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Good evening everyone,
It's my first time posting after lurking for a while and reading everyone else's posts.
Knock was in September 2023 my person bailed for 3 months whilst a phone was checked.
Rebailed for another 3 months as phone still not back from forensics
I'm really struggling as just want it all to be over. I want my person home and my children miss him so so much to the point it's really affecting their mental health.
Fed up with police telling me it will end in this amount of time then bail is extended I just wish they would be truthful on timescales.
By reading all your posts I'm guessing it's way to early on our journey to even have my person home but we are such a close family this is so so hard being apart.
I know you will all think I'm silly for saying that I believe he's innocent but from the bottom of my heart I really do
I just wish I could fix this and feel so so useless
It's my first time posting after lurking for a while and reading everyone else's posts.
Knock was in September 2023 my person bailed for 3 months whilst a phone was checked.
Rebailed for another 3 months as phone still not back from forensics
I'm really struggling as just want it all to be over. I want my person home and my children miss him so so much to the point it's really affecting their mental health.
Fed up with police telling me it will end in this amount of time then bail is extended I just wish they would be truthful on timescales.
By reading all your posts I'm guessing it's way to early on our journey to even have my person home but we are such a close family this is so so hard being apart.
I know you will all think I'm silly for saying that I believe he's innocent but from the bottom of my heart I really do
I just wish I could fix this and feel so so useless
I'm sorry you're feeling this way. It is very hard.
Depending on the age and gender of your children, you might be able to get him home. It is probably a good idea to contact safer lives (I think) to do the protective parent course which will help you convince social services that you're able to protect the children in the event of his return home.
you can also do the nspcc pants work if your children are younger.
the LFF inform course might help you come to terms with whatever has happened too
sending strength xx
Depending on the age and gender of your children, you might be able to get him home. It is probably a good idea to contact safer lives (I think) to do the protective parent course which will help you convince social services that you're able to protect the children in the event of his return home.
you can also do the nspcc pants work if your children are younger.
the LFF inform course might help you come to terms with whatever has happened too
sending strength xx
Wish I had something more positive to say but I'm 2 months into this horror show. Thankfully he's not my children's dad but they are really affected by the loss of him being her and seeing the impact on me which I'm trying to hide all the time.
sending you strength. At this point I just don't see how I can cope for the next 3 years or so waiting for sentencing.
sending you strength. At this point I just don't see how I can cope for the next 3 years or so waiting for sentencing.
Hi Bub, I'm sorry to read your post as I know how awful this journey is. Sadly it could be some time before you get your person home but could you all spend time together with supervised contact.
There does seem to be a lack of support for children but it might be worth asking your GP/children's school/health visitor if they can recommend anything to help with their mental health.
It's still early days for you as you try and navigate your way through the trauma. Are you and your person getting support and do you have someone you can confide in? It is a long and painful journey so you need to look after yourselves.
There does seem to be a lack of support for children but it might be worth asking your GP/children's school/health visitor if they can recommend anything to help with their mental health.
It's still early days for you as you try and navigate your way through the trauma. Are you and your person getting support and do you have someone you can confide in? It is a long and painful journey so you need to look after yourselves.
Good morning
I'm feeling a bit upset today as after reading everyone's posts and realising this is more likely going to be years rather than months I've had to cancel our holiday to Florida that we booked last year and we were ment to be travelling in may. A huge loss of money for us and our children are going to be deverstated I'm also aware that if hubby does get charged then we will probably never be able to take them on the dream holiday we had planned. One thing after another with this nightmare
I'm feeling a bit upset today as after reading everyone's posts and realising this is more likely going to be years rather than months I've had to cancel our holiday to Florida that we booked last year and we were ment to be travelling in may. A huge loss of money for us and our children are going to be deverstated I'm also aware that if hubby does get charged then we will probably never be able to take them on the dream holiday we had planned. One thing after another with this nightmare
100% agree what K4 says re inform, safer lives for them and if you also can, stopso for both of you (no need to be together).
Supervised contact is the way to spend time together and is very much better than nothing.
One thing I have learnt through all of this is that you need to keep your OH engaged in the family for both you and their recovery especially if you think you might be staying together.
Supervised contact is the way to spend time together and is very much better than nothing.
One thing I have learnt through all of this is that you need to keep your OH engaged in the family for both you and their recovery especially if you think you might be staying together.