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Four days before Christmas my husband was arrested for communicating with a minor, he was released on bail with the following conditions 1: all devices seized for investigation 2: not to live/sleep in the same house and anyone under 18 and 3: no unsupervised contact with under 18.
He has moved out and currently staying with friends.
At the end of November his dad suddenly passed away just four days after burying his partner, my husband was grieving and over 2 days had logged onto an over 18s chat room where he was talking to someone who initially said they were 18 and then changed it to 16.
I have three children and social services has reached out to me today for an assessment for the children. My youngest two do not know the full extent of the situation and think we have separated because he was talking to another woman. I do not want them to know, I want to protect them from finding out about this allegation.
I miss my husband but yet feel guilty about it - is that normal??
He has moved out and currently staying with friends.
At the end of November his dad suddenly passed away just four days after burying his partner, my husband was grieving and over 2 days had logged onto an over 18s chat room where he was talking to someone who initially said they were 18 and then changed it to 16.
I have three children and social services has reached out to me today for an assessment for the children. My youngest two do not know the full extent of the situation and think we have separated because he was talking to another woman. I do not want them to know, I want to protect them from finding out about this allegation.
I miss my husband but yet feel guilty about it - is that normal??
What you're feeling is very normal. My husband moved out, I initially thought that we would end the relationship but we both got help and we worked on it.
I would suggest that you try to have an honest conversation with your husband so you can understand the full extent of what has been going on. Social services will have been told an outline by the police and it is important that you have a clear picture to help to protect your children.
Sorry you have joined this club, but there is lots of support here for you. Call the helpline, listen to the world according to the knock podcast, the LFF friends and family course is a huge help. Also remember to look after yourself - your GP is a good person to help with stress and referring you to other services
sending you solidarity and strength x
I would suggest that you try to have an honest conversation with your husband so you can understand the full extent of what has been going on. Social services will have been told an outline by the police and it is important that you have a clear picture to help to protect your children.
Sorry you have joined this club, but there is lots of support here for you. Call the helpline, listen to the world according to the knock podcast, the LFF friends and family course is a huge help. Also remember to look after yourself - your GP is a good person to help with stress and referring you to other services
sending you solidarity and strength x
Hi stressed!
my husband was also arrested and released on bail nearly a month ago, with the exact same conditions as your husbands. I truly believe he was going through a mental health crisis at the time he started chatting, and it's so upsetting that because of a stupid conversation our family is broken now.
i fully support my husband as long as he tells me the full truth always, but my children are really struggling with the fact that we are not living together and their mental health is suffering a lot. And not going to lie, I feel like i hate my husband today because of these consequences that he haven't asked for. It's truly heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry you're here for this sad reason my friend.
my husband was also arrested and released on bail nearly a month ago, with the exact same conditions as your husbands. I truly believe he was going through a mental health crisis at the time he started chatting, and it's so upsetting that because of a stupid conversation our family is broken now.
i fully support my husband as long as he tells me the full truth always, but my children are really struggling with the fact that we are not living together and their mental health is suffering a lot. And not going to lie, I feel like i hate my husband today because of these consequences that he haven't asked for. It's truly heartbreaking.
I'm so sorry you're here for this sad reason my friend.
Hi stresssed,
sorry you find your self in this awful situation, we're almost 18 months in now my husband is Rui still waiting on devices being checked. It's a long road but it does get easier with time, I still have ups and downs but not as bad as compared to when we received the knock.
I also wanted to protect my children from finding out or at least it be me and my way of telling them. Ss however had different ideas even thought my sw had said to me it would be something we told them together. But behind my back when our sw spoke to our children separately she told them, didn't tell me she had told them it was only when our youngest who has autism asked him about it we found out she had told them.
Ss have closed our case for now till his case ends but when they come back I will not be allowing them to speak to my children alone again. So just be warry of what your sw could say when on their own with your children especially if you don't want them to know.
sorry you find your self in this awful situation, we're almost 18 months in now my husband is Rui still waiting on devices being checked. It's a long road but it does get easier with time, I still have ups and downs but not as bad as compared to when we received the knock.
I also wanted to protect my children from finding out or at least it be me and my way of telling them. Ss however had different ideas even thought my sw had said to me it would be something we told them together. But behind my back when our sw spoke to our children separately she told them, didn't tell me she had told them it was only when our youngest who has autism asked him about it we found out she had told them.
Ss have closed our case for now till his case ends but when they come back I will not be allowing them to speak to my children alone again. So just be warry of what your sw could say when on their own with your children especially if you don't want them to know.