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Hope you are doing ok x
Webb89 glad you are feeling better today and hope the dancing is keeping you busy xx
I have a long weekend ahead with the furbaby as my daughter has gone on a girls break to Budapest, they have some lovely things planned which she so deserves x other good news for her is she has managed to come of her antidepressants, she went on them after the initial knock, so as her mum I am so happy for her that she has been able to cope so well and of course she has been my rock x
Took the doggy out earlier managed to miss the rain, winter is deffinatly here now, 66 days until Christmas time is flying by
Spoke to my son earlier he is well considering we have a visit planned in 2 weeks so will be good to get my hugs from him x
I watched Avatar the 2nd one and even though it's a long film I really enjoyed it
What ever you have planned for the weekend remember to do something to make you smile and don't forget how incredibly strong and beautiful you are xx
Love sent as always
Hope you are doing ok x
Webb89 glad you are feeling better today and hope the dancing is keeping you busy xx
I have a long weekend ahead with the furbaby as my daughter has gone on a girls break to Budapest, they have some lovely things planned which she so deserves x other good news for her is she has managed to come of her antidepressants, she went on them after the initial knock, so as her mum I am so happy for her that she has been able to cope so well and of course she has been my rock x
Took the doggy out earlier managed to miss the rain, winter is deffinatly here now, 66 days until Christmas time is flying by
Spoke to my son earlier he is well considering we have a visit planned in 2 weeks so will be good to get my hugs from him x
I watched Avatar the 2nd one and even though it's a long film I really enjoyed it
What ever you have planned for the weekend remember to do something to make you smile and don't forget how incredibly strong and beautiful you are xx
Love sent as always
Such good news about your daughter, I hope she enjoys Budapest!
Also hope you manage to dodge the weather for all the weekend walks.
Just shopping and laundry planned for me, but that's all ideal because I'm knackered! I think it's the evenings closing in, I just want to hibernate!
webb hope you're less fed up too.
everyone else; I hope you manage to fast forward the boring parts of strictly and enjoy the dances!!
x
Also hope you manage to dodge the weather for all the weekend walks.
Just shopping and laundry planned for me, but that's all ideal because I'm knackered! I think it's the evenings closing in, I just want to hibernate!
webb hope you're less fed up too.
everyone else; I hope you manage to fast forward the boring parts of strictly and enjoy the dances!!
x
Hi All - what a horrible day - rain, rain, go away and come back another day!
Hope all my pals are bearing up. I've spent quite a bit of time with my grandchildren this week which I love and every minute is so precious. Although tinged with a little sadness at times my life feels normal when I'm with them.
As for my son, he's fine - not a lot to report really but he seems on top of things which is all we can ask for.
Upset - you mentioned the C word!!!
Hope all my pals are bearing up. I've spent quite a bit of time with my grandchildren this week which I love and every minute is so precious. Although tinged with a little sadness at times my life feels normal when I'm with them.
As for my son, he's fine - not a lot to report really but he seems on top of things which is all we can ask for.
Upset - you mentioned the C word!!!
Hi all
Just finished my second week at work. It's getting easier. Not much planned for the weekend but got a Lakeland lodge booked for a few days in the half term week with my daughter and granddaughter. Looking forward to that.
Keep your heads held high folks xx
Just finished my second week at work. It's getting easier. Not much planned for the weekend but got a Lakeland lodge booked for a few days in the half term week with my daughter and granddaughter. Looking forward to that.
Keep your heads held high folks xx
K4 x
I love winter just chilling in front of the tv x
Hope your doing ok?x
I love winter just chilling in front of the tv x
Hope your doing ok?x
Smile x
I did I know but it won't be long before its here x
Not sure what me & my eldest are doing I don't want my daughter to feel like she has to spend the day with us its her first xmas in her own place xx
I did I know but it won't be long before its here x
Not sure what me & my eldest are doing I don't want my daughter to feel like she has to spend the day with us its her first xmas in her own place xx
Caggie x
Oh that sounds like bliss, enjoy x
Its good to have a new normal routine isn't it x
Oh that sounds like bliss, enjoy x
Its good to have a new normal routine isn't it x
Been a busy week at work (is it just me who doesn't want to say too much in case I can be identified?!).
Very glad to have arrived at the weekend and looking forward to a lie in tomorrow.
@Upset Mum - As much as I love the summer (sandals and summer dresses), I love the cosyness (is that a word?) of autumn/winter. Drawing the curtains and curling up with a glass of wine under a throw watching Strictly. Bliss!
Very glad to have arrived at the weekend and looking forward to a lie in tomorrow.
@Upset Mum - As much as I love the summer (sandals and summer dresses), I love the cosyness (is that a word?) of autumn/winter. Drawing the curtains and curling up with a glass of wine under a throw watching Strictly. Bliss!
Hello friday check in
Thank you Upsetmum and K4. Yes feels loads better thanks. Have had my hair done today. I feel loads better what a cliche, but it has needed doing for ages and i have had loads cut off. I like my hair long normally but decided to have a lot cut off and my head feels lighter. I know it sounds odd, but it has made me feel lighter as well.
working this weekend to make a bit of extra money for the C word. I love the run up to Christmas and the markets but it is costly and money is tight now on one salary. I also need to walk my dogs and do food shopping as OH is not well. So trying not to run myself to the ground. But the dogs have not been out for days due to me working and OH ill. I need to send them to you upset, lol. But it will do me good to get some air as otherwise i will be stuck inside working.
My daughter recognised I was down bless her, so I am going shopping with her for the day next week as i am not in work. Which for her is a big thing as she one does not really like going out and two shopping. But she knows i love shopping. She has even suggested a cinema visit later in the week.
I have to say thank you again to all you lovely ladies on this forum. It is such a shame we cant all meet up in person like a AA group to listen to each other and support in real life. However, the support i received was fantastic and really helped me when i was down. It is really made me appreciate this forum and dread to think what my life would be like it is was not hear. Hope everyone has a good week. X
Thank you Upsetmum and K4. Yes feels loads better thanks. Have had my hair done today. I feel loads better what a cliche, but it has needed doing for ages and i have had loads cut off. I like my hair long normally but decided to have a lot cut off and my head feels lighter. I know it sounds odd, but it has made me feel lighter as well.
working this weekend to make a bit of extra money for the C word. I love the run up to Christmas and the markets but it is costly and money is tight now on one salary. I also need to walk my dogs and do food shopping as OH is not well. So trying not to run myself to the ground. But the dogs have not been out for days due to me working and OH ill. I need to send them to you upset, lol. But it will do me good to get some air as otherwise i will be stuck inside working.
My daughter recognised I was down bless her, so I am going shopping with her for the day next week as i am not in work. Which for her is a big thing as she one does not really like going out and two shopping. But she knows i love shopping. She has even suggested a cinema visit later in the week.
I have to say thank you again to all you lovely ladies on this forum. It is such a shame we cant all meet up in person like a AA group to listen to each other and support in real life. However, the support i received was fantastic and really helped me when i was down. It is really made me appreciate this forum and dread to think what my life would be like it is was not hear. Hope everyone has a good week. X
Webb, I'm pleased to know you are feeling better today.
Upset, such good news about your daughter and I hope she has a lovely weekend.
My good news is that my son has starting applying for jobs which is a huge step forward.
My not so good news is that I'm returning to work next week which is filling me with anxiety. All my colleagues have read about my sons case in the media and have been talking about it in my absence. I'm only working the start of the week though so have booked a couple of days away for later on in the week to give me something to look forward to after facing my return to work.
I'm spending the weekend with my husband son and grandchildren so hopefully that will provide me with a bit of a distraction.
Sending you all good wishes, support and hope.
Upset, such good news about your daughter and I hope she has a lovely weekend.
My good news is that my son has starting applying for jobs which is a huge step forward.
My not so good news is that I'm returning to work next week which is filling me with anxiety. All my colleagues have read about my sons case in the media and have been talking about it in my absence. I'm only working the start of the week though so have booked a couple of days away for later on in the week to give me something to look forward to after facing my return to work.
I'm spending the weekend with my husband son and grandchildren so hopefully that will provide me with a bit of a distraction.
Sending you all good wishes, support and hope.
Runawaygirl x
You should feel here is a space to be able to just be you x no one could identify who you are x
Even though it is an open forum the only people who are aware of this lifeline is us who have been on this journey xx
You should feel here is a space to be able to just be you x no one could identify who you are x
Even though it is an open forum the only people who are aware of this lifeline is us who have been on this journey xx
Ocean when i went back to work I also knew people had been talking about me. But, they were told to stop gossiping by their team leader. When i went into work after being off nearly three months post knock, they just said hello and was i ok? That was it. What i had been dreading never happened. I was going to change my name on the work system so that poeple could not link me with my OH as he has an usual surname and i am the only one with that surname in work which is a huge company. But decided that that would create more questions with the poeple i work with and who dont know! What i am trying to say, it might not be as bad as you think and they might just try and be supportive. People throughout this journey has surprised me. Let us know how you get on on Monday. X
Webb89 x
I need to get a hair cut, the last time it was done was over 2 years ago, I used to colour it but now I don't bother x you can deffinatly send your furbabys my way xx
Sorry your Oh isn't to well x
Arnt we lucky to have amazing daughters they just know dont they x I am just in awe of how incredibly beautiful and kind my daughter is xx
I need to get a hair cut, the last time it was done was over 2 years ago, I used to colour it but now I don't bother x you can deffinatly send your furbabys my way xx
Sorry your Oh isn't to well x
Arnt we lucky to have amazing daughters they just know dont they x I am just in awe of how incredibly beautiful and kind my daughter is xx
Thank you Webb, I'm hoping my experience will be similar to yours. I'll update Monday to let you know how I get on.
Ocean x
That is great news for your son and no matter how hard it is he will get there x
As for you going back, hold your head, breathe, we imagine the worst, but just be the amazing person you are, if anyone does ask just say you need some time, but honestly I don't think they will as people are not that brave, remember how amazing you are xx
That is great news for your son and no matter how hard it is he will get there x
As for you going back, hold your head, breathe, we imagine the worst, but just be the amazing person you are, if anyone does ask just say you need some time, but honestly I don't think they will as people are not that brave, remember how amazing you are xx
Busy week at work which started on Monday with me being on my own in the office, as one of my colleagues phoned in sick, one doesn't work Mondays and my boss was on holiday. Vernon Kay was keeping me company though so not all bad. The week has ended with an horrendous day today. Due to the rain, all the roads round us were getting flooded so decided to send the pupils home early. It was like it is when it snows! Knew I shouldn't have gone in and stayed at home watching films with my daughter instead.
My daughter quit the school play this week. She is in her final year and the part she has been given is worse than what she had last year. The same children are being picked for the good parts and my daughter isn't given a chance to show what she can do. It's a shame as she likes acting.
My other daughter had a big argument with her boyfriend last night and went missing for a few hours. She is living with her boyfriend and his family. I spoke to her today and she seems better x
My daughter quit the school play this week. She is in her final year and the part she has been given is worse than what she had last year. The same children are being picked for the good parts and my daughter isn't given a chance to show what she can do. It's a shame as she likes acting.
My other daughter had a big argument with her boyfriend last night and went missing for a few hours. She is living with her boyfriend and his family. I spoke to her today and she seems better x
Dawn
No matter what happens remember as a mum you are there every step of the way for your girls x
No matter what happens remember as a mum you are there every step of the way for your girls x
Hey lovely ladies,
I love the Friday check in, love hearing how you're all doing and what you're up to.
TFI Friday and half term! I soooo need this! It's been a stressful time. Apart from the obvious, I've also been trying to save my house this week. I'm in arrears and a lot of debt. So Monday and Tuesday I have phone calls to make, to Citizen's Advice and Step Change debt charity.
My eldest daughter has got a new job, believe it or not at the same place my OH has recently started working. I thought she'd never speak to her step dad again at one point but now she'll be working with him! She starts on Monday, more money, and she's insisting on helping out more because, being high functioning ASD, she can't cope with the thought of having to sell the house and move. I feel terrible as a mother right now, as though I'm forcing her to be ok with OH, and now helping out financially.
Besides sorting my finances out, and catching up with a couple of friends (who know nothing about my situation as we're still early days, arrested in July and RUI, extended bail), I plan on doing a whole lot of nothing! I don't do well in autumn/winter, I'm 100% a summer girl, so I'll be on my sofa under a blanket, snuggling my animals and watching movies.
We were supposed to be away this weekend visiting a friend, but we have no money for the fuel to get there, and I'm just so unbelievably exhausted, so we're going to reschedule.
I hope you all have a relaxing, peaceful weekend x
I love the Friday check in, love hearing how you're all doing and what you're up to.
TFI Friday and half term! I soooo need this! It's been a stressful time. Apart from the obvious, I've also been trying to save my house this week. I'm in arrears and a lot of debt. So Monday and Tuesday I have phone calls to make, to Citizen's Advice and Step Change debt charity.
My eldest daughter has got a new job, believe it or not at the same place my OH has recently started working. I thought she'd never speak to her step dad again at one point but now she'll be working with him! She starts on Monday, more money, and she's insisting on helping out more because, being high functioning ASD, she can't cope with the thought of having to sell the house and move. I feel terrible as a mother right now, as though I'm forcing her to be ok with OH, and now helping out financially.
Besides sorting my finances out, and catching up with a couple of friends (who know nothing about my situation as we're still early days, arrested in July and RUI, extended bail), I plan on doing a whole lot of nothing! I don't do well in autumn/winter, I'm 100% a summer girl, so I'll be on my sofa under a blanket, snuggling my animals and watching movies.
We were supposed to be away this weekend visiting a friend, but we have no money for the fuel to get there, and I'm just so unbelievably exhausted, so we're going to reschedule.
I hope you all have a relaxing, peaceful weekend x
Hey lovely ladies,
I love the Friday check in, love hearing how you're all doing and what you're up to.
TFI Friday and half term! I soooo need this! It's been a stressful time. Apart from the obvious, I've also been trying to save my house this week. I'm in arrears and a lot of debt. So Monday and Tuesday I have phone calls to make, to Citizen's Advice and Step Change debt charity.
My eldest daughter has got a new job, believe it or not at the same place my OH has recently started working. I thought she'd never speak to her step dad again at one point but now she'll be working with him! She starts on Monday, more money, and she's insisting on helping out more because, being high functioning ASD, she can't cope with the thought of having to sell the house and move. I feel terrible as a mother right now, as though I'm forcing her to be ok with OH, and now helping out financially.
Besides sorting my finances out, and catching up with a couple of friends (who know nothing about my situation as we're still early days, arrested in July and RUI, extended bail), I plan on doing a whole lot of nothing! I don't do well in autumn/winter, I'm 100% a summer girl, so I'll be on my sofa under a blanket, snuggling my animals and watching movies.
We were supposed to be away this weekend visiting a friend, but we have no money for the fuel to get there, and I'm just so unbelievably exhausted, so we're going to reschedule.
I hope you all have a relaxing, peaceful weekend x
I love the Friday check in, love hearing how you're all doing and what you're up to.
TFI Friday and half term! I soooo need this! It's been a stressful time. Apart from the obvious, I've also been trying to save my house this week. I'm in arrears and a lot of debt. So Monday and Tuesday I have phone calls to make, to Citizen's Advice and Step Change debt charity.
My eldest daughter has got a new job, believe it or not at the same place my OH has recently started working. I thought she'd never speak to her step dad again at one point but now she'll be working with him! She starts on Monday, more money, and she's insisting on helping out more because, being high functioning ASD, she can't cope with the thought of having to sell the house and move. I feel terrible as a mother right now, as though I'm forcing her to be ok with OH, and now helping out financially.
Besides sorting my finances out, and catching up with a couple of friends (who know nothing about my situation as we're still early days, arrested in July and RUI, extended bail), I plan on doing a whole lot of nothing! I don't do well in autumn/winter, I'm 100% a summer girl, so I'll be on my sofa under a blanket, snuggling my animals and watching movies.
We were supposed to be away this weekend visiting a friend, but we have no money for the fuel to get there, and I'm just so unbelievably exhausted, so we're going to reschedule.
I hope you all have a relaxing, peaceful weekend x
After feeling down most of the week to top it off our house was flooded yesterday. We managed to keep the water out till about 9pm last night but then it got in. I just can't deal with this now. Xx
Mandymoo
Sorry to hear about the flooding. Hope you get sorted asap X
K Lulu
Fingers crossed for you getting your finances sorted. It's such a worry on top of everything else going on
I think we're all amazing to be coping with what we are. Xx
Sorry to hear about the flooding. Hope you get sorted asap X
K Lulu
Fingers crossed for you getting your finances sorted. It's such a worry on top of everything else going on
I think we're all amazing to be coping with what we are. Xx
Oh Mandymoo x
I'm so sorry I hope you hav e been able to save your belongings, the amount of floods are just awful , I watched a video earlier from Chesterfield shopping area and my god the flooding is terrible, we have had heavy rain but no where near as bad as other parts of the uk I hope you are ok xx
I'm so sorry I hope you hav e been able to save your belongings, the amount of floods are just awful , I watched a video earlier from Chesterfield shopping area and my god the flooding is terrible, we have had heavy rain but no where near as bad as other parts of the uk I hope you are ok xx
K Lulu x
Such a worry but hopefully you will get the support to sort out your finances x
It's great news about your daughter getting a new job x
Sorry you had to cancel your weekend break but once the financial situation is sorted you will be able to get away, small steps and you will get there x
Try not to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders (easier said than done I know) but you need to take care of yourself also sending hugs and strength xx
Such a worry but hopefully you will get the support to sort out your finances x
It's great news about your daughter getting a new job x
Sorry you had to cancel your weekend break but once the financial situation is sorted you will be able to get away, small steps and you will get there x
Try not to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders (easier said than done I know) but you need to take care of yourself also sending hugs and strength xx
Mandymoo and K_Lulu my thoughts are with you both. Sadly I don't have any practical help for either of you but I wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you both.
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Blue sky x
Aww how horrible for you both, like you said just getting away was a much needed break then having to leave early, this bloomin journey eh x
I hope everything goes ok on Monday xx
Aww how horrible for you both, like you said just getting away was a much needed break then having to leave early, this bloomin journey eh x
I hope everything goes ok on Monday xx
Mandymoo and Klulu my thoughts are with you both xxx
Upset that's great news about your daughter she will have a great time in Budapest.
Webb I'm so pleased you are feeling a bit better-onwards and upwards xx
Taking some time to reset this week as I've been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately not only by the whole situation but also we have a few other issues with elderly relatives.
Have a good weekend everyone and stay safe xx
Upset that's great news about your daughter she will have a great time in Budapest.
Webb I'm so pleased you are feeling a bit better-onwards and upwards xx
Taking some time to reset this week as I've been feeling a bit overwhelmed lately not only by the whole situation but also we have a few other issues with elderly relatives.
Have a good weekend everyone and stay safe xx
Sorry you guys who are having to mop up after storm Babet we had lots of flood warnings in our area/flooded areas on roads but that was it. Was alarming to see the damage it had caused in other parts of the country.
I quite like winter - not so much my early morning car journey to work but it's just an excuse not to do much..... Light a candle, make a brew, fire on (now hubby is due his winter fuel allowance) :-) Then snuggle under a blanket to watch tv.....
Christmas is quite often a sad time for us ladies. My son has been in custody now for a few Christmas's so we're kinda use to it...... a time that's got easier for us. Get fed up of the build up (starts far too early) but it's good to see the family.
Anyway my friends have a good Sunday x
I quite like winter - not so much my early morning car journey to work but it's just an excuse not to do much..... Light a candle, make a brew, fire on (now hubby is due his winter fuel allowance) :-) Then snuggle under a blanket to watch tv.....
Christmas is quite often a sad time for us ladies. My son has been in custody now for a few Christmas's so we're kinda use to it...... a time that's got easier for us. Get fed up of the build up (starts far too early) but it's good to see the family.
Anyway my friends have a good Sunday x
Update on my return to work.
I returned to work today following long term sick leave. I was placed in a shared office a way from the area I work in and where people didn't know my story. This helped me get my anxiety under control but I knew I still needed to face my colleagues. Knowing that if I didn't face them today I would feel just as anxious tomorrow, I took a few deep breaths and walked into the department and said hello. All those I spoke to welcomed me back and there was no mention of my son and the media coverage. I know people know, but the fact that nothing was said and nobody behaved any differently towards me has reassured me that things at work are going to be ok.
It also made me realise that the traumatic journey we are travelling on dominates our thoughts, feelings and emotions, but for those not affected it's just news and gossip which has no real significance to those reading or hearing it.
I returned to work today following long term sick leave. I was placed in a shared office a way from the area I work in and where people didn't know my story. This helped me get my anxiety under control but I knew I still needed to face my colleagues. Knowing that if I didn't face them today I would feel just as anxious tomorrow, I took a few deep breaths and walked into the department and said hello. All those I spoke to welcomed me back and there was no mention of my son and the media coverage. I know people know, but the fact that nothing was said and nobody behaved any differently towards me has reassured me that things at work are going to be ok.
It also made me realise that the traumatic journey we are travelling on dominates our thoughts, feelings and emotions, but for those not affected it's just news and gossip which has no real significance to those reading or hearing it.
Ocean - so pleased it went well for you x
Thank you Ocean for the update. Thats great news, one hurdle accomplished. X
Well done Ocean.........There's a lot of 'overthinking' on this journey.
As I've learnt the anticipation and worry can drive you off the scale but quite often the situations you fret about don't materialise.
As I've learnt the anticipation and worry can drive you off the scale but quite often the situations you fret about don't materialise.
Ocean x
Thank you for your update and I am so pleased to went well x our minds can be our own worst enemy at times bu overthinking xx
Thank you for your update and I am so pleased to went well x our minds can be our own worst enemy at times bu overthinking xx
Hi
im so pleased for your daughter and glad she's managing to cope well enough to come of the antidepressants that's a big step in the right direction.
also sounds like you are looking forward to a peaceful weekend.
im struggling this week but nothing I can't handle, actually with what has happened with ss I probably will fly off the handle eek (I'll try not to). I've not been on for a while which is why this reply is coming mid week, sorry about that.
got a sw visit due tomorrow and a core meeting due the next day so I'm really looking forward to that.....not.
ss in this area like to treat me as a criminal although like all of you I'm completely innocent.
with what they (sw) have done looks like my kids and person will not be getting to communicate until after he gets out of jail. And even then I feel they will make it as difficult as possible. It stinks for my kids as they really miss their dad, but sw well let's say opinionated and biast seems to be her mantra, has now made that impossible. Part of me wants to ask for another sw but last time I did that it took months to have one appointed and drew this whole tabockle out even longer. Fun times.
anyway hope all is well with everyone xx
im so pleased for your daughter and glad she's managing to cope well enough to come of the antidepressants that's a big step in the right direction.
also sounds like you are looking forward to a peaceful weekend.
im struggling this week but nothing I can't handle, actually with what has happened with ss I probably will fly off the handle eek (I'll try not to). I've not been on for a while which is why this reply is coming mid week, sorry about that.
got a sw visit due tomorrow and a core meeting due the next day so I'm really looking forward to that.....not.
ss in this area like to treat me as a criminal although like all of you I'm completely innocent.
with what they (sw) have done looks like my kids and person will not be getting to communicate until after he gets out of jail. And even then I feel they will make it as difficult as possible. It stinks for my kids as they really miss their dad, but sw well let's say opinionated and biast seems to be her mantra, has now made that impossible. Part of me wants to ask for another sw but last time I did that it took months to have one appointed and drew this whole tabockle out even longer. Fun times.
anyway hope all is well with everyone xx