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Hi,

Try not to read it. Definitely don't read the comments. Remember that you haven't done anything wrong and hold your head high. If people are supportive they will behave normally with you or reach out and offer support without asking questions. You may lose friends but it doesn't hurt as much as time goes on. Love and strength xxx

I took myself off social media before my son attended court. That meant I didn't see the online reports and the comments that accompanied them. As a family we hid away for a couple of days but both my OH and I received personal messages of support. It's not easy but very quickly became old news. My son still struggles to go to places where he is likely to see someone he knows but is gradually taking small steps in the right direction with this. I no longer worry. I make sure I treat people in exactly the way I did before it came out and I find people respond in the way they always have done back to me.

K4 x

Try not to read the media reports and believe me you will get through it, as these other lovely ladies have said it will be old news tomorrow x

I also took myself off social media. I will be honest and hide from the world for a while. But slowly started going out and it got easier. I then made the mistake of looking the things up that i knew family members had read as they told me what was put up. My advice, dont read the things printed. It messed me up. But i was surpised by the number of people who did not see it and like others have said it is old news really quickly.

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Morning K4 - Firstly the printed stuff will be shocking. They print the details but make it into a drama peppered with labels and it hurts like hell if I'm honest. 'Try' not to read comments, hard but the temptation is there.

Get yourself off any social media - I never rejoined Fb. Turn the radio off! Become a hermit for a couple of days.

It was a bad experience to feel what you've been going through is general knowledge and out there for the gossips and perhaps troublemakers.

We had no repercussions but lots of support. It soon becomes old news, things move on - and it's quickly forgot.

you will get through this stage, honest .

My oh went into a local ish newspaper online but didn't seem to make Facebook nobody as mentioned it. I checked the other day and nothing else as been put up since it's horrible to read it went up about a week later my heart sank I was scared to go out of anyone finding out but as of yet nothing so fingers crossed for you xx

Please remember a lot of cases don't get reported. Xx

Hi!



My partner was in the papers twice along with his picture taken outside the court and one taken off his social media account even though he deactivated his social media accounts a couple of weeks before his first court hearing.



The reporters unfortunately are very sneaky and do their "homework", so if you haven't already - please deactivate yours and your person's social media accounts that have his photos there.



We stayed at home for the first couple of days - made sure we had all the shopping done etc. the only time I left the house was to take my son to school and to pick him up in my car. We made sure we were keeping busy with housework etc.



I then slowly started getting out and I must admit it felt really strange and scary.



My advice: don't read the article/comments - you know the truth and there's absolutely no benefit in reading a sensationalised story.
Remember that after a couple of days there's going to be another "Breaking News" story and yours will be forgotten about before you know it.



Hold on my lovely!

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Hey K4!



My son was absolutely fine at school. I had to tell him about the article because I didn't want him to be caught off guardin case someone would say something to him, but nothing happened.



I phoned his guidance teacher and informed about the article and asked to keep and eye on my son. The school was fantastic. Very supportive, but discreet at the same time. They didn't make it obvious that they are paying a little bit more attention to him than usual.
Don't get me wrong - I was absolutely mortified having to phone them, but I'm so glad I did!



You are more than welcome to send me a private message if you have any questions and I will try my very best to help! X

We are a year on for my husband's sentencing. It hit the local paper and I immediately deactivated my social media accounts. My husband has never has never been on social media other than LinkedIn. He had deactivated it a prior to going to court.

It was awful but not as bad as I thought. All of my friends have been nothing but supportive. My son who was only 17 was devastated and that for me was the worst part.

The neighbours haven't spoken to me and to be honest it bothered me at first but not any more. One of 2 people read it and actually asked me about it. I think more of them than the others who read it and made their minds up.

As I said we are a year on and looking to move house and away from the immediate area. I was also going to write to the paper to ask them to remove the article, not sure they will but worth a try.

This time last year I was in an awful place emotionally but a year on and I feel much better. Yes our circle of friends may be smaller but we have family who know the truth and have been solid support.



Cornish Tea xx