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Year on.. still broken

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ShyAprylxo

Member since
January 2023

4 posts

Posted Mon December 11, 2023 3:32pmReport post

It's a year on the 14th we found out/my ex was caught by those vigilantes turning up at our home.



he doesn't see his son, social won't allow it. He needs to go through court which I'm more than happy with. I expect a letter in March 24 as he can apply then.



i am STILL broken. Awaiting trauma counselling but how do I move on from this! I was with the ex just short of 13years. I'm so lonely, I miss him yet I hate him.



Just want to feel normal!
while he is working a new job, socialising, living a care free life. Feel like I got the shit end of the stick I'm struggling so bad!

Cherry

Member since
January 2023

107 posts

Posted Tue December 12, 2023 10:03pmReport post

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Edited Tue November 5, 2024 6:41pm

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Wed December 13, 2023 9:56pmReport post

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It was a year for us on the 30/11



Re therapy, I had therapy all the way though. Last weekend, I got my friend (trained) to do rewind therapy on me. I have to say, it has been a game changer after one session. I sobbed all the way through. The best thing about rewind is you don't have to talk about your trauma. I slept all afternoon and night after the session and I can't tell you how it's improved my sleep at night too.

Edited Wed December 13, 2023 9:57pm

Indigo

Member since
June 2023

3 posts

Posted Thu January 25, 2024 9:11pmReport post

I am new to the forum, but 7 months in here from the same. When you don't think life can get harder, than this unthinkable thing happens. It is so hard to process it all. x much love to you all

Sunstax

Member since
October 2023

13 posts

Posted Sat February 17, 2024 1:31amReport post

Actfast offers therapy for free for families and friends effected. They offer a trauma programme, councelling and then a support group.



I had a consultation last week. Seems really good

Jo

Member since
December 2020

7 posts

Posted Fri February 23, 2024 1:07amReport post

Sunstax - Can you tell me about the ActFast therapy you had please?

Don’t know what to do

Member since
February 2024

14 posts

Posted Sat February 24, 2024 11:19amReport post

Can you tell me more about actfast please x

Kai

Member since
March 2024

1 post

Posted Fri March 29, 2024 10:11amReport post

Interested to know more , large family, all devastated.

Moon

Member since
October 2024

6 posts

Posted Wed October 30, 2024 7:45pmReport post

Hi

Just wondering how the process is going. I had a vigilante group at my door a week ago and I'm still trying to process. I have two kids. I don't know what's happening. I love, hate feel disgusted at my partner. He was arrested for talking to minors and sending photos to one and ask for ones in return. At the moment this was witna decoy in a chart room. There were a total of 4 decoys.

The first few days I've been numb but now I miss him and worried about him

As you can guess he's not allowed near the house and no contact with the kids. I've not heard anything from him just through his mum. He's scared to contact me incase it breaches his bail conditions.

InTatters

Member since
June 2022

175 posts

Posted Sun November 3, 2024 3:17pmReport post

Hi, in case useful, reposting this info here:



Acts Fast: support for families of children who have experienced or been impacted by child sexual abuse or assault. Advice, support and trauma counselling for adults who have accessed IIOC and their families.

Barnado’s: helping children and families feel safer, happier, healthier and more hopeful. Specific support for children with a parent in prison.

Children Heard and Seen: support for children with a parent in prison and their families.

Circles UK: focussed on reducing sex offending in partnership with criminal justice agencies. Customised restorative work to address harmful sexual behaviour. Specialist support for those with intellectual disabilities and/or autism spectrum conditions. Risk and safeguarding courses for families, and specialist therapy and counselling.

PACT: The Prison Advice & Care Trust (Pact) is a charity which supports people affected by imprisonment, providing practical and emotional support to prisoners’ children and families, and to prisoners themselves. Free confidential helpline for prisoners’ families and friends (0808 808 2003).

Prisoners families helpline: free, confidential support and advice for families in England and Wales who have a loved one in contact with the criminal justice system.

SAA: a programme and safe place to address and heal from sex addiction and harmful sexual behaviours.

Safer Lives: specialist and individual support, advice and guidance, focussed on welfare and mental strength and wellbeing for offenders and their families. Therapeutic, practical and educational expertise.

StopSO: specialist support and therapy for those concerned about their thoughts or behaviour, and for those impacted by the behaviour of others.

Talking Forward: facilitated peer support for people impacted by a family member or friend who has engaged with online CSA. Part of a group committed to research into and understanding of online offending.

In the event of a custodial sentence, 'www.emailaprisoner' and 'prisonvoicemail.com' are really easy-to-use and valuable ways to keep in touch (if you want to).