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Bewildered mum

Member since
March 2023

5 posts

Posted Fri October 27, 2023 8:43amReport post

Hello

We had the knock on 1st March and the OIC has been keeping me updated on progress via email and phone. She is very helpful and respectful to me.

We were told there was one IP PING on one day that led to the knock on the door.

They seized 6 devices ( one was not put in an evidence bag).

I received an email yesterday and the OIC said some of the devices have finally come back from the forensic team 'for grading', which she says is good news.

She says she has started work on the devices now but it will take a while as there are a lot of images and videos to grade.

I live with my husband and son (who is on the autistic spectrum).

My question is, before I reply to her asking for more info, why does she say it's good news, but then talk about grading? I thought the forensic team used special software to determine illegal content so why does she have to look through thousands of images?

My head is going to explode, I can't cope with much more of this

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Fri October 27, 2023 10:35amReport post

Hello Bewildered Mum

I dont necessarily have the answer to the grading question but felt the need to reply to your post. From my understanding the images they find have to be graded accordinging to the severity and each image will be placed into category A,B or C. I do believe this stage of the process is done manually and is one of the reasons why this journey takes so long.

The comment 'its good news' is a difficult one to know what the officer meant by that. Maybe she meant that you are moving along in this journey as the next stage of grading images was starting. You will not know what she meant until you ask her.

You feeling like your head is going to explode is not uncommon when out of the blue you hear that another stage is about to start. With each new step in this process all your emotions and thoughts tend to all resurface and are very overwhelming.

Have you spoken with the helpline at all so that they can help you, your husband and son navigate this journey and support you? I hope you are getting support in some way.

I would just like to say be wary of the police even if they seen nice and respectful. You may see a complete change in their behaviour and how they behave towards you once a decision has been made to charge or not. Many people of this forum will say the same about being wary of them - at the end of the day they want to secure a convinction.

I hope this helps you in some way

Take care and thinking of you

Edited Fri October 27, 2023 10:43am

K4

Member since
October 2022

612 posts

Posted Fri October 27, 2023 2:56pmReport post

In my experience, anything that the OIC described as "good news" meant it was good news for the police. Or that they expected to be congratulated for doing their job.



As the previous poster said, be wary of them.



good luck xx

Babyblue22

Member since
September 2023

16 posts

Posted Fri October 27, 2023 8:47pmReport post

I will echo what a lot of other say on this forum. Best not to trust what the police say. In some circumstances it seems they almost get satisfaction from tormenting the loved ones of the person involved with innocuous statements.

All they are interested in are a conviction. A great example is one lady in this forum who's person had a lot of their charges dropped, showing the willingness to deceive for the sake of that conviction. A horrible situation for all of us to be in that police are like this but you're inba place of like minded people here so try and keep the chin up

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 7:21amReport post

We're nearly a year past sentencing and the one thing we was told do not contact the police they can use anything against you including you responding to them. They all play nice but use everything you say to incriminate your person more. Everything should go through a solicitor

Bewildered mum

Member since
March 2023

5 posts

Posted Wed November 1, 2023 5:38pmReport post

Thank you all for your replies, I'm a very trusting person by nature so it really is against my nature not to trust someone like a police officer! But I will take your advice and be more restrained in the future. We have been told that we might have the results in a couple of weeks, which will bring the time to almost 10 months from the initial knock and i can honestly say that I don't quite know how I've survived this long without having a breakdown, it's horrendous isn't it

Alison20

Member since
March 2021

363 posts

Posted Wed November 1, 2023 6:00pmReport post

Hi Bewildered Mum

I completely understand that you have a trusting nature especially if it is the police. I was like this too, but it is this process that has taught me to think otherwise. The person in our family who ended up being charged and convicted was a youth (under 18) and vulnerable due to his neuroodiversity. As a family we had never been in trouble with the police at all so this was a complete shock and we did trust the police. Our young family member now has a criminal record and I was completely shocked and saddened at how our young person overall was treated by the police and the system. The police are only interested in getting a convinction based on my experience.



Do you feel prepared for the next stage if the results are maybe back in a few weeks. Once the police have their evidence and if a decision to charge is made, things can move pretty quickly. Have you a solicitor in place ?

I felt better myself by trying to be prepared as much as possible for the next stage of the process.

I am thinking of you.