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Devestatedwife

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October 2023

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Posted Thu January 4, 2024 11:37pmReport post

Hi

has anyone been able to keep this secret and move on with their life after sentencing ??

If no media reports and no one has been told at all ???



this is what I am hoping and praying for every day .



thank you

(husbands devices taken 3 months ago by police, he has admitted to iioc being on them)

LifeRuined23

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Devestatedwife

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Posted Fri January 5, 2024 9:10amReport post

Thank you .

that's great news for you. I'm glad your life is starting to become at bit more "normal" .



My father was here when the knock happened so he is aware and my husband is living with his mother so she had to be aware . But that's it .



I also work in a job that is with young children but I have not disclosed anything to them and neither has anyone else . I really hope it stays that way.



my children's school hasn't been notified yet either but I think this will have to be done at some stage . I work closely with the school along side my job and had initially asked for them not to be notified for my own sake.



if this didn't come out in the public maybe I could learn to forgive and work on my marriage but if I did come out I know I couldn't . I couldn't have people knowing I've taken him back after what he has done and live with the judgement . I just couldn't do it . So there's a lot riding on keeping this private.

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AnxiousGirl

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Devestatedwife

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Posted Fri January 5, 2024 2:57pmReport post

Anxious girl absolutely .

You are 100% correct. I know I haven't did anything wrong but it's still very worrying . It's the unknown . I would consider giving my husband another chance if it was kept quiet in the future but I couldn't live with the judgement if it became public . Do you and your person share children together ? What was your person charged with if you don't mind me asking

scaredandconfused

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Posted Fri January 5, 2024 4:16pmReport post

My parents were told as I rung them after the police left because I just couldn't get my head around it and in laws becthe had to stay there. I made the mistake of telling a friend that I now don't speak to anymore Which makes me anxious. It was in media but luckily not on FB so nobody I don't think as seen it. We're over a year past sentencing and nobody as mentioned it