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Relationships. It’s down to you not others if you stay or not.

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Chelsea 1

Member since
June 2021

891 posts

Posted Wed November 29, 2023 11:33amReport post

Hello ladies.



Hope we are all well and wrapped up warm.



Just a quick message about relationships. It's down to the individual and not other if you wanna stay with them. Myself I said to myself ok he has screwed up. Had a great job but still he screwed up. But I said to myself ok I will stick with through this and we will sort it. We are now some 18 months pass sentencing and still here.



I didn't go in with him to court because I knew what he was gonna say.

I love him dearly. Yes he is a pain in the ass but he's my pain in the ass

Big ((hugs)) to all xxx

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Thu November 30, 2023 7:08amReport post

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Scaredmumof3

Member since
July 2023

100 posts

Posted Thu November 30, 2023 11:09pmReport post

it is so hard

we are 6 months post know

I think I know him but worried other stuff will come out

not helped by SW saying "addicts lie"

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2551 posts

Posted Fri December 1, 2023 4:23amReport post

We've had long active (should I call it!) discussions on this one and I feel we all agreed, the decision you reach is entirely up to you and your circumstances. No one should condone which ever path you choose.

i know many people would be mortified by my decisions. But I feel I have to wake up every day and face my life and live it, not them.

could sound selfish but I think you have to be sometimes selfish - to look after yourself and keep going.

Edited Fri December 1, 2023 4:24am

TryingtoKeepHope

Member since
June 2023

57 posts

Posted Fri December 1, 2023 1:25pmReport post

I want to stay with my partner but admittedly some days it feels hard and truth be told I'm scared of SS.

We had the knock when I was very early into my 1st pregnancy, had SS involved ever since and I know it depends more on the individual but they've made my life a living nightmare, and to be honest felt that because I stayed with my partner they've tried to look for anything to put me in a bad light.

I still don't know the entire truth, and sometimes I don't want to. Seing my partner with his child shows me that he's an amazing dad and a supportive partner that made a stupid and selfish mistake that has affected us but I want to work past it to give my child the best life they can have. But the thing is I've had a couple of veiled threats from SWs the "we can't make you split up BUT have to concider (childs) safety". It's a hard one, I really do want to stay with my partner but I've already had a scare with my child potentially going into care, if that was to happen, then I'd have no choice but to leave. But still living in that limbo stage with no idea what's going to happen x