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Mum second time on this journey

Member since
December 2023

7 posts

Posted Thu December 28, 2023 8:55amReport post

I can't sleep anymore, I am thinking all the time how can I help my son. I'm running out of ideas. How do I find a good solicitor, how do i pay for it.

Just so frightened

K4

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October 2022

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Posted Thu December 28, 2023 9:42amReport post

Stone King specialise in this area x

Mum second time on this journey

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December 2023

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Posted Thu December 28, 2023 12:18pmReport post

Thank you

Inthemoment

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February 2023

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Posted Thu December 28, 2023 1:50pmReport post

I second that recommendation, they are brilliant

Ocean

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September 2023

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Posted Thu December 28, 2023 6:56pmReport post

Oh Mum, my heart really goes out to you. I'm a mum too so know the pain, anxiety and trauma you'll be going through. I just can't imagine how hard it must be to deal with this a second time. Do you have anyone to support you? And how is your son coping?
We're all here for you so keep in touch and keep reaching out to us for support.

Upset mum

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June 2020

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Posted Thu December 28, 2023 7:15pmReport post

Mum x

My heart really does go out to you x

My son has brought me here also so I totally understand how you are feeling

Do you have some support?xx

Katie28

Member since
December 2021

183 posts

Posted Thu December 28, 2023 8:56pmReport post

Mum I really feel for you and after going through this trauma once (be it with my husband) the thought of a second time is unbearable. Can I suggest reaching out to your GP as a means of support, if you are not sleeping your thought processes will be more chaotic and you will lose the ability to think rationally and practically. I know only too well in the first year I hardly had a decent nights sleep and as a result ended up with physical signs of sleep deprivation. It was only when I gave in to having to go on antidepressants (much to me being totally resistant to even the thought) was I able to think and be more helpful to my husband. Your GP should be non judgmental and be able to signpost you to other services for both yourself and your son. If you have already reached out to your GP it may be advisable to ring LFF for more support. The pain of this is unbearable and I feel for you so much. I hope you manage to get the support you need.

Katie xx

Mum second time on this journey

Member since
December 2023

7 posts

Posted Fri December 29, 2023 9:38amReport post

Thanks everyone, GP is brilliant, I've contact Stone King.

Bettyboo65

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June 2022

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Posted Fri December 29, 2023 3:55pmReport post

Hi Mum ,



Have you had a quote yet? We had a quote from someone else but it's a lot of money so we may look elsewhere xx

Mum second time on this journey

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December 2023

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Posted Fri December 29, 2023 8:27pmReport post

Hi can't sleep anymore, I've had several quotes, most start with a fixed fee. That's seems to be around £6000 including vat. That doesn't include going to Magistrates court or Crown Court.

Some let you pay in instalments, the last solicitor was useless and the Barrister was worse. The way I see it is that I will only get once chance to prevent my son from going to prison, so I need good representation for him. We are desperately trying to save money to pay for this.

Some do legal aid but not many and whether the representation is as good I'm not sure. It's a mine field.

I can't believe I'm here again.