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Aloneandconfused2021

Member since
July 2021

8 posts

Posted Tue January 9, 2024 10:30pmReport post

So we are 2.5 years since the knock. He had a hearing at court and they imposed bail conditions and said it would need to be dealt with at the crown court. My oh hasn't had bail conditions for 1.5 years so his solicitor asked me to write a letter and they were going to appeal to a different judge.

The appeal didn't work and instead has meant the police and social services have been out to me. Apparently I am minimising it and am not safeguarding the children because I still want him to see the children supervised.

im now being told the children will be going on a child protection plan, reported to lado again and I can't cope.

I'm all alone and I feel like they are trying to tear me down.

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Tue January 9, 2024 10:40pmReport post

I'm so sorry you are experiencing so much turmoil after so long. I don't have any answers as I haven't had interactions with SS but I didn't want you to feel alone x

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 6:45amReport post

Sorry to hear this. Have you looked at writing a safety plan? This will help social services see that you're seeking to protect your children.

Lff will offer guidance and you can google them too.



sending hugs xx

Aloneandconfused2021

Member since
July 2021

8 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 1:43pmReport post

Thank you for your replies it means a lot. We had a safety plan in place but I'm waiting to hear what the social worker wants me to do. Apparently because I go to the toilet when he is here I can't be supervising him 100 percent of the time.

Basically because I'm not tying him to a stake and setting fire to him the police and ss think im not safeguarding the children.

The detective thinks because i have tried to research and understand why that I am minimising it. I honestly feel like I am on trial!

Just feeling so alone and like a criminal myself

Devestatedmum

Member since
October 2022

40 posts

Posted Mon January 15, 2024 7:05pmReport post

At the start of this I was forced to supervise contact alone no support from social it was very confusing I just coped my best, the police said he can be at home as normal he just can't sleep over. I couldn't cope with that as I would follow him room to room when he went to the loo either I'd ask the kids to come upstairs and wait in their room and I would leave the door open and I'd wait in the hall when he was toileting. Because I was worried and anxious and questioning they felt I would adequately safeguard my children alone. It was hugely stressful I felt like a stranger was in our home now.

Flower

Member since
February 2023

104 posts

Posted Mon January 15, 2024 7:36pmReport post

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