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Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 5:31pmReport post

Happy Friday lovlies x

I hope.yout week has been good

Work has been busy , on the final stretch to just over a week to go before I finish for a few festive few days off x

Another weekend with the furbaby so some nice walks in this chilly weather to be had,

No visit with the hungry catappiler but no doubt we will chat over the next few days we have a vist next Sunday, can you believe it will be xmas in just over a week I still have just a fee bits to get so a final bit of shopping next Friday I still need to get motivated to start wrapping maybe tomorrow x

I hope.you all have a lovely weekend

Love sent as always xx

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 6:36pmReport post

Work Christmas party for me tonight. I'm quite looking forward to it now. Busy week at work. Counting down to finishing for Christmas next week.

Have a good weekend all x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2553 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 6:50pmReport post

All good from Smile! I enjoyed our virtual drink..... good one Webb.

I walked through our city's Christmas market the other day and had a 'moment' watching the excited families soaking up the atmosphere, one of those 'sadness' reflective moments. But it didnt last for long...... as I reminded myself perhaps many sadness's are hidden behind their smiles..... never far away is it?

apart from this little hiccup I'm ok.

Edited Fri December 15, 2023 6:52pm

Parkerpoo1

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July 2022

252 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 9:06pmReport post

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Ocean

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September 2023

768 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 9:23pmReport post

This week my son has joined a gym.... a huge step for the person who couldn't even face leaving the house just a few months ago.

To those of you enjoying the festive season I hope you continue to enjoy the celebrations and preparations.

For those of you who are finding this time of year particularly difficult, I really hope and pray that you find peace and comfort during these difficult days.

Sending you all love and best wishes

Seaside

Member since
July 2022

561 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 9:56pmReport post

Well today has been a strange one- 2 years ago today we had the knock on the door and my world fell apart.

That Christmas is still a total blur to me and I spent it crying and desperately trying to stop my son from harming himself.

Last year we were waiting for sentencing and terrified of what the outcome might be.

This year we are in a much better place and slowly but surely moving forward so I would just like to say to others that there is hope even when things seem impossible.

I honestly couldn't have survived without the love and support of all you wonderful people here and most especially Upset and Smile who have both been amazing despite all their own troubles xxx

Sending love and strength to all of you xxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2553 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 10:43pmReport post

Ahhhhh bless you and thankyou Seaside - you've touched me with your words. So pleased you and yours move forward x

I genuinely feel for others that are going through this horrendous trauma, I remember how I cried for hours, the loneliness and sadness that engulfed me and the physical pain I felt.

If I can help anyone that makes me feel good..... Upset is lovely and we text each other regularly to check on each other, which is wonderful, a very special friendship made on this forum....

Thankyou

Edited Sat December 16, 2023 7:26am

Just want an end to it

Member since
October 2023

212 posts

Posted Fri December 15, 2023 11:38pmReport post

It's funny how the time of year round the knock makes you reflect. I don't think any of us on here will every get over that and the date imprinted on our brains forever.

Had a good week, I had rewind therapy last week and although the date of the knock is imprinted, I have finally been able to sleep everynight and not jump at every sound...

Son's finished uni for Christmas and submitted all his assignments. His doing really well and enjoying the young persons course with LFF.



Can't believe its only really a week till Christmas!!

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 5:51amReport post

Hello!



Not a great week, OH sentenced on Monday (7 years SOR, 5 years SHPO, 2 year 20 week suspended sentence), press attention etc.



however, we are getting on an even keel now and there is something very liberating about most of my fears materialising.

i am off to a Christmas party today and will forget about it all for a while.



sorry I didn't come to drinks, I was not in a good place, but I do so appreciate all you wonderful ladies.



Parker, sorry you're facing a tricky Christmas.



Everyone else, I hope that this weekend is one of serenity



xxx

rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 7:50amReport post

Well, what a week! Big shenanigans with Children's services who are very concerned about our grandchildren (triggered by our son having to leave home because of his offences and not being around to cover for his ex and protect the children, and also the family coming under a different authority with an excellent Children's Services/SW etc so a big relief after our anxieties for over 10 years abot the situation) We have nothing but praise for the way things have been handled but sadly for our son it's too late to stop him offending if indeed his situation had an effect on his mental state - and that is definitely NOT excusing him as it was his choice to look etc etc.

However, we have the grandchildren here until things with SS are sorted out and have had some lovely times amongst our attempts to do some home schooling (that KS2 maths has me beaten and I'm a retired primary teacher!!!!)

Also because of things escalating there has had to be a police update so we now know what has been found on devices so far (how good of the OIC to actually provide this info after ignoring our son's solicitor's requests for updates) and I coped better than I ever anticipated I would cope as it's been that nasty black cloud hovering over my life for the past year. That's not to say I'll cope with the next revelation but it's proof that, as many on here have said, we do find strength when it's needed.

On a totally different level we all went to see the film Wonka yesterday and it was such a lovely film - reminded me a bit of The Greatest Showman crossed with the Paddington films. Hugh Grant as an Oomph Loompah is worth the ticket price alone!!

Hope people can find a little bit of joy somewhere in these pre-Christmas days and a huge hug to those who are finding that impossible. Especially those who are new to this journey and those who are adjusting to a new normal after sentencing xxx

Edited Sat December 16, 2023 7:54am

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:12amReport post

Caggie

Hope you had a great time at the w0rks xmas party and that the heads not to sore this morning lol x

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:16amReport post

Parkerpoo1

I am glad you will be spending the day with friends, hopefully you will be able to get some time with your boys during the break x

Thankfully I am working in between but other than that will be watching and just chilling in front of the tv x

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:18amReport post

Ocean x

That is fantastic news about your son the gym will really help him cope to ha e something to focus on , small steps each day but I know how incredibly proud you must be it's a huge step for him xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:23amReport post

Seaside x

As always it is good to hear from you and thank you for your kind words , pulled on the heart strings, I will always remember your first post and look at how far you have come in the last 2 years, your strength is what has kept you going, I hope your son is continuing to do well as I hope are you xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:25amReport post

Smile x

Thank you I am extremely fortunate to have your friendship and will always be there for you and our sons xx

Upset mum

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June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:29amReport post

Just x

I know all the preparation and it's almost here

Glad you are doing ok and the therapy is helping, how proud you must be that your son is doing well with his assessments well done to him x

Enjoy the festive break together xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:33amReport post

K4

It does really take it out of you dosent it but at least you know what you have to deal with and you will both get through it , as for the press as hard as it is it will soon become old news

I hope you managed to have a good time and a few drinks you deffinatly deserve it x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:43amReport post

Rainyday x

Gosh what a week for you with SS and hearing from the OIC

As hard as it is hearing the details the black cloud will lift a little , and you are so right we can never know our inner strength until we find ourselves here and you will get through this x

Home schooling wow you are such an inspiration your grandchildren are incredibly lucky ,

I am sure you had a lovely time at the cinema I loved the greatest showman so it sounds like a good film , totally agree on your Hugh comment lol xx

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Sat December 16, 2023 10:52amReport post

Upset mum

Had a lovely time at the Christmas party. Thanks. Head was ok this morning but I'm taking it easy. The older I get the less tolerant I become towards alcohol :

Enjoy your winter walks with the furbaby and I hope you find your wrapping motivation x

Dawn19

Member since
June 2023

149 posts

Posted Sun December 17, 2023 5:33pmReport post

My daughter got the keys to her own house on Friday. She isn't moving in with her boyfriend - she just wants her own space. She hasn't moved in yet as she hasn't got any furniture (apart from a wardrobe that she left at our house), but she has offered somewhere for my OH to kip.

It is my OH's birthday today. We're going out for a Christmas meal tomorrow.

Looking forward to getting through this week at work before breaking up for Christmas x

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Sun December 17, 2023 5:57pmReport post

Dawn x

Birthday wishes to your OH

Have a lovely meal x

Wishing your daughter all the best in her own home, the furniture will come in time xx