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Hi all. I've been in and out of forums since the knock 5 weeks ago. Things are still fresh, but the shock has gone and reality has kicked in.
My now ex (as of this week) is RUI for possession (via dark web), with bail conditions he cannot live here nor have unsupervised contact with our toddler. Tonight we had a really difficult discussion through a lot of tears, and we're over. Nearly 8 years together, gone in just a few words. Unfortunately in the case of our relationship, the knock was the straw that broke the camels back (there were things in 2023 that were causing me resentment and we weren't communicating as much as we should have).
Ultimately, there's a big part of me that still loves him, and maybe I always will, but I've lost a lot of trust, and I'm incredibly hurt. 2023 was a dark year for me as it was with losing my nan 2 weeks before the knock. I'm wondering if my heart can even take grieving our relationship when I've already lost so much.
I just needed to write this to get it off my chest. I'm just so sad.
My now ex (as of this week) is RUI for possession (via dark web), with bail conditions he cannot live here nor have unsupervised contact with our toddler. Tonight we had a really difficult discussion through a lot of tears, and we're over. Nearly 8 years together, gone in just a few words. Unfortunately in the case of our relationship, the knock was the straw that broke the camels back (there were things in 2023 that were causing me resentment and we weren't communicating as much as we should have).
Ultimately, there's a big part of me that still loves him, and maybe I always will, but I've lost a lot of trust, and I'm incredibly hurt. 2023 was a dark year for me as it was with losing my nan 2 weeks before the knock. I'm wondering if my heart can even take grieving our relationship when I've already lost so much.
I just needed to write this to get it off my chest. I'm just so sad.
Your sadness is felt. Sending strength x
So sorry and sad.
Nothing to offer but a warm mummy-type hug xxxxxxxx
Nothing to offer but a warm mummy-type hug xxxxxxxx
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Sending hugs to you xx
So much to grieve, it's so hard. Sending you hugs and love
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Woodpecker, I'm sorry you're going through such sadness. I hope that you are able to move forward in all areas of your life without complications.
If you need help with things like finances citizens advice is a good starting point.
Its also important to recognise that even though you aren't together anymore you have been impacted by the trauma of this and seeking help if you haven't already would be beneficial.
We're all here to support you and wish you and your little one every happiness xxx
If you need help with things like finances citizens advice is a good starting point.
Its also important to recognise that even though you aren't together anymore you have been impacted by the trauma of this and seeking help if you haven't already would be beneficial.
We're all here to support you and wish you and your little one every happiness xxx
Just to reiterate what everryone above has said. I'm so sorry about your Nan and the extra sadness of loss that will have come with that. This has been a dark dark time for you and I'm sure that the dawn seems impossibly far away at the moment but hug your toddler tight and know that we are here for you.
Sending a hug.
Sending a hug.
So sorry you are going through this awful time. Go easy on yourself, time will heal and there will be happier times ahead. Sending love and strength x