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scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 7:31amReport post

Hi everyone

I haven't been on here lately I don't feel like I need to be as much as I used to which is great for my mental health. I can see loads of new people having joined but I just wanted to say hello and hopefully abit of advice.

We're neaarly a year past sentencing already ( it's gone so quickly) we have our family back together, unsupervised contact, we all live under the same roof and me and my husband are stronger than either. To all the newbies it does get easier please take time to sit back and watch what's going on around you, only you can see if your person is lying to you or not don't take everything ss say as evidence and be careful how many people you tell.

Every lovely person on here as unknown strength to get through this horrible journey 2 years ago I was a complete mess and now my life is a new kind of normal with no restrictions and I'm actually happy again.

Please don't forget you in all this madness around you

Big hugs xxx

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 7:57amReport post

This is amazing to read. I will try to find your precious posts to see how you achieved this as it's certainly where I'd like to get to in the next year!

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 8:35amReport post

Thank you for sharing, it's such a positive thing to hear xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 8:36amReport post

Scared - posts like yours are surely so welcome and really give out positivity which is what we need during this horrible journey.

thanks for posting.

Edited Sat October 28, 2023 8:37am

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 8:51amReport post

Such a positive post. Thank you for that xx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 9:11amReport post

A big thank you from me too. I KNOW deep down that this will be us one day but sometimes that knowing gets hidden by events and emotions.

XX

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2402 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 9:11amReport post

Scared x

Such a wonderful update that will give hope to so many x thank you for sharing x

Whishing you and your family lots of happiness x

Lonely & Bewildered

Member since
October 2023

53 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 9:17amReport post

This has given me so much hope.

The last couple of days have been extremely hard but this has given me a lift.

Thank you for sharing xx

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

295 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 11:08amReport post

That update has given so much hope for the ones still on this journey. Thank you and I wish you all the best for the future xx

Prudence

Member since
October 2023

16 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 1:54pmReport post

Hiya peeps, I'm a newbie to this site and it is lovely to read a positive vibe and so pleased you are all in a better place (new normal). There is light at the end of every tunnel and that is what I focus on. It will take as long as it takes to get there and no doubt it will be a roller coaster ride. But, this site is full of so much love and support from such lovely people sharing their thoughts, journeys and outcomes. Best wishes to you all. X

Kt

Member since
January 2023

180 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 4:46pmReport post

Fantastic post, it's so helpful to read positive stories...thank you for posting xx

Pippin

Member since
May 2023

44 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 4:49pmReport post

Thank you for sharing, to have my family reunited is something that seems completely out of reach. I am glad you have achieved this for your family and you are moving forwards x

Jkd

Member since
October 2023

25 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 7:34pmReport post

We all have just started this awful journey so very difficult to say what the future holds as his OH has filed for divorce.A shame two people won't be around for family gatherings .Only time will tell for each individual but hopefully we will have a life albeit not the same.

LDELost

Member since
October 2023

16 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 8:15pmReport post

I'm new to this and would love to think that our family could go back to 'normal' but with friends that know what happened and family know, I'm not sure if they would ever accept us as a family again and we would have to move and start again, losing close friends and family.

Louise74

Member since
June 2023

45 posts

Posted Sat October 28, 2023 9:11pmReport post

That's so lovely and so important for others to see. I'm also in the same position, and like many on here I believed I'd never know real happiness or peace again. I'm so pleased to say that life is good for me, my person and my children. It's so important for anyone at the start or the middle of their journey to know that one day it will be over and they will be able to look back and be so proud of how they came through it. I for one am a better person for it and am so grateful for the little things, though I still wouldn't wish the experience on my worst enemy. I do know now that there's nothing that life can throw at me that I can't handle, I've been through the worst and survived and came back even stronger and each and every person on here will be the same xx

scaredandconfused

Member since
June 2021

437 posts

Posted Sun October 29, 2023 7:03amReport post

Thankyou everyone I hope it's helped some of you to see wherever you are on this journey your not alone we all have your back on here and it will all come to a end xx

SH9231

Member since
August 2023

52 posts

Posted Mon October 30, 2023 9:58amReport post

Thank you Scared for starting this thread. When I first came on the forum I was looking for this very post, a crystal ball of sorts to tell me that things would be OK. 4 years on since the knock, 2 years from sentencing/media exposure things are OK. We still live in the same house and we are still together.

Louise I completely echo all your sentiments. I too feel that I can now deal with whatever life throws my way.

To all those starting or part way through this just know that we are here for you, just reach out. We don't judge, we understand and want to help you x