke my heart. But it's natural I guess and I know she'll be ok (she's 4 hours away, but such a good uni).
And finally, and this is the big one, I might lose my house ???? I've been struggling for a few years (separated from husband 11 years ago, his name still on mortgage), and now I've missed too many payments (not consecutively). My ex has been dragging out the divorce and financial settlement for 5 years (which is how long I've been with my partner). There is so much equity in the house, and the plan was to remortgage, pay the ex off, clear all my debts and start afresh with partner. But that may not be an option any more. The bank are looking into my situation and finances and will either come up with an affordable solution, or repossess my house.
I honestly don't know how much more I can take ???? ????
Oh K Lulu
I am so sorry for what you are going through sending strength and hugs to you xx
In regards to his mum phoning you how dare she he is a grown adult ,
Your daughter will settle but can understand her emotions is it her first time away? When my daughter moved out in June her and her boyfriend got their own home I cried for days and she struggled also but we have both settled now , it just takes a bit of time but she will get there and so will you x
As for the situation with the house I am sure they will be able to do something to help but it is a worry I can imagine, maybe try your local citizen advice as they will be able to assist I'm sure
Now you need to breath as everything is getting on top of you and all the worry will make you poorly, you have enough going on at the moment, do you have someone to lean on for support? xx
I am so sorry for what you are going through sending strength and hugs to you xx
In regards to his mum phoning you how dare she he is a grown adult ,
Your daughter will settle but can understand her emotions is it her first time away? When my daughter moved out in June her and her boyfriend got their own home I cried for days and she struggled also but we have both settled now , it just takes a bit of time but she will get there and so will you x
As for the situation with the house I am sure they will be able to do something to help but it is a worry I can imagine, maybe try your local citizen advice as they will be able to assist I'm sure
Now you need to breath as everything is getting on top of you and all the worry will make you poorly, you have enough going on at the moment, do you have someone to lean on for support? xx
Thank you Upset Mum for your kind words.
I do have my mum, she is a tower of strength and support for me, I don't think I could cope at all at the moment without her.
I have phoned the bank and have to phone back on Monday with all my incomings and outgoings, then they will look into it and make a decision. I did think about trying Citizen's Advice, but I think they would just tell me to phone the bank anyway.
I haven't heard from his mother since, I expected an apology but there you go. Yes, I should've taken him to the hospital in hindsight, but it's not for her to phone me and tell me I don't deserve him, damn cheek! I don't care to have anything to do with her at the moment. She has always told me that he needs a lot of looking after and 'god help you if you don't'. What about me??
Ugh. I just want everything sorted and to be happy again, same as we all do.
x
I do have my mum, she is a tower of strength and support for me, I don't think I could cope at all at the moment without her.
I have phoned the bank and have to phone back on Monday with all my incomings and outgoings, then they will look into it and make a decision. I did think about trying Citizen's Advice, but I think they would just tell me to phone the bank anyway.
I haven't heard from his mother since, I expected an apology but there you go. Yes, I should've taken him to the hospital in hindsight, but it's not for her to phone me and tell me I don't deserve him, damn cheek! I don't care to have anything to do with her at the moment. She has always told me that he needs a lot of looking after and 'god help you if you don't'. What about me??
Ugh. I just want everything sorted and to be happy again, same as we all do.
x
Oh, and yes it's my daughter's first time away, it's not been long and I know she will settle and thrive. I miss her so so much though xx