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Ocean

Member since
September 2023

766 posts

Posted Wed November 22, 2023 6:23pmReport post

I am currently going through a very difficult time at work. Whilst I was off sick concerns were raised which I may or may not have known about but because I don't yet know what the concerns are (I'll find out next week) I don't know if I was involved or not. Today I was told I needed to move out of the nice safe office I've been in and into a large crowded busy shared office. This was just the final straw and I sat at my desk and cried. It's the first time I've cried since the early days of my sons journey so was probably well over due.
There is no real purpose for my post and I'm not asking for any help but just wanted to share the fact our resilience can take a long time to rebuild.

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1000 posts

Posted Wed November 22, 2023 8:01pmReport post

I'm so sorry you're having a hard time at work. Hopefully they will be resolved quickly. Something that I've discovered about myself in this journey is that I bounce back pretty fast now. If you are able to separate work or any other situation that isn't knock related from your feelings around the knock and tackle them as singular issues this can help massively.
I know that it's easier said than done, I've sat and sobbed over a blocked toilet and the fact that my last bit of milk had gone off but once you've mastered it you will see a huge change in yourself. Love and strength xxx

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Wed November 22, 2023 9:28pmReport post

oh Ocean, I'm so sorry and the fact they're making you wait, what a trigger. Waiting can be terrible anyway, let alone when you have had to wait around for months/years after the knock. I really hope its resolved quickly for you.

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Wed November 22, 2023 9:34pmReport post

So sorry you feel this way ocean. Hopefully things will be sorted out quickly for you.

Better to get things off your chest on here than be thinking about them x

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Wed November 22, 2023 10:22pmReport post

I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time at work. I too have had problems at work on this journey that have significantly removed stability and safety of my work place. Because of the impact I don't feel I handled it as well as I may have done. I've found my capacity to deal with most things has reduced, but focusing and prioritising what is needed that day or that week has helped me and talking to a select few supportive people has helped me rationalise things.

Be kind to yourself. This is a horrendous journey in itself, without the other complications that life brings but also don't stop just because of The Knock.