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Jkd

Member since
October 2023

25 posts

Posted Mon October 16, 2023 10:24amReport post

The family member has finally spoke to his partner although she is horrified since three burly police arrested him ,been allocated a liaison officer but the information is a slow process which makes it harder.Her worry was his safety in prison butvhecsays he's ok just wants a change of clothes.Also his mother is lost in a world of her own which is heartbreaking

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

295 posts

Posted Mon October 16, 2023 12:48pmReport post

It's earlier days and feelings are all over the place. Just be there for each other. It's a long and slow journey xx

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 16, 2023 2:25pmReport post

Ahh bless you . I can actually feel your emotions in that post and I know exactly how it feels. Try to look after yourself as much as you can at this stage . I promise it gets a little easier with time x

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Posted Mon October 16, 2023 2:25pmReport post

Ahh bless you . I can actually feel your emotions in that post and I know exactly how it feels. Try to look after yourself as much as you can at this stage . I promise it gets a little easier with time x

Jkd

Member since
October 2023

25 posts

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 6:24pmReport post

Thank you so much.Communication from police quiet just have to wait for the hearing no idea what will happen still awful times ahead

Babyblue22

Member since
September 2023

16 posts

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 7:52pmReport post

Hey Jkd

So sorry you're going through this. May I ask has he been remanded in prison awaiting his plea hearing? I'm sorry for my ignorance I really don't know how It works but I didn't think he would be in prison before the sentencing. Sorry if the question is too much I don't want to step on any toes

Jkd

Member since
October 2023

25 posts

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 8:09pmReport post

It's ok yes he is on remand waiting for a hearing not sure will he plead guilty or not as I mentioned before the information is coming in slow nothing solid maybe speak to the family liaison officer

Orpetilos

Member since
October 2023

9 posts

Posted Wed October 18, 2023 7:01amReport post

I'm so sorry you're in this situation, Jkd.

Regarding your concerns about your brother's safety: there's hope.

There is one prison that's all convicted sex offenders - HMP Stafford. If he goes there, he won't stand out, and a lot of men will have worse convictions. He won't need segregation or to look over his shoulder.

Because it's all SO rather than career or drug criminals, there's very little in the way of drugs or gangs or violence at Stafford.

Obviously a prisoner doesn't get to decide where to serve his sentence, but people around him - doctors, lawyers, family etc - can make a case to HMPPS for him to go to Stafford and they may (or may not) listen.

Jkd

Member since
October 2023

25 posts

Posted Wed October 18, 2023 9:09pmReport post

Thank you so much.One day at a time

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Thu October 19, 2023 4:07amReport post

There are several prisons holding sex offenders only, including the Isle of Wight.. Up to press my son has served time in three of these SO only prisons.

What Orpetilos says is very true .

Edited Thu October 19, 2023 7:27am