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Silver10

Member since
November 2023

2 posts

Posted Thu November 9, 2023 11:07amReport post

I am still absolutely devastated and broken. I currently have so many questions, emotions, feelings and thoughts.
Only last week, my fiancé was arrested for indecent communication and shared images with a minor.
Can anyone provide any words or advice how they dealt with the initial shock, I feel like I'm an only one here. I obviously still love him but have to hate him for what he's done and consider how I move on with my life.

Pippin

Member since
May 2023

44 posts

Posted Thu November 9, 2023 11:58amReport post

Hi,

I'm sorry you find yourself here, it really is horrendous. I'm not sure I have any words of wisdom, as a year down the line I still feel the way you describe. It does get better and it does get easier.

Do you have anyone to support you? My parents have been amazing, I wouldn't have survived without them. I realise not everyone is as lucky in this respect.

I felt as if my only option was to run away literally, and move across the country. This really wouldn't have been great for me or my kids, and I'm glad I didn't do that. I think I'm trying to say you don't need to make rushed decisions. Reading the LLF website to help understand how/why people offend has helped, although with hindsight I may not have been ready for so much information which has contributed to me catastrophising the situation. But all situations are different and it can take a long time for this process to be concluded.

Take care of yourself best you can, sending hugs x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2550 posts

Posted Thu November 9, 2023 12:30pmReport post

You certainly are not on your own Silver, we on this wonderful forum are with you. Sending you a hug......

Edited Thu November 9, 2023 12:30pm

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Thu November 9, 2023 12:58pmReport post

I have found the support on here amazing. You will be in shock and won't know where to turn but there are people out there who can help. I have an amazing sister and my friend has been just so supportive as well as my work. I'm almost two months in and things are getting easier but still riding a roller coaster of emotions. Sending you hugs x

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Thu November 9, 2023 4:52pmReport post

My parents and brother were amazing and then I told 2 friends. I then went to counselling myself as I needed an outlet.



I only called the help line 1 month ago, (10 months after) but I honestly wish I had done it sooner. Give them a call, they're empathic, supportive and understanding. I know its had, but its the best call you will make.



Sending love xx