Three weeks in
Notifications OFF
Three weeks ago the knock came - my youngest son arrested and his devices taken. My ex (his father) has yet to speak to him as his two older brothers. On bail pending enquires- the future so unknown - I have contacted LFF as has he - but this is impacting on everyone - sorry don't really know why I've posted just helpful to write it down I suppose x
Sorry you have found yourself here. 3 weeks is still very early, it takes time for the shock to fade.
Take care of yourself. I definitely recommend talking to your gp, they can be a great help.
Take care of yourself. I definitely recommend talking to your gp, they can be a great help.
I'm so sorry you find yourself here. Welcome to the club.
there is a helpful post on the "understanding why" page on getting through the early days. You will also find "the world according to the knock" podcast helpful too.
once you have posted a few times on here you can then message others. There are loads of amazing people here to support you on your journey.
sending you support and serenity xx
there is a helpful post on the "understanding why" page on getting through the early days. You will also find "the world according to the knock" podcast helpful too.
once you have posted a few times on here you can then message others. There are loads of amazing people here to support you on your journey.
sending you support and serenity xx
Hi Elliott,
I totally understand your need to write something down in a space where you hopefully know you will be heard and there is no judgment (including towards all your family members).
I hope you feel a tiny bit better so I just wanted to touch base so you know someone has read your post. I can assure you that many others will add to this thread as they read it.
These early days are awful - in fact worse than awful, but we know and empathise as we have all been there.
Contacting LFF is a good start to dealing with things and something else is to remember to care for yourself in all this. Your family may change how they feel in time, and we are here on this forum to walk alongside you. Many of us are happy to 'talk' privately so do PM anyone who offers once your notifications are 'on' if there's anything you'd rather not discuss openly.
Sending a hug your way x
I totally understand your need to write something down in a space where you hopefully know you will be heard and there is no judgment (including towards all your family members).
I hope you feel a tiny bit better so I just wanted to touch base so you know someone has read your post. I can assure you that many others will add to this thread as they read it.
These early days are awful - in fact worse than awful, but we know and empathise as we have all been there.
Contacting LFF is a good start to dealing with things and something else is to remember to care for yourself in all this. Your family may change how they feel in time, and we are here on this forum to walk alongside you. Many of us are happy to 'talk' privately so do PM anyone who offers once your notifications are 'on' if there's anything you'd rather not discuss openly.
Sending a hug your way x
Thank you all so much for replying - it is for me, about knowing there are others out there going through the same xx
Hi,
Last year I was 3 weeks in too, with my son (just 18). I literally walked around smilling and laughing with this constant dread and fear living inside, just masking it. I felt totally lost and didn't know where to turn or how to deal with it. I'm so glad you have contacted LFF, it took me months and I wish I had done it ealier. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to process it all. The unknown is terrible. We are now on the other side and although new chellenges (all the appointments every week, pobation, counselling, commuity service, LFF programme etc) the unknown has gone and we have adjusted.
Sending you huge hugs and love xxx
Last year I was 3 weeks in too, with my son (just 18). I literally walked around smilling and laughing with this constant dread and fear living inside, just masking it. I felt totally lost and didn't know where to turn or how to deal with it. I'm so glad you have contacted LFF, it took me months and I wish I had done it ealier. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time to process it all. The unknown is terrible. We are now on the other side and although new chellenges (all the appointments every week, pobation, counselling, commuity service, LFF programme etc) the unknown has gone and we have adjusted.
Sending you huge hugs and love xxx