Social worker incompetence
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Hi. I seem to have ended up with the most dreadful social worker working with us post sentencing. She totally messed up the first meeting she had with my son (probing him so much I had to tell him the full story) and then not communicating with me for weeks to update me. Now according to my ex husband he has been told no unsupervised access with our 13 year old. Despite all the reports (probation service etc) saying he is low risk to children. He downloaded images and was on dodgy fantasy forums. No distribution or grooming. He got a suspended sentence and on SOR and a SHPO which says no contact with under 18s without parents permission. I am wondering what others experiences are? I find insane the probation team thought it was fine for him to go to Tenerife for a week on his own (and be freely around kids at the swimming pool) but he can't take our son anyway unsupervised. The supervised visits are taking a massive toll on me and I think to force our son to be around that toxic atmosphere is so damaging. I think social services are causing real mental damage to my son and i'm just stuck with it. Help!
Hi,
It may be a good idea to speak with probation as they can refer to ss with their recommendations. The no contact clause is usually worded as without consent from parents, ss and probation but obviously if his states parental permission only then he wouldn't be breaching his order. Do you have a copy of his SHPO?
I'd probably recommend that if you do go back to ss you state that you'd like to build up to unsupervised access gradually so perhaps only unsupervised in a public place for a couple of hours initially, somewhere like a restaurant where you can drop off and collect so they are in public the whole time. Then moving on to him bringing your son home to you afterwards so building up the time spent alone whilst monitoring how your son is coping etc.
Alternatively is there anyone else who can supervise contact while you work towards unsupervised? xxx
It may be a good idea to speak with probation as they can refer to ss with their recommendations. The no contact clause is usually worded as without consent from parents, ss and probation but obviously if his states parental permission only then he wouldn't be breaching his order. Do you have a copy of his SHPO?
I'd probably recommend that if you do go back to ss you state that you'd like to build up to unsupervised access gradually so perhaps only unsupervised in a public place for a couple of hours initially, somewhere like a restaurant where you can drop off and collect so they are in public the whole time. Then moving on to him bringing your son home to you afterwards so building up the time spent alone whilst monitoring how your son is coping etc.
Alternatively is there anyone else who can supervise contact while you work towards unsupervised? xxx
Hi
Social services and probation measure different risks - probation looks at his risk to ALL the children and SS looks at his risk to YOUR child.
The risk that SS looks at is also not only grooming/SA. They also look at things like could he use your son's device to reoffend or if he was to look at CSAM again could he do it in your son's presence and subject him to the images etc. Basically their aim is to ensure he does not get exposed to any illegal material while with his father.
This depends on things like did he offend at home, especially when the child was at home. Was the offending repetitive. Gender and ages of the children involved. The SS generally works on the basis that most children that are abused are abused by someone they know.
Probation will look at the type of offending, any courses he's done as part of his conviction and if he is out in public with children he doesn't know, how likely is he to subject them to abuse. So the risk factors are quite different.
Like previous poster is saying, it's best to look at finding someone else to supervise. You could use a contact center at his expense. Ou could ask a trusted family member.
Do you 100% trust your OH that he'd never offend again?
Social services and probation measure different risks - probation looks at his risk to ALL the children and SS looks at his risk to YOUR child.
The risk that SS looks at is also not only grooming/SA. They also look at things like could he use your son's device to reoffend or if he was to look at CSAM again could he do it in your son's presence and subject him to the images etc. Basically their aim is to ensure he does not get exposed to any illegal material while with his father.
This depends on things like did he offend at home, especially when the child was at home. Was the offending repetitive. Gender and ages of the children involved. The SS generally works on the basis that most children that are abused are abused by someone they know.
Probation will look at the type of offending, any courses he's done as part of his conviction and if he is out in public with children he doesn't know, how likely is he to subject them to abuse. So the risk factors are quite different.
Like previous poster is saying, it's best to look at finding someone else to supervise. You could use a contact center at his expense. Ou could ask a trusted family member.
Do you 100% trust your OH that he'd never offend again?