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We're now 2.5 ISH years from the start. Knock to sentencing took 17 months.We had ss involved for 2 years to the day of the knock. My oh was not allowed to love with us I battled as hard as possible and in February this year he was allowed to move back home. I made my own safety plan that ss used alot of hard work doing courses and finding as much information out as possible. But we are now over a year past sentencing and have had our first family Christmas all living back together again. I even did as much as possible where he is allowed unsupervised with our children when I decide he can. I hope this helps. It's alot of hard work but it can be done

Hi scared and confused it's good to see there is some hope of liveing as a family together of you don't mind me asking was your husband offence online

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I have written a safety plan based on my OH living in the spare room (locked and own entrance) away from the children based on a template provided by a lady at the LFF and now he has been moved to RUI at 6 months post knock with this safety plan in place. He is likely to be charged with A to C, 100+ images but he is taking his recovery from porn addiction seriously.

If you have just one baby and the baby is in with you I believe you must be able to write a plan based on him coming home and you providing fully supervised contact at all times.

It is not like you can leave a baby alone unless they are asleep! you would have to sleep in the same room with the baby which is recommended for 6 months anyway and he would have to be outside the house when the baby naps or you would have to have the baby nap in a pram nr you when at home or sit outside babys room doing online life admin while it naps.

you will be knackered but then you will be just as knackered if you are a solo parent! I would build breaks into the safety plan when he leaves to stay with family or you do the same when possible so you both get a break from the supervision or solo parenting when possible with work etc

I also get there is no process for this and every SS is different but it must be worth a try......

Tangle

Anything logical e.g who you have to support you family wise who would help in emergency with the children. What work you've done to show understanding. Personal care stuff. We had no help with ours there is a lot of stuff on this group tho if you put it in search bar at top of page x

Pinkey

Yes online offense

Sorry for bothering anyone advice myself I have no way to know what to expect from this was June 2022 since the knock his bien given a 2yr suspended sentence with conditional applications for his to do community work and the hope that he will be working with his probation officer in his work on getting help with what he had bien caught doing it all isn't unforgiving it can't be can it but I only have one thing for my children to feel safe and to rebuild the relationship with time to try to see if I can believe we can be a family again isn't 100% with no certain facts about can it be possible for me I had bien through it as much as to say I had to become a single parent fast had ss involved too but as of May last year was closed for my kids to be off their cp etc which I applied by all that was nessary to show them that I was going to be thier mom sole parent to say we had no help from the police and they never supported me in beginning to try support him too.... so I stopped all communication with him only started talking to him again this year but it was my choice to..... but unfortunately I know my friends and family I do have will not want me to be involved with him again but I have only to try with my kids as him lil by lil and see where it goes all I'd say.... we awaiting for a ss assessment for his possible future in assistance vists either by them or myself to sole responsibility for its anything goes of 2024..... I'm not sure if I'm feeling positive or negative too soon to say atm..... I'd appreciate if you can spare a moment to reply.....