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Flower

Member since
February 2023

149 posts

Our case with SS was closed swiftly, and we all returned to living together following my husbands arrest at the beginning of this year.

I'm now pregnant with child no 2. Delighted and terrified.

I'll be disclosing the investigation to the midwife when I am appointed one. (I should have seen one by now but there is a huge backlog!)

Any advise on how to approach it with the midwife or discuss matters with the new social worker is greatly appreciated as always.



Flower.

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 7:53amReport post

Newlady

Member since
April 2021

644 posts

Hi new bud , congratulations on your lovely news honey hope you're keeping well and don't have too much sickness at this stage X I work in maternity and unfortunately there is a huge back log everywhere. We are on our knees at the moment and are people are leaving NHS because of the pressures , but thars a different story . I agree with Lee that you should definitely make a self referral before you book into hospital /midwife.It's definitely a positive if you do sweet heart and some SW might say your hiding things if you don't . It's definitely best to be proactive yourself as it give you good stance as a protective parent. In my hospital, once social issues are disclosed,we have our own hospital social worker who works with a team of wonderful midwives who specialises in these things . We are lucky to have them as they are great support, non judgemental and help in any area they can with social issues. Best thing you can do is be up front , honest and protective and that will all go well for you when SS put a plan in place eventually after sentencing. Pm me if you have any questions at all honey and congratulations again xx

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 8:53amReport post

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

409 posts

Hi Flower, congratulations on your pregnancy!

I am also currently pregnant and my baby is due in December.

When I had my booking in call with the first midwife over the phone, I disclosed to her that we had social services involvement in the past, but that our case was closed. She said she would get in touch with social services.

I am a bit surprised because social services haven't been in touch with me at all and my designated midwife hasn't mentioned anything.

When I was in the hospital though for a blood appointment, I saw on the screen: Risk factors social: Previous or current social services involvement.

Should I contact my previous social worker as well to let her know? xx

Sorry to hijack your thread, Flower xx

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 9:17amReport post

Flower

Member since
February 2023

149 posts

We all need all the help and advise we can get because it takes a village.. to manoeuvre this situation. Not to worry about 'hijacking' the thread as there is no such thing.

I have called a social worker this morning following the advise above and self referred. Thank you ladies. I did not think of doing so at all. Makes perfect sense.

Let's see what comes next.

Flower.

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 9:29amReport post

JenJo

Member since
June 2023

57 posts

A new bud. How lovely. Congratulations Flower!

Posted Tue October 17, 2023 10:38amReport post

Flower

Member since
February 2023

149 posts

Well thank you!

Some of you reached me privately, and nobody called me a silly cow, yet, which is great.

SS asked me to disclose the situation to my midwife, when I am appointed one, for the midwife to make an informed decision, and refer me if she feels needed.

Little strange, I thought I was referring myself, but they aren't interested if it comes from me.

Oh well.

Posted Wed October 18, 2023 7:36pmReport post

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1177 posts

Congratulations Flower. I'm not entirely sure what logic there is behind the decision of letting the midwife make the decision on whether to refer you as this isn't their area of expertise so they would be referring for ss to do an assessment of your situation.

It would be worth mentioning what they've said to the midwife, especially if you have that in an email. They obviously don't feel that there are any concerns at this stage but it is very bizarre that they'll only accept the referral from a professional xxx

Posted Wed October 18, 2023 8:11pmReport post

Quick exit