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Oh my goodness, bless you , you sound so distressed you must be in terrible shock that he was remanded. Try you look after you honey as much as you can , chat with us tomorrow when your in court, I know this forem and a few special ladies from here helped so much on sentencing day . He might have to plead tommarow but that's really really fast .I've no idea who it's up to if he gets bail or not ? I'm sure someone else can answer that . Take big deep breaths and look after yourself x

Hi,

I don't have any advice with court as I didn't go but I wanted you to know you're not alone in this. We all stand beside you tomorrow. Baby steps and be kind to yourself while you're processing this next stage.

Thinking of you xxx

What a terrible shock for you both, I can sense your distress and want to let you know that we are all here to support you. If court tomorrow is similar to a plea hearing then the format will be that the prosecution will provide an outline of what your OH has done and will read out the charges. You will hear more detail than you want to so be prepared to be shocked by what you hear.



I know it's easier said than done, but this evening try to remind yourself that whilst everything is terrifying at the moment, you will get through this.



Sending you a big virtual hug and support and lots of best wishes.

Hi,

I wanted to reach out as I know that the worst part of this journey sometimes is the unknown of situations. Obviously this is my own personal experiences so I don't know if it differs in different parts of the country, but it may help some questions you may have.

My OH was held in custody until he appeared at Magistrates the following morning. He had the opportunity to enter a plea at magistrates which he was going to do as he held his hands up in interview, however due to inaccuracies over the charges and prosecution not even understanding one of them, he didn't formally enter a plea but his solicitor made it known that he had the intention of entering a guilty plea so that it would count as his 'first opportunity'.

Magistrates made the decision not to grant bail and so he was held at a local prison on judges remand until he had a plea hearing where he formally entered his plea and then the sentencing hearing more recently, both of which were at crown.

If he has a solicitor, he should be able to meet with them at the court prior to appearing tomorrow which will hopefully give him the opportunity to ask any questions. I also had the opportunity to speak with the solicitor both before and after which gave me the opportunity to hear the charges beforehand (OH had to give consent to this) so I wasn't caught off guard whilst sat in the court.

There was a lot of waiting round as he wasn't listed for a time when he appeared at magistrates...just slotted it in where they could. I take my crotchet everywhere with me now where I anticipate a wait...court, prison visits...anywhere that has the potential to cause anxiety. It keeps both my hands and mind busy and I've already got some Christmas presents sorted by doing it!!

Keep reaching out on here...I, as im sure others do also, understand the feeling of isolation all too well. Previously I used to scroll through social media to distract me and prevent the lonliness sinking in...I now scroll through the forum daily and it definitely helps me to not feel so alone as you honestly start to strengthen by reading about the strength of others.

Will be thinking of you tomorrow...xxx

Thinking of you and sending you strength. You will get through this xx

Bless you we all are here for you x

It's a huge shock to take in x

Sending strength and hugs to you, we will be there by your side helping you get through tomorrow xx

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