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Hi,

Sorry to hear you're just at the start of this journey. Your friend might just be struggling to come to terms with what she has found out. You've been honest and open so it may be she will eventually come back to you with some questions. Everyone reacts differently to this situation.

My OH and I were really good friends with another couple and he was at their house the day before he went to court. They couldn't believe when it came out that he hadn't said anything and cut him off completely. They were hurt that he hadn't confided in them. Others have stuck by us and still come round to visit and treat us no different.

Everyone reacts differently and for now you need to focus on yourself as this is a long journey and you need your emotional strength for it.

You may not have lost her, sometimes it takes a while for things to sink in. Just give her a bit of time. We are all here for you if you need us xx

I am so sorry you are feeling like this. It is just so difficult when dealing with the worst things in your life to then have this done to you as well. After a week after the knock my OH was still on remand, i have not talked to him or seen him, only in court, at this stage so i was still in the mindset it must be a horrible mistake. They dumped me, a friend of 34 years. I have been present when both her children were born, i fed them and looked after her children while she was a single mum struggling. I was there was she got divorced and had horrible relationships. Yet the one time i needed her she was not there for me. My councillor said she was never a friend, but this did not help. I believe i have mourned her friendship as much as my past life. But, it has been a hard road, but it does get easier. You learn to appreciate the people who stand by you. It takes a while, but you will get there.

Hi Feeling Sad. I pass on my sympathy - it's horrible but like the girls say as time passes she could reflect and passing time does change minds.

I can honestly say if this happened to a close friend of mine, I personally would support her all the way, but I am on the other side of the fence now.

We've said so many times sadly you only realise the upheaval of this journey when you go through it yourself.

Look after yourself and a Smile hug sent x

Lonely x

You will find the strength to get through this and as the other lovely ladies have said your friend just needs time to reflect and hopefully she will be there for you

We unfortunately have no control as to how others react but the most important thing is to need to look after yourself first

We are here for you x

Huge hugs sent xx

Lonely, I'm not surprised that you're feeling sad. You're going through a traumatic life changing experience and just when you need your close friend you find she's distanced herself from you. I really struggle to understand why people behave in this way but maybe as others have said, your friend just needs time to process things.
In my experience, grieving for a lost friend takes time. I still have dreams that my lost friend is back in my life and whilst I still feel sad about the lost friendship it has certainly got easier over time.
For now you need to take care of yourself. This journey is a long one but we are all here to walk it with you.