How can I ever trust again?
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After everything has been going so well, I've been hit with an apsolute bombshell, it feels typical really, that nothing good can happen without something seriously bad happen in return in my life and I just can't take it anymore.
It's been nearly a year since the knock and dispite how I've felt I've stuck by my OH, we've fought, argued & made up, but I wanted to believe what he was telling me was the truth. I could have looked past and learn to forgive and forget but I just don't know now. My OH had his 2nd interview and he never told me much about it saying his head was a mess and was upset about it- I get that, but I still wanted to believe. So then I had a visit from my SW and had basicly told me that my OH has been lying and it's very serious.
I don't feel like I can trust anyone at this point, I don't trust SS because of the way i've been treated/spoken to and now I can't trust my OH.
In this day and age I will NEVER be able to support myself alone, I have my family sure, but they won't be around forever and with all this and the experience I've faced I could ever find another partner. If this could happen with a man I've been with since school, it could, and knowing my luck, will happen again. I just feel like such an idiot, that I've been fooled for I don't even know how long for, my mental health was getting so much better and now it's crashed right back down again, I don't want to do anything, I don't want to eat, sleep or anything that used to make me happy, but I have to press on for my child, but it's just so hard now I don't know what to do anymore.
It's been nearly a year since the knock and dispite how I've felt I've stuck by my OH, we've fought, argued & made up, but I wanted to believe what he was telling me was the truth. I could have looked past and learn to forgive and forget but I just don't know now. My OH had his 2nd interview and he never told me much about it saying his head was a mess and was upset about it- I get that, but I still wanted to believe. So then I had a visit from my SW and had basicly told me that my OH has been lying and it's very serious.
I don't feel like I can trust anyone at this point, I don't trust SS because of the way i've been treated/spoken to and now I can't trust my OH.
In this day and age I will NEVER be able to support myself alone, I have my family sure, but they won't be around forever and with all this and the experience I've faced I could ever find another partner. If this could happen with a man I've been with since school, it could, and knowing my luck, will happen again. I just feel like such an idiot, that I've been fooled for I don't even know how long for, my mental health was getting so much better and now it's crashed right back down again, I don't want to do anything, I don't want to eat, sleep or anything that used to make me happy, but I have to press on for my child, but it's just so hard now I don't know what to do anymore.
Trying x
So so sorry I cannot imagine the hurt you must be feeling, I dont have any experience with SW but there are lots of lovely people here who do and I am sure they will reply to your post , I dont know how it works with them having the information from your OH 2nd Interview
Could your OH speak to his solicitor to give you full disclosure on what other evidence has been found, I had permission from my son to engage with his solicitor x
Have you got anyone you can speak with maybe your GP or give the helpline a call they really do listen
Try not to put more pressure on yourself about finances, meeting someone else, once you know what you need to do you will get through it even though it feels like you wont , not a lot of advise but I wanted to let you know we are here for you xx
So so sorry I cannot imagine the hurt you must be feeling, I dont have any experience with SW but there are lots of lovely people here who do and I am sure they will reply to your post , I dont know how it works with them having the information from your OH 2nd Interview
Could your OH speak to his solicitor to give you full disclosure on what other evidence has been found, I had permission from my son to engage with his solicitor x
Have you got anyone you can speak with maybe your GP or give the helpline a call they really do listen
Try not to put more pressure on yourself about finances, meeting someone else, once you know what you need to do you will get through it even though it feels like you wont , not a lot of advise but I wanted to let you know we are here for you xx