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Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2553 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 4:22amReport post

Our journey makes you realise this can happen to any family. I must admit I thought anyone who engaged in this sort of activity was lowlife. But how judgmental was I and I've learnt so so much.

My son was (is) a lovely friendly guy - wouldn't say boo to a goose. Everyone was in utter shock and disbelief about his secret side, it's not possible - it must be a mistake.

We say it countless times - these men are NOT as portrayed and the recent suicides we are reading about on the forum breaks my heart.....

Parkerpoo1

Member since
July 2022

252 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 6:59amReport post

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rainyday52

Member since
April 2023

447 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 11:24amReport post

Totally agree with you, Smile. The heartbreak is very real for us all and the inability to be open or say a word that sounds positive about our people (along with never excusing them) is stifling. It's even hard on this forum at times in case it looks like denial. If only they had realised right at the start what the ripple effects would be, maybe......but we will sadly never know

xxx

Katie28

Member since
December 2021

183 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 12:26pmReport post

Smile you could not have put this any better. The loss of a life is devastating for most people and whilst not condoning or trivializing any offence no one should have to feel that low that their life is no longer worth living. Life is so very precious. It is so upsetting to read these posts but at the same time it is the awful reality of the consequences. Speaking personally my husband is a good, honest and kind person and I hate to think he has been defined by this experience, I have done my upmost to protect his mental health as I have read too many times the very sad and extreme circumstances that some people have found themselves in. As many have said before good people can do bad things and genuine and sincere remorse is powerful. I am grateful I still have my husband by my side and am deeply saddened by those that don't.
katie xxxx

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2553 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 1:56pmReport post

This journey is painful but my my it's nothing compared to a loved one taking their life as we found out 5 years ago ........

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 2:41pmReport post

Smile x

No matter how tough this journey is I share the same devastating loss of someone so very close to me as you know

I just wish they could understand suicide is not the answer, as with this journey the ripple effect takes its hold x

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 5:59pmReport post

We have lost friends and family through suicide. It's truly heartbreaking as it feels avoidable and leaves you wondering what else could have been done to prevent it. My heart goes out to you Smile and Upset if you too have lost family members this way.

As for my own son, I will never take for granted the fact that I still have him in my life and every day I'm thankful that he's here. I do still speak about him and I do make excuses for what he did but I also know that what he did was a terrible thing.

Thinking of you all and sending you and your person strength, peace and hope

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 6:09pmReport post

Ocean x

I am to so grateful my son is here as like you I feared he wouldn't be, as you know he had his suicide kit ready, 17 months of living on our nerves would today be the day, but he is here as is your son, who is floating above the water, my heart really does ache for Pippin and Wewitch, x my brother was 28 when he left us so while i like we have said condone i am grateful i get to speak to him and he is ok xx

AnxiousGirl

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December 2023

222 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 6:12pmReport post

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Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 7:38pmReport post

Anxious

I think we have all felt and thought the same feelings as you , I for one wanted to give up as have many of us, this journey is one we didn't expect to be on but yet we are here , we get up each morning and get through ad best as we can , and after the last few weeks my heart really does ache for WeeWitch and Pippin, and this is the reality of what this journey can do x

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

295 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 7:41pmReport post

I wish I could take the pain away for weewitch and pippin. It breaks my heart every time we hear this. I know my son came very close and the fear I felt for all those months has never gone away. Xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu December 21, 2023 8:29pmReport post

Mandymoo

It gives us a reality of we could be going through the same thing as Pippin and WeeWitch, that is why when I visit my son I hug him tight x all of us have said the same we do not condone our loved ones actions but I am so incredibly proud of how my son has coped and I will forever be grateful for that x