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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 4:33pmReport post

Evening lovlies x

I hope you are all keeping ok under the circumstances x

Smile so bloomin proud of our boy :-) x

I for one am glad my working week has come to an end what a week , just picked up the furbaby as she is having a sleep over with me this weekend, she is snuggled up with her favourite cushions and blanket all warm and snugly, it is so cold out ,

My daughter and her boyfriend are out with friends this weekend no doubt lots of drinks will be flowing

Spoke to my son last night he is doing ok and is ahead of his course work for his degree, I have a visit next wk on my own poor sod has me to put up with for 2 hrs lol but he will probably spend most of our time together eating some nice things

I hope WeeWitch is bearing up x

I hope whatever you do this weekend it brings you all some happiness

Love sent as always xx

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 4:57pmReport post

Hey everyone.

Hope you are all doing ok?

Yes Smiles son how amazing and to yours too, doing a degree!!



For me this week I have taken time to myself after the court case, I didn't realise how much this year had taken out of me until it was over. Son had his first probation today, it was a group induction, but he said it went well.

I spoke to his VISOR through email too and she seems lovely, we are going to work together with her to help him through. Watching the Met was a trigger, but I couldn't stop watching and I got some knowledge on it too.

My son has just gone on a date, its so lovely but leaves a cloud too. Lots of "What if someones trying to catch him out etc" going through my head. She's 18 (his 19) and they have been talking for 2 months but it still feels me with dread, but he does have to live his life with restictions so I have to give him freedom too.



I feel like this week I have the feeling of dread that maybe I should of had for the last year, but hide so well so I need to work on that.



Wishing you all a peiceful weekend

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 5:20pmReport post

Not a bad week overall. Looking forward to a hopefully restful weekend - I'm tired!

Just had a nice glass of Baileys and it's only 5.20pm - I know how to live life on the edge!

thinking about you all x

Edited Fri November 24, 2023 5:21pm

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 5:43pmReport post

Smile x

Lol easy on the alcohol :-) I haven't had a baileys in years now I want one x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 5:54pmReport post

Just x

That is exactly what you need to do this journey really does impact us more than we think

So pleased you have a good Visor its exactly what your son needs support

A date as much as we worry about the what ifs we have to let them try to rebuild and if it dosent end up as a relationship having a friend is also really good x

Yes my son has been doing his degree over the last year, it gives him something to focus on and he is doing really well with it , x

Flower

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February 2023

104 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:09pmReport post

Hey all!

Glad to see everyone is doing well, and I hope WeeWitch is holding up too.

Really pleased to read about the younger ones studying further and not letting what they did define them for the rest of their lives. I wave my virtual cheerleading pom-poms in the air for them!

Lots happened this week. I settled into routine of scented candles and cosy night ins, with Christmas around the corner, just about starting to decide what to buy for who.

Had a blazing row with my new social worker who labelled my husband danger to children and accused me of choosing to stay with him OVER my child. She backed down from that comment but still said if it was her she would leave him as part of her apology. I could write a book about how unprofessional and inappropriate she was but she is not spending her Friday writing about me so I'll stop myself there.

As now I'm in second trimester there are lots of changes through my body, some nice like bigger fuller boobs, and some not so nice like blue spider veins. My energy levels are picking back up again and a bump is peaking its head. I'm missing the glass of red particularly on Fridays. And exceptionally jealous of the glass of baileys Smile through tears had!!

Determined to enjoy the enjoyable parts of pregnancy, and looking forward to January sales to set up a nursery, started bookmarking things I want to buy once on sale.

Edited Fri November 24, 2023 6:20pm

Webb89

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July 2022

438 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:13pmReport post

Hello friday check in.

Had fun last weekend going to a Xmas fair with a friend. It was a lovely couple of hours. Only had a few days in work so that was also nice. Quite nervous at the moment. Seeing friends that I have only just re connected with. They know the whole family but not what has gone on with OH. I just pray they dont know, or know and dont ask me questions. I hate that this is part of my life now. I will post later and let you all know how i get on. I usually shy away from social events but now feeling I have to live.



Working this weekend, but planning on a nice walk Sunday.



Glad you got your furbaby Upset and such good news about your son Smile. Have a nice weekend everyone. X

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:37pmReport post

Today is a day of incredibly powerful emotions for me. I had to say goodbye to our 16 year old dog; my heart aches & the loss is painfully raw. Being alone in this really hit home. I shouldn't have had to face this on my own. Our daughter said he was the last thing that made her feel safe; her father being the other.

Edited Fri November 24, 2023 6:38pm

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:43pmReport post

Flower x

Scented candles bliss x so pleased you are doing ok, I dont have experience with social workers but so pleased you were able to put your point across,

This journey dosent define who our loved ones are , no one can understand unless you wear our shoes and walk this journey, I am incredibly proud of how far my son has come at some point I could imagine the same situation as wewitch and I think that is something we all share and why her journey has effected us all so I am grateful for every day

Aww so the hiccups and movements stage x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:48pmReport post

Webb89 x

Glad your doing ok x you have a really busy lifestyle in a beautiful place x

Have a great time and to be honest try to put those thoughts to the back of.your mind as hard as it is if they say anything it's only because they care about you xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 6:54pmReport post

Life x

So so so sorry, I can imagine how sad it has been x 16 years of unconditional love, they really do bring so much love don't they , my furbaby be 14 next month she has just started to go deaf in one ear, my son misses her so much so he looks forward to our video calls to see her x

Sending lots of hugs xx

Anne20

Member since
March 2021

141 posts

Posted Fri November 24, 2023 7:32pmReport post

Hi all

I finally caught up with my brother from another Dad after a few years, lots of cuddles and just chatted about silly things. I was so relieved after losing my other siblings to the world of hatred. I wasn't sure how it was going to go. My OH wasn't with me and he didn't ask about him, but I was just happy he spoke to me.

I also bought all my Christmas presents so another job ticked.

I love Baileys, I try making one of those drinks where you put it in chocolate, never again it fell out at the bottom. So I just stick to a glass and ice

Have a lovely week

Anne x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Fri November 24, 2023 7:51pmReport post

Anne x

How lovely so glad it was a meeting of laughter and love, I lost my beautiful brother to suicide there was only 10 months 3 wks apart and I miss him terribly every day x

I still have a few bits to do so well done on getting yours done x

Edited Fri November 24, 2023 7:52pm

Smile through tears

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September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Sat November 25, 2023 7:38amReport post

We wake up to a chilly morning ladies - whatever is in store for you today, wrap up and keep warm......

hugs to all my friends xxxxx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Sat November 25, 2023 9:35amReport post

Hug accepted Smile!

Big change afoot for us this week. Youngest child arrived from overseas for a visit which is lovely. Her partner arrives next week for a 'meet the family' visit and pre-Christmas celebrations. However this has coincided with big acceleration in our son's family situation (not the police investigation) so we're having to navigate that whilst also enjoying our family times. Also my OH and I had to have a medical last week, and to my surprise and horror my BP was very high (it's always been on the low side) so I'm monitoring it at home for the week and have to then speak to my GP about further treatment. Of course I'm pleased that it was discovered and it's another wake-up call about my stress levels affecting my health so I've decided it's time to ask the GP for some meds for my mental health.....

Lovely day in London with my daughter last week when we saw a musical and we go back next week to see 'Cabaret' - the theatre is like a 1930's Berlin nightclub and very interactive with the cast. We're seeing Jake Shears from Scissor Sisters as the MC - I saw it last year when it opened and Eddie Redmayne was the MC then. So that will be a positive highlight in a fairly stressful week.

Hope everyone is coping - big hugs xx

Edited Sat November 25, 2023 9:35am

Caggie164

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October 2023

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 12:23pmReport post

Hello everyone

Lovely to read what your week has been like and plans for the weekend.

I'm going to a Christmas market today with daughter/son in law and granddaughter. Her first Christmas :)

Also OH has finally phoned his mum. He hasn't been in touch since all this started (9 weeks) and she was desperate to speak to him but he just felt too ashamed and embarrassed. It wasn't as bad as he thought he said. I was so happy I cried tears of joy.

Enjoy the weekend. Cold but sunny here x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 12:41pmReport post

Rainyday x

So glad your daughter is home no matter what challenges you have you will navigate through them and have a lovely time enjoying the family time together x



Sorry to hear your BP is high not surprising what you have been dealing with but as you are now aware your health needs to be at the forefront , sending hugs xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 12:44pmReport post

Caggie x

Oh enjoy the Christmas market with you family and hope.you treat yoyrse5to a mulled wine:-)

It's good your OH has spoken to his mum and it must have felt somewhat good to have opened up no matter how difficult the conversation was x

The sun is out but it is really cold x

Ocean

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September 2023

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 4:06pmReport post

Not a good week for me this week. Although my anxiety is never far away I had thought I was living with it quite well. Unfortunately work issues have hit me hard and I am really struggling with anxiety and feelings of dread. The positive thing is that I've been able to recognise the deterioration in my mental health and have referred myself back into Talking therapies and have an assessment next week.



On a positive note, my son is actually enjoying his community hours and is getting on well with his PO. He hasn't yet been successful in finding a job but hopefully something will come along soon.

Life, I'm so sorry to read that you had to say goodbye to your dog. My heart goes out to you.

Just, I know what you mean about the feeling of dread. I felt exactly the same after sentencing. Hopefully next week you'll feel a little more relaxed.

I hope all you doing Christmas activities this weekend enjoy themselves and to those who just want to hide away, I know how you feel and send you love and hugs.

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat November 25, 2023 4:33pmReport post

Ocean x

Sorry your struggling but it is great that you have gotten some well needed support, x

It's good to hear your son is doing ok and that he has a good PO it really does make a difference

Sending hugs and strength to you xx

Dawn19

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June 2023

149 posts

Posted Sat November 25, 2023 4:42pmReport post

Not a bad week, but we did get a visit at work from 2 of the police officers that visited our house. They weren't for me or anything to do with my OH but it brought everything back when we had the knock and as I was working on reception I had to deal with them. The principal also caught up with me this week - she has been supporting me and has been there if I needed someone to talk to.

We met an old friend of my OH for a coffee and catch up. She is a new friend of mine but went to school with my OH. Last time we met was over a year ago when I was particularly low as an old friend of mine of 35 years had suddenly stopped talking to me so I felt like I had no friends. We are hoping to make it a regular catch up once a month. She doesn't know anything about our situation with what is happening with my OH, but it was nice to catch up and talk about other things.

My 15 year old daughter has started learning how to crochet. She hasn't shown an interest before but her tutor has started up a crochet club at dinner times. My 18 year old daughter is the one that usually enjoys crocheting but my other daughter is now also enjoying it. She tried knitting years ago but didn't really take to it. I have been busy crocheting cactuses as Christmas presents for colleagues and family members.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 7:24pmReport post

Dawn x

I can imagine the feeling, one of the officers who was there the day of the knock was also the same officer who was called out when my eldest son(not my offending son) tried to commit suicide last year, so totally understand the panic x

I once tried to knit and I was useless lol its great your girls have found an interest keeps them occupied x

Hope you are doing ok x

Dawn19

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June 2023

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 8:31pmReport post

Thanks Upset. Hope you are okay.

I'm doing okay. Watched Doctor Who - glad to have David Tennant back. Now sat watching Nativity 2 (more David Tennant!) with my daughter - I've got a mixed berry mojito and midget gems and she has sweets and a special hot chocolate with cream and marshmallows.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat November 25, 2023 8:52pmReport post

Dawn x

Were ok x

Sounds bliss, I just finished strictly on catch up and having a glass of rosa x