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Renibop

Member since
December 2023

6 posts

Posted Wed December 27, 2023 3:58pmReport post

Hi, my partner has a previous caution for reposting a pic of a minor on a chat site which he received a caution 7 years ago and was on the SOR for 2 years, this was all before I met him. When we got together be told me everything about his past from childhood trauma right through.

This was all disclosed to SS via Sarah's law and they have been in and out of our lives but because of parental acrimony with my children's dad. All assessments showed no safeguarding concerns and no risks, including an assessment done on my partner which was then subsequently denied happened and then found.



fast forward May this year we then went under a child protection plan because of emotional harm again because of the parental acrimony, but the SW on our case took an instant dislike to me and decided to dig up intelligence from the police and past interviews and use this to build a case against my partner.



well fast forward to now December he was caught as part of a sting operation he has been talking to a 14 year old girl on social media and we are where we are today. I have ended our relationship, but I still love him and I know his actions we're situational and he needs help and he knows this too. I have since ending our relationship had family court and all I am left with is 3 hours supervised contact with my one child a week, and this can be changed by the resident parent as they want.



I have done the right thing by my kids to end the relationship I loose him, my house because it will need to be sold, and for what 3 hours supervised time which I could have even if I was in a relationship with him. I just don't know where to turn anymore

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

775 posts

Posted Wed December 27, 2023 10:23pmReport post

Hi Renipop, I'm so sorry you find yourself here. It is still very early days since your OH's arrest so I'm not surprised you don't know which way to turn. Those early days and weeks are truly awful so try to look after yourself and reach out for help.

You'll find the people on this forum to be non judgemental, supportive and kind. You may find it better to post on the discussion category as that is the category which most people tend to read. Also if you haven't already done so, I recommend making contact with the LFF help line.

You are going to be on a long journey so please try and look after yourself.

Renibop

Member since
December 2023

6 posts

Posted Thu December 28, 2023 9:26pmReport post

Thankyou Ocean, I am new to this, so I will take any advice is can get :-)