The final straw
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I'd say you have to do the right thing and give them to the police.
sorry , just seen that you have so well done x
sorry , just seen that you have so well done x
(Personally) I would hand the papers in - like you say he needs help and it needs to be confronted.
i had to take steps that broke my heart in my sons case. His behaviour was progressing and without any doubt in my head I knew this HAD to stop whatever the consequences for him.
Extremely hard but don't feel guilty you are doing your duty and again (in my opinion) definitely forward this information.
love and strength sent.
i had to take steps that broke my heart in my sons case. His behaviour was progressing and without any doubt in my head I knew this HAD to stop whatever the consequences for him.
Extremely hard but don't feel guilty you are doing your duty and again (in my opinion) definitely forward this information.
love and strength sent.
Oh lost, I'm so sorry. You absolutely need to report this discovery. His parents are obviously not ready to accept the facts that he needs help and is a real risk to children in his present state.
Sending you strength in abundance to get through this next step xxx
Sending you strength in abundance to get through this next step xxx
What a shock and what an awful dilemma but you probably know what you need to do out of a duty of care to children and to your husband too as he clearly needs help.
Doing this whilst knowing how it will upset his parents is an extra dilemma and I wish you courage and strength as you try to help them come to terms with you doing the right thing.
They clearly are hanging onto the hope that maybe things aren't all that bad, grabbing at straws (haven't many of us been there?!) and you have no guarantees that they will come to accept what you have decided to do - is one of them easier to talk to than the other, more receptive etc, as perhaps having a conversation just with them could be a better option as you explain why you haven't agreed with their advice......
This really is the gift that keeps on giving, isn't it. Big hug sent.
Doing this whilst knowing how it will upset his parents is an extra dilemma and I wish you courage and strength as you try to help them come to terms with you doing the right thing.
They clearly are hanging onto the hope that maybe things aren't all that bad, grabbing at straws (haven't many of us been there?!) and you have no guarantees that they will come to accept what you have decided to do - is one of them easier to talk to than the other, more receptive etc, as perhaps having a conversation just with them could be a better option as you explain why you haven't agreed with their advice......
This really is the gift that keeps on giving, isn't it. Big hug sent.
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I'm pleased that you have already contacted the police, it is without a doubt the right thing to do.
As for not being supportive, I think that's a completely ridiculous and unfair statement. I wonder whether they grasp the severity of what he has done. I know it's hard for all involved to suddenly find ourselves in this situation but asking you to withhold information from the police isn't supporting him at all.
If he isn't rearrested and held on remand then it would be wise to consider what options are available in terms of your living arrangements because living together right now doesn't seem like it's in your best interests xxx
As for not being supportive, I think that's a completely ridiculous and unfair statement. I wonder whether they grasp the severity of what he has done. I know it's hard for all involved to suddenly find ourselves in this situation but asking you to withhold information from the police isn't supporting him at all.
If he isn't rearrested and held on remand then it would be wise to consider what options are available in terms of your living arrangements because living together right now doesn't seem like it's in your best interests xxx
Well done Lost, you've been very brave and 100% done the right thing......
Time to put yourself first. I'm totally with you trying to support our OH's but we can only go so far and have to remember our own wellbeing too . Sending you strength and support xx
Oh Lost, how awful for you and how brave you've been. I really hope your person now gets the help he needs and that you get support for the trauma you are going through. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts.
Well done, Lost, and I am so sorry that you have had to deal with this.
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Hi,
How absolutely awful and what a dilemma to be in. You have absolutely done the right thing, he clearly needs help.
As for the accusation that you are not being supportive, supportive doesn't mean you have to enable or condone the behaviour. I can imagine his parents are devastated by it all but hiding the truth won't help.
Hope you are ok xx
How absolutely awful and what a dilemma to be in. You have absolutely done the right thing, he clearly needs help.
As for the accusation that you are not being supportive, supportive doesn't mean you have to enable or condone the behaviour. I can imagine his parents are devastated by it all but hiding the truth won't help.
Hope you are ok xx
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