Social Services forcing us to seperate
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Hello!
I am having horrendous time myself, so I completely understand you, and relate to you about being on the receiving end of huge pressure to seperate.
Don't identify yourself and you'll be fine. Don't let them take this forum from you.
You can reach out privately if you wish but if you outline where you are in the journey, your children's ages, and what your partner is being under investigation for out in here, more women can help.
You can always delete those details later.
I am having horrendous time myself, so I completely understand you, and relate to you about being on the receiving end of huge pressure to seperate.
Don't identify yourself and you'll be fine. Don't let them take this forum from you.
You can reach out privately if you wish but if you outline where you are in the journey, your children's ages, and what your partner is being under investigation for out in here, more women can help.
You can always delete those details later.
Feel free to message me, I'm a social worker.
Btw after a decade working in child protection I'd never heard of this forum although I'd worked with and known about LFF generally
Btw after a decade working in child protection I'd never heard of this forum although I'd worked with and known about LFF generally
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Just please be careful.
My partner moved out, has had no contact with my daughter since then but because ive refused to fully cut him off im in court on monday with an interim care order and they want a full care order and for her to live with her aunt.
My partner moved out, has had no contact with my daughter since then but because ive refused to fully cut him off im in court on monday with an interim care order and they want a full care order and for her to live with her aunt.
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- Make a list of questions in advance of meetings so you don’t forget them.
- Ask for copies of minutes/reports so you have a copy. Also, follow up phone conversations with emails so you have a record of all discussions/decisions.
- Look at our Parent’s Protect website and consider developing a Family Safety Plan to increase knowledge about keeping children safe.
- Comply with any restrictions imposed by Police/Social Services.
- Take a trusted person with you to meetings if you want additional support.
- The CAB have lots of advice here about child protection meetings: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/children-and-young-people/protecting-children/if-theres-a-child-protection-conference-for-your-child/
We are pleased you are reaching out about these issues and that you can continue to gain support and share experiences through private messaging and through these threads.
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We are sorry to hear if anyone feels unable to post in the Family and Friends Forum due to concerns that their posts are being read by others involved with their family.
When this platform was created there were discussions about the pros and cons of a closed/open forum. It was decided that the benefits for individuals being able to read and gain support, without having to register, met the aims of the support we were trying to offer the best.
As advised by Flower, we always recommend that people are very careful about the information they give, to ensure that they are not identifiable. Keeping the nature and stage of the investigation and information about children’s ages (for example ‘teenage children’ or ‘2 children aged between 5-10’) quite general helps to reduce the likelihood of being recognisable.
If you wish, you can manually delete any of your replies or threads at any time. You may decide that after posting something, to only have it up for a short period and then take it down. This could be an active method to enhance your anonymity if you have concerns.
The Stop It Now website has lots of information on it, including a section for professionals, which means it has generally got a wide audience. It does not mean that the Family and Friend Forum is the specific area that a social worker would be interested in. If a social worker were to visit the Family and Friends Forum, there may be benefits to this, to see the indirect victim's experience of the knock and all events surrounding this, to help them better understand the impact of sexual offending on families. We would hope that social workers do not come to the forum to try and identify families they are supporting and that this would be very difficult to do as you all use non-identifiable usernames. However, if anyone has concerns that this has happened then we would suggest seeking advice from a solicitor or the Family Rights Group https://frg.org.uk/.
If you are worried about the involvement of Children’s Services, then please contact our helpline and our experienced advisors can give advice and support about this. Generally, we would encourage people to:
- Engage with Children’s Services as openly as possible
- Make a list of questions in advance of meetings so you don’t forget them.
- Ask for copies of minutes/reports so you have a copy. Also, follow up phone conversations with emails so you have a record of all discussions/decisions.
- Look at our Parent’s Protect website and consider developing a Family Safety Plan to increase knowledge about keeping children safe.
- Comply with any restrictions imposed by Police/Social Services.
- Take a trusted person with you to meetings if you want additional support.
- The CAB have lots of advice here about child protection meetings: https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/children-and-young-people/protecting-children/if-theres-a-child-protection-conference-for-your-child/
We are pleased you are reaching out about these issues and that you can continue to gain support and share experiences through private messaging and through these threads.
Take care and please do call the helpline if you would like further support on this topic.
Kind Regards
The Forum Team