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I'm currently sitting outside the courtroom waiting to be called in for the plea hearing...
I'm so scared of going in, his advocate called me last night and said his charges aren't too hectic and there were no images found, it seems the only evidence they have is of talking to a decoy which was an adult
which is good news, well as good as it can get right now
Has this happened to anyone else?
I didn't sleep much last night, managed to sleep from 2-4 and then from 6-8 so at least 4 hours
any advice or how to calm my nerves would be so appreciated
I've had two panic attacks last night and this morning, it's hard to breath
thank you so so much to everyone who has been so supportive and the lovely replies last night
I'm so scared of going in, his advocate called me last night and said his charges aren't too hectic and there were no images found, it seems the only evidence they have is of talking to a decoy which was an adult
which is good news, well as good as it can get right now
Has this happened to anyone else?
I didn't sleep much last night, managed to sleep from 2-4 and then from 6-8 so at least 4 hours
any advice or how to calm my nerves would be so appreciated
I've had two panic attacks last night and this morning, it's hard to breath
thank you so so much to everyone who has been so supportive and the lovely replies last night
Just remember we are here thinking about you and sending you strength and hugs. Positive thoughts. Deep breathing. You are amazing and so strong to be sat there right now xx
Hi Caggie164, thank you so much for your reply, thank you. I really appreciate it, feeling very alone and scared right now.
I can only imagine. Just know your only on your own in person but we are all with you in thought xx
I'm with you x be brave - hug sent x
You are absolutely not alone. You are showing your strength by sitting right where you are. Whatever the outcome today remember we are here. You will get through this xx
Still waiting to be called into the court room,
I'm still so scared.
his advocate came & spoke to me, he said they may want to remand him in prision until Tuesday instead of giving him bail today
they've asked me if I can be insurance on him so they can try get him released
I've said yes & he needs to surrender his passports because apparently he's a flight risk
It's all a bit much right now
I just feel a bit panicked
I'm still so scared.
his advocate came & spoke to me, he said they may want to remand him in prision until Tuesday instead of giving him bail today
they've asked me if I can be insurance on him so they can try get him released
I've said yes & he needs to surrender his passports because apparently he's a flight risk
It's all a bit much right now
I just feel a bit panicked
Thinking about you x
I am so sorry, Flo13. This must be incredibly hard - stay strong xx
Thinking of you xx
Thinking of you Flo xxx
Big hugs to you. We are all here for you. X
Big hugs honey , I remember the feeling well xx
You've got us all thinking of you today. You're nearly there now and you'll be on your way home soon. Think of it has just another step done and out of the wayxx
I remember that feeling only too well. As everyone else has said, we are all here to support you. You're nearly over this first hurdle so stay strong and remember to breath nice deep breaths. Thinking of you.
Thank you truly so much to every single person, I really appreciate the support. So thank you so so much. It means so much more than you'll ever know, so thank you.
update: my OH was released on bail, thankfully. And we are now home. Of course with restrictions, but nothing other than the usual.
He was charged with 3 charges of gross indecency.
the evidence the prosecution has is with a decoy which is what they initially arrested him with, the decoy is an adult so no minors were involved which is good I presume.
that's the only evidence they have
he didn't plea today, he will plea in a couple of weeks time.
has anyone had any charges dealing with a decoy?
feeling a little better but not a whole bunch. Just trying to understand it all.
they read out the transcript of the conversation between my OH and the decoy, it was a bit intense and I didn't expect that as the advocate said they wouldn't read it out today. Have the evening off work so will be able to deal with it I guess.
update: my OH was released on bail, thankfully. And we are now home. Of course with restrictions, but nothing other than the usual.
He was charged with 3 charges of gross indecency.
the evidence the prosecution has is with a decoy which is what they initially arrested him with, the decoy is an adult so no minors were involved which is good I presume.
that's the only evidence they have
he didn't plea today, he will plea in a couple of weeks time.
has anyone had any charges dealing with a decoy?
feeling a little better but not a whole bunch. Just trying to understand it all.
they read out the transcript of the conversation between my OH and the decoy, it was a bit intense and I didn't expect that as the advocate said they wouldn't read it out today. Have the evening off work so will be able to deal with it I guess.
Hi Flo
I was just wondering how this ended up?
I was just wondering how this ended up?
I assume Flo meant charged with "attempted communication with a child"? I don't think "gross indecency" is on the statute books anymore. And it was usually used to crminialise gay sex...
I think gross indecency is still a "thing" as I happened to be looking into this just the other day. It's a common law offence from what I can deduce but I did get a bit bogged down trying to unravel it. I wonder if the the Forum Team could shed some light ... if you're reading this please!
I'm not sure how it would come under 'attempting to communicate with a minor' he didn't speak to the child (who doesn't exist). He spoke to the decoy who was pretending to be the 'mother'. Honestly the terminology and stuff is so confusing and always makes me think the worst.
Ah ok. In that case they usually try and charge with "attempting to incite" or "facilitating abuse of" if the mother was pretending to offer up a fictitious child or something like that. The fact they've gone with gross indecency sounds like they've found it difficult to make any of the offences on the sexual offences act 2003 fit your case. It'll all depend on the content of the chat.