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Bondi

Member since
December 2023

56 posts

Posted Thu January 18, 2024 5:25pmReport post

I'm just wondering once people have been sentenced (and presumably found guilty but not sent to prison) how many have continued condition of supervised contact only with u18?

Not at the sentencing stage yet, but I'm supervising occasional contact (he moved far away and hasn't initiated much contact). Just wondered if in the future how likely it is he will be granted unsupervised access as I have supervised for so long I don't trust then leaving them unsupervised down the line when they are likely to have lost alot of the bond as the kids are moving on with their father no longer an active/involved parent.

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Ocean

Member since
September 2023

771 posts

Posted Thu January 18, 2024 8:10pmReport post

Hi Bondi, my son received a 2 year suspended sentence with a 10 year SHPO which says no unsupervised contact with under 18's unless agreed by SS and the parents. SS wouldn't agree it so he still has to have supervised contact. As he now lives with me and my husband it means that we provide the supervision so that his children can stay at our house at weekends.

Distressed and pregnant

Member since
November 2020

1001 posts

Posted Thu January 18, 2024 8:46pmReport post

Hi,

my partner doesn't have a no unsupervised contact clause as part of his shpo but I supervise contact with our daughter. Ss will get back in touch with you post sentencing if you've been case closed upto then. If you don't want him to have unsupervised then you are able to state this even if it's not a condition he has on his order.
I completely understand your points around their relationship being different, if these are your only concerns rather than him posing a risk directly or indirectly to your children and ss are happy that he poses no risk then you can ask to work with them to building up to unsupervised if that's something you feel they may be able to cope with. If you're happy to continue supervision and feel this is the best thing for your children then you are within your rights as their main caregiver to do this. I hope this makes sense, I just didn't want you to worry that he'd automatically get unsupervised if not stated xxx

loulou74

Member since
September 2022

255 posts

Posted Sat January 20, 2024 11:54amReport post

My ex has conditions in his SHPO that he can't have unsupervised contact with under 18s without social services and their parents agreement, and a separate line for our kids which just states social services - so basically I can't stop contact if social services agree! We're amicable so it's fine and kids are teens. Our previous case was closed as they were happy with how we were managing supervised contact. I had to make contact with social services post sentencing as we had had no contact from them. I left it about 7 months post sentencing and they did an assessment and agreed to unsupervised contact but no overnights.