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My OH mother is in a care home, and they are not aware of his conviction. She wants us to go to the care home xmas party where family members can attend. OH PO has said if he wanted to go a risk assessment would need to be done. So basically he cannot go even though we have no idea if children will be there. Does this mean he cannot attend any club parties? We go dancing but have not been since the knock due to his health, but does this mean he is not allowed? They are holding a xmas party that we were going to go to, but now usure if he can. This is jsut another thing.
Does anyone have advice? I realise that it is the PO who has the last say but just need to try and obtain a perspective of this. He was going to come with me to my furbabies training class party but presume he cant do that either.
Does anyone have advice? I realise that it is the PO who has the last say but just need to try and obtain a perspective of this. He was going to come with me to my furbabies training class party but presume he cant do that either.
The first thing to check is does he have an SHPO and what does it say? Some say no contact with under 18s, but others do not.
If it's a no contact one then he has to be very careful about where he goes, because he could accidentaly be in breach of the SHPO.
But if the SHPO doesn't say no contact, then my advice is to go to things like parties and don't mention to the police or PO, where he has been. That is only required if he stays overnight at an address where there is a child.
The problem you are going to have, with telling the police/PO in advance about parties etc, is that it will trigger their 'just in case' response. They will immediately start to see risks everywhere and they might insist that you disclose his conviction to everyone at the party.
This might feel as if you are being dishonest, but if his SHPO does not say no contact, then they cannot stop him from going to parties. They can however disclose his conviction to anybody they feel like disclosing to and that can cause a lot of problems, because they often misuse that power and disclose when its not actually necessary.
If it's a no contact one then he has to be very careful about where he goes, because he could accidentaly be in breach of the SHPO.
But if the SHPO doesn't say no contact, then my advice is to go to things like parties and don't mention to the police or PO, where he has been. That is only required if he stays overnight at an address where there is a child.
The problem you are going to have, with telling the police/PO in advance about parties etc, is that it will trigger their 'just in case' response. They will immediately start to see risks everywhere and they might insist that you disclose his conviction to everyone at the party.
This might feel as if you are being dishonest, but if his SHPO does not say no contact, then they cannot stop him from going to parties. They can however disclose his conviction to anybody they feel like disclosing to and that can cause a lot of problems, because they often misuse that power and disclose when its not actually necessary.
I agree with edel that is will depend on the SHPO. My son's restrictions state no unsupervised contact with under18's. We take this to mean that as long as he is being supervised by someone who understands the restriction and reason for it (usually myself, my OH or my daughter) then he can go to events where there may be under 18's.
Thank you both. He has got restrictions on his SHPO even though his was an online offence. He was arreated and sentenced in three weeks so did not have time to realise it should not have the restrictions on it. So here we are. So we are unsure if he can go to a club like dancing or dog training where it is just adults. But of course there is nothing stopping people who wish to bring their children to a class. The PO is being vague so unsure he can join a club. It is just a mindfield.