Heartbroken, deceived and confused
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My partner was arrested suddenly in July, in front of his daughter (we were getting ready to move in together), then was denied bail, pleaded guilty to attempting to meet a child after grooming, possession of indecent images and incitement to sexual activity with a child. He has been sentenced to 4 years. We are not together anymore and I have a 15 year old daughter. Nothing happened with her, but I am devastated, to say the least. Everything I thought I knew has gone. I haven't spoken to him since. He says he doesn't know why he did it. His mum is completely unhelpful and I feel like I'm drowning in doubt, confusion and hurt. Everyone hates him. I miss him,hate what he's done, but miss our life. What do I do?
Oh Short, how I feel your pain and what an awful lot you've had to deal with in such a short amount of time.
You've been through a life changing trauma and now need time and support to process what has happened and the life changes you're now going through. If you haven't already done so I recommend contacting the LFF helpline to talk things through and also reaching out to you GP.
Where you go from here and what you do has to be your decision but don't feel pressured to make any decisions until you're ready. Give yourself time to process all that's happened.
Although I can't tell you what to do, I wanted to respond to you and say that you're not alone. We're here to support you whatever you decide.
You may find it beneficial to repost your post on the Discussion category as that is the category that most people use.
I'm sending you a big virtual hug and wishing you strength and peace.
You've been through a life changing trauma and now need time and support to process what has happened and the life changes you're now going through. If you haven't already done so I recommend contacting the LFF helpline to talk things through and also reaching out to you GP.
Where you go from here and what you do has to be your decision but don't feel pressured to make any decisions until you're ready. Give yourself time to process all that's happened.
Although I can't tell you what to do, I wanted to respond to you and say that you're not alone. We're here to support you whatever you decide.
You may find it beneficial to repost your post on the Discussion category as that is the category that most people use.
I'm sending you a big virtual hug and wishing you strength and peace.
Thank you. Your reply helped. Feels like nobody understands the different feelings. The world just carries on......so strange. Xxx
I recently have undergone the similar situation, till now i believed he was the only well wisher in my life so its really hard to brush that feeling under the carpet and forget him,i am being judged as dumb of thinking to bring him back to my life.since the time he went to prison i did undertsand that he wasnt in right frame to do that but apart from that he was very good husband.i am still in shock like why??till this time if he calls me from the prison regarding any help i cant deny,but i get judged by his freinds for doing that.but heart wants what it wants ,i always belive people can improve if they put their heart and mind to it am i dumb for thinking that way?