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Louise49

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January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 7:57amReport post

Hi everyone, hope you are all coping ok. My OH has his sentencing tomorrow ( if it doesn't get relisted again). My anxiety these last few days has hit the roof, I'm crying all the time and I'm extremely worried. The knock is exactly 2 years and 11 months today. I chose to stay with my partner and support him through all this and I must say it's been horrible, the limbo stage is the worst and all I think about is him going to prison. He had a meeting with his barrister and it was positive. He thinks it will be a suspended sentence and he is really pushing for that. He told us all the judges have been told to really really consider if a custodial is the right option as the prisons are so overcrowded so there's that hope to cling to.

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:02amReport post

It's such an anxious time, I really hope the next 24 hours or so pass quickly and easily for you. Fingers crossed xxx

Caggie164

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October 2023

274 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:11amReport post

Fingers crossed for you X I can't believe you've been waiting almost three years. We only started this journey two and a half months ago and that's been bad enough. Hope all goes as well as it can x

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:19amReport post

Yeah it's crazy we've waited nearly 3 years, a sentence in itself! The barrister did say the long wait will work in his favour though so there's some hope too.

Distressed and pregnant

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November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:27amReport post

Thinking of you both today xxx

hpl111

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November 2022

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:31amReport post

Fingers crossed xx

Inthemoment

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February 2023

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:33amReport post

Thinking of you and I hope all goes in your favour tomorrow

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Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 8:49amReport post

Thinking of you both xx

Seaside

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July 2022

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 9:02amReport post

Thinking of you today

Pippin

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May 2023

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 9:15amReport post

Thinking of you both today, and hoping for a good outcome

Bettyboo65

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June 2022

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 9:21amReport post

Thinking of you and your partner and everything crossed for tomorrow xxx

Life feels over

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September 2022

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 11:06amReport post

Sending you both strength x

T2021

Member since
December 2020

82 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 12:13pmReport post

Wishing you the best for tomorrow. 3 years and 5 months in and still no court or charges for us. Please let us know how it goes x

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 12:32pmReport post

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Just want an end to it

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October 2023

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 12:33pmReport post

Lots of Love Lou, Just keep telling yorself, by this time tomorrow, it coul all be over....

Louise49

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January 2021

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 4:16pmReport post

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Louise49

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Louise49

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January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 4:30pmReport post

Thankyou everyone, omg 3 years 5 months T2021! That is absolutely ridiculous! And no court hearings yet?. It's disgusting that the wait is so long. It is a sentence itself as you have this horrible feeling of dread hanging over you. All I'm thinking about is prison, I just have a picture in my mind of the judge issuing a custodial and my whole world falling apart! I have a house, a mortgage kids still at home ( they are young adults though) I just don't know how I'll cope

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 4:33pmReport post

Hi everyone, so my oh sentencing has been relisted to February next year!! What a farce!. I have been building upto it this last week, the stress and anxiety is awful!. So it will be over 3 years since the knock. Seems ridiculous if they thought he was such a high risk and give him a custodial! Yet he's been living a normal life the last three years ( albeit with this hell hanging over us!)

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 4:53pmReport post

Oh my goodness!! It is an absolute farce. I don't really know what to say to you but send you a hug x

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 4:58pmReport post

Thank you love, yeah the justice system is a mess! I just hope it ends up a suspended sentence after all this time. If not he will appeal

CM1256

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December 2021

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 5:14pmReport post

Louise49,



I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Hopefully it wil go well.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 5:49pmReport post

CM it's been relisted, New sentencing date is now beginning of Feb next year

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K4

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October 2022

611 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 7:52pmReport post

Oh gosh! I am so sorry to read this. You must be exhausted!



I do so hope the judge takes all the re-listings into account for your OH.



hope you're relaxing tonight xx

Grapefruit

Member since
August 2023

37 posts

Posted Thu December 7, 2023 9:34pmReport post

Good grief!! A farce indeed.

3 years, it's torture, so so unfair. You've served a 3 year sentence! I get so angry about the length of time these cases take to conclude.

This is the only area of the justice system I've ever experienced, but do other offences (burglary, fraud, assault and so on) take this long...doubt it.

I feel for you, i really do. Yes, hopefully the Court will see that you have suffered enough and avoid the unthinkable.

Sending love and support X

Parkerpoo1

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July 2022

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Posted Thu December 7, 2023 10:51pmReport post

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SAL

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December 2021

895 posts

Posted Fri December 8, 2023 7:19amReport post

This is so cruel. It's a sentence in itself the wait but the cruelty of having to gear yourself up for sentencing, for it to not happen is another things. There seems to be such a huge variety in how long investigation take. What blows my mind is our people are considered dangerous enough to need SOR and SHPOs that consume a huge amount of resources, yet they are not dangerous enough for the cases to be seen by the court. I can understand why it takes so long to bring charges, anything crime that digital /online comes with a huge amount of data to work through - Chat logs on multiple app, videos and images, Internet and app history and retrieving historic /deleted data.

I hope it happens next time and that the wait is considered on his sentencing.

Louise49

Member since
January 2021

494 posts

Posted Fri December 8, 2023 10:09amReport post

Sal exactly that!. Like for the last three years he's been carrying on as normal, going to work, going about his daily life. So then he'll go to court and they may deem him high risk and think he should go to prison! What about the risk for the last three years! It's so hypocritical. My other fear is media and how they can print what they like. My OH is now on the SOR which is private and strictly monitored yet the press can print his name and address and the fact he's on the SOR??! Well that's not private is it! I know we have freedom of press but in my view they have too much freedom and ruin peoples lives!

T2021

Member since
December 2020

82 posts

Posted Sat December 9, 2023 6:42pmReport post

Hi Louise no nothing apart from the knock and a second interview two years later. And still nothing. X x

immso sorry yours has been relisted again x

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SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Sun December 10, 2023 9:41pmReport post

I genuinely think the wait and the unknown is worse than the actual sentence. We are almost 2 years to the day if charge and he'll have served his sense. 3 year and 3 months since the arrest. The unknown is the hardest part. We have so much to navigate but at least we can start to move forward and make plans

SAL

Member since
December 2021

895 posts

Posted Sun December 10, 2023 9:41pmReport post

I genuinely think the wait and the unknown is worse than the actual sentence. We are almost 2 years to the day if charge and he'll have served his sense. 3 year and 3 months since the arrest. The unknown is the hardest part. We have so much to navigate but at least we can start to move forward and make plans