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Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 8:07amReport post

This time next week my partner will be in court for his sentencing and I feel sick with worry. It's been 2 years and nearly 11 months since the knock ( ridiculous how we wait so long). I'm staying with my partner, we've been together over 30 years and I'm terrified if he gets custodial. I will be in the court room with him to show my support and I've written a character reference and he's wrote a letter to the judge. He's had a PSR which recommended a 2 year suspended sentence but obviously I'm thinking the worst. To all the ladies facing court soon I'm sending a big supportive hug

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

142 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 8:19amReport post

Will be thinking of you on Wednesday Louise, it's a really tough time and I know how I will feel when the time eventually comes. The long wait is torture, but at least you will know where you are after Wednesday. I hope it goes as well as can be expected and the media aren't there. I am in a similar situation to you, 25 years together and staying by him. Such a tough journey after a very happy marriage. Sending a big hug.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 8:26amReport post

Thank you love, it's so tough isn't it and like you been together a long time and a very happy relationship with two grown up children ( at least I won't have SS involvement). It's been a very rough and horrible 2 and a half years and I've had lots of tears. I'm a different person now. Full of anxiety and little hope and my biggest fear apart from prison is media reporting, I'm dreading it

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2402 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 9:49amReport post

Louise

I hope it goes as well as it possibly can a d hope its non custodial

I will be thinking of you both, the next several days will be really tough but remember you ha e come this far and will get through it, this is the final part of the horrendous journey but at least you will know what the outcome is no matter how difficult, sending strength and hugs xx

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 10:53amReport post

Louise

Will be thinking of you next week, I been married over 30 years and I also stayed.

I went into court also, unfortunately we made the media, the few weeks that followed was dreadful. But It disappear very quickly. Yes it still on Google, we did try a few months ago to take it down but no luck so far.

We have had no problems thankfully and like you we have grown children. We have lost my family members, but when I look back at my life, they were never properly there before all this.

You got this take care

Sending virtual hugs

Anne

Scaredkitty

Member since
October 2023

9 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 12:25pmReport post

will be thinking of you next week and hoping your OH doesnt get a custodial sentance, sending you hugs

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 12:46pmReport post

Thank you ladies, I joined this forum the day after the knock and I was such a mess. I had a breakdown and was off work for a few months. This forum was a lifeline in those first few weeks, I met some wonderful women who I now know in real life and they are a huge support. This changes you forever and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. The limbo is horrific and your brain goes into overdrive thinking the worst scenarios, I actually can't believe I've made it this far!

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 4:19pmReport post

We will be with you and here whatever the outcome. Sending strength to you all x

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

766 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 6:01pmReport post

I know how difficult and frightening this time will be for you as you hope for the best and plan for the worst. I'll be thinking of you over this next week and hoping for the best possible outcome.

Anxious mummy

Member since
February 2023

99 posts

Posted Mon October 23, 2023 8:17pmReport post

Hi Louise

I am in exactly the same boat as you - sentencing for my OH is on Wed too. Its just hideous waiting and worrying so I really feel your pain x