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I hope it's ok to ask for any thoughts on this.
My partner likes watching child TV programmes and asks for 'the kind of things you buy your 5 year old nephew' for gifts. I really worry about this psychology.
When I called Stop it Now with this concern they downplayed it saying his arrest for iioc was just an p*rn addiction which had gone too far.
Thinking lately I would torment myself for a lifetime about the risk he poses.
My partner likes watching child TV programmes and asks for 'the kind of things you buy your 5 year old nephew' for gifts. I really worry about this psychology.
When I called Stop it Now with this concern they downplayed it saying his arrest for iioc was just an p*rn addiction which had gone too far.
Thinking lately I would torment myself for a lifetime about the risk he poses.
I would say that the greatest risk is to himself, because if the police are monitoring him and they see these gifts, they will become even more suspicious.
It's the kind of thing that he really needs to discuss with a therapist from StopSO. Has he done the Informplus course with LFF at all, or any of their online modules?
It's the kind of thing that he really needs to discuss with a therapist from StopSO. Has he done the Informplus course with LFF at all, or any of their online modules?
Thanks for the response Edel. I think they made him do that course. He doesn't like to speak about such things with me. He was having private counselling but gave that up. I have forced him to do some more.
I agree with everything Edel has said. There is so much going on here (and not necessarily connected to sexual crimes) and it needs a good therapist to explore things safely with him. We don't know his history, childhood etc and I'd hate anyone to hazard a guess here (although I'm not saying anyone would) and we could either overplay or underplay things.
You are obviously very conflicted about everything, and understandably so. Could you find a therapist together as your OH might be able to share things with you in a safe space with a therapist mediating......
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You are obviously very conflicted about everything, and understandably so. Could you find a therapist together as your OH might be able to share things with you in a safe space with a therapist mediating......
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I should also add: I think he has Paranoid Personality Disorder. He won't open up about anything at all. I'm not sure counselling will ever work for him as he will be reluctant to trust any therapist. Thanks for your response though - appreciate it :)