My First Happy Christmas in 5 years
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This is a very sad and stressful time for many of you. I too spent 4 miserable Christmas periods carrying the horrible truth of my marriage breakdown and the reasons why....the dreaded knock.
I did not tell a soul. I carried the secret on my own. I had a heart attack caused by the stress of the trauma and spent months in hospital. I lost my house, my health and my marriage all in one go. My dog died and I became an empty nester. I was totally alone with nothing. But I knew that life had to get better as it could not get any worse.
5 years on....I have created a new life, a new home, a new relationship and for the first time in 5 years.....I am smiling. I am happy again. I do not know how I managed to survive what happened but I have.
Reading and conributing to this forum was so helpful. Just knowing that although I was on my own......I wasn't going through this alone.
To all of you on this journey.....life can and will get better. We are all survivors. Stay strong !!
I did not tell a soul. I carried the secret on my own. I had a heart attack caused by the stress of the trauma and spent months in hospital. I lost my house, my health and my marriage all in one go. My dog died and I became an empty nester. I was totally alone with nothing. But I knew that life had to get better as it could not get any worse.
5 years on....I have created a new life, a new home, a new relationship and for the first time in 5 years.....I am smiling. I am happy again. I do not know how I managed to survive what happened but I have.
Reading and conributing to this forum was so helpful. Just knowing that although I was on my own......I wasn't going through this alone.
To all of you on this journey.....life can and will get better. We are all survivors. Stay strong !!
I'm so pleased that you are now happy and have a new relationship. I'm almost there. Would love to meet a new man!!!
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Thank you for sharing and I hope you have a wonderful Christmas. Well done on getting through this
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What a lovely post. It's so good to hear a positive story about how new beginnings can be made. Have a wonderful Christmas
Thank you for sharing. It's good to hear the positive outcomes, as in the early days it seems there is only sadness :)
Well, Totally Lost, you are proof that we are not defined by our current names as you are definitely Totally Found now!! I long for the day I can rename myself Sunnyday.
When I started reading this forum I cried regularly as I read the posts. Then I went into a phase of feeling real empathy with people but not many tears as I'd accepted my new normal plus I think my emotions had become a bit frozen through all the discipline I'd had to exercise to just get through a day without people knowing my secret. Today reading your post, Totally, I've had a little weep again but happy tears for you and for all of us as we journey towards the place you've now reached where we will all arrive one day. For some it's walking distance and for others it's at the end of a long haul flight but it's there.
Hope your Christmas is a marvellous one, Totally. Thank you for posting xx
When I started reading this forum I cried regularly as I read the posts. Then I went into a phase of feeling real empathy with people but not many tears as I'd accepted my new normal plus I think my emotions had become a bit frozen through all the discipline I'd had to exercise to just get through a day without people knowing my secret. Today reading your post, Totally, I've had a little weep again but happy tears for you and for all of us as we journey towards the place you've now reached where we will all arrive one day. For some it's walking distance and for others it's at the end of a long haul flight but it's there.
Hope your Christmas is a marvellous one, Totally. Thank you for posting xx