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LilyRose84

Member since
October 2022

77 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 8:22amReport post

Morning all,

We had an email yesterday afternoon to say that court date is today. (Has already been postponed a couple of times)



After a long wait I'm hoping we can move forward in some way. Solicitor has said he is ideal candidate for suspended sentence but you just never know. Trying to stay positive without getting my hopes up.



Will update everyone later on. Xxx

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 8:58amReport post

Fingers crossed and thinking of you



xxx

hpl111

Member since
November 2022

392 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 9:18amReport post

Good luck xx

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 9:39amReport post

Will be thinking about you x good luck x

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 9:40amReport post

Good luck

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

142 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:11amReport post

Fingers crossed! Thinking of you x

Mandymoo

Member since
September 2021

295 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:13amReport post

Hope everything goes well for you today. Xx

Bettyboo65

Member since
June 2022

339 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:22amReport post

Thinking of you and everything crossed for a positive outcome xxx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 11:06amReport post

Hope you are both ok, thinking of you xx

Life feels over

Member since
September 2022

412 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 11:11amReport post

Sending strength x

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 4:07pmReport post

Thinking of you both xxx

Haze23

Member since
December 2023

36 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 4:49pmReport post

Wishing you both the best LilyRose x

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 5:10pmReport post

Hope the outcome was one to help you move forward.

My son's sentencing is tomorrow. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best.

Thankyou for all the support on this horrendous journey.

Inturmoil1974

Member since
November 2022

278 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 8:29pmReport post

Hoping it went was you wished

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

142 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 8:55pmReport post

Best of luck EBP, let us know how you get on tomorrow and keep us posted X

LilyRose84

Member since
October 2022

77 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 9:53pmReport post

Evening all,

thank you so much for all your kind messages.



I'm thankful to say it has been a positive outcome today. 16 months suspended, 10 years on the register and restrictions on devices on the SHPO and contact with under 18's.
He did plead guilty right from the start for contacting 3 underage girls and sending explicit photos / videos.

The judge was really fair as the prosecution tried to push charges into higher categories but she pushed back which was great. There was no press either which was one of the main things I was stressing about as we live in a small town.

My OH has done the LFF course and been to counselling and me and my parents both wrote letters which did help as the judge made reference to them and the impact it would have on our family if he did get a custodial so if you have the opportunity to do that I would recommend it.



It's been 16 months of hell since the day of the knock and as I write this now for the first time in a long time I do feel like there has been a weight lifted and I can start to move forward in some small way.
I do not know what the future holds for me and my OH but only time will tell.

Love to you all xxxx

Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:03pmReport post

That's such great news. I've been hoping all evening you would update us with good news and I'm so pleased for you.

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:20pmReport post

Positive news. So pleased for you. We were also told to emphasise supportive ,close family. My two daughters have travelled to support their brother & us .

EllBee

Member since
April 2022

142 posts

Posted Wed January 10, 2024 10:50pmReport post

Thank goodness it wasn't custodial. What a relief for you both, good news

Woodpecker

Member since
December 2023

26 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 12:31amReport post

What relieving news for you both, I hope now you can just take a few moments to just bask in the relief that the wait is over. Really happy for you x

Woodpecker

Member since
December 2023

26 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 12:31amReport post

What relieving news for you both, I hope now you can just take a few moments to just bask in the relief that the wait is over. Really happy for you x

Smile through tears

Member since
September 2021

2554 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 4:02amReport post

Brilliant news. You can gather yourselves for any hurdles that could come but you've now crossed the biggest ones x

Caggie164

Member since
October 2023

274 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 6:10amReport post

I'm so glad you got a positive outcome. Onwards and upwards and gives me a little hope xx

K4

Member since
October 2022

611 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 6:44amReport post

Thank you for sharing your outcome and I wish you all the best for whatever comes next.



hope you're able to have some relaxing times over the next few days to recover



well done on getting through this



xx

Upset mum

Member since
June 2020

2403 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 8:55amReport post

Thank you for the update x

So pleased it was non custodial

Wishing you both all the very best on the new road ahead xx

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 11:29pmReport post

Well we think it's over with Court. Still dreading a sentence till the point we went in.
Barrister very good & judge fair. Probation pre-sentence report reccommended, Community Order (100 hours + 60 rehab programme) .Judge added 6 months suspended sentence for two years. Registration upped to 10 years!

However SHPO not prepared by police,so needs to be done & possible return for that in February if challenged by defence. Possibly via digital link. We are relieved,we think.

Inthemoment

Member since
February 2023

358 posts

Posted Thu January 11, 2024 11:51pmReport post

EBP we've got the same situation with the delay for the shpo hearing, really nerve wracking and frustrating that it couldn't all be dealt with on the day

Sorry to hear the sentence was upped but glad that at least it's suspended!

EBP

Member since
September 2021

198 posts

Posted Fri January 12, 2024 12:05amReport post

Thanks In the moment

The judge was very unhappy at no available SHPO. Emphasised that she didn't want '18 paragraphs'. It must be pertinent to the charge - not a cut & paste job. The prosecuting solicitor tried to charge for the follow up court appearance, but she gave him short shrift & told him it was the responsibility of the police to have the SHPO ready for today's court date. Hence a video link to action it if we don't contest whatever they decide. It just prolongs the uncertainty.