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last week my life was normal, married for 25 yrs, husband never even so much as a parking ticket.
Then a knock at the door & 5 men walked my husband off videoing it saying he had been caught by a decoy chatiing to a minor 13 or 14, not really as my minds gone.
This video as been seen by all my family & friends.
the police were called and he was bought back into our home where I was eventually told what had happened.
He was arrested and bailed for 3 mths. He did come home but is now with friends for a few weeks. My family and friends have said if I have him home they will disown me.
I've been put on medication to see the day and night through. My husband as suffered alot of brain injury over the last 6 years, not that thats an excuse, but I cannot believe this is the same man. This group kept bullying him into agreeing to things he had done and he just said yes to it all, he was on point of collapse, as cannot stand due to the brain injury.
He is not denying chatting.
But I just cant put into words the shock, I cant eat, sleep, shower, go outside, I feel like my worlds over & I'm dead.
I just dont know what to do, its a living hell...the shame the shock
Then a knock at the door & 5 men walked my husband off videoing it saying he had been caught by a decoy chatiing to a minor 13 or 14, not really as my minds gone.
This video as been seen by all my family & friends.
the police were called and he was bought back into our home where I was eventually told what had happened.
He was arrested and bailed for 3 mths. He did come home but is now with friends for a few weeks. My family and friends have said if I have him home they will disown me.
I've been put on medication to see the day and night through. My husband as suffered alot of brain injury over the last 6 years, not that thats an excuse, but I cannot believe this is the same man. This group kept bullying him into agreeing to things he had done and he just said yes to it all, he was on point of collapse, as cannot stand due to the brain injury.
He is not denying chatting.
But I just cant put into words the shock, I cant eat, sleep, shower, go outside, I feel like my worlds over & I'm dead.
I just dont know what to do, its a living hell...the shame the shock
Similar happened to us. Your life is not over! You will get through it.
I would recommend speaking to your gp, mine really helped in the early days.
You've done well to post here. Please message me once your messages are open, if you'd like xx
I would recommend speaking to your gp, mine really helped in the early days.
You've done well to post here. Please message me once your messages are open, if you'd like xx
Hi Elkie, I'm so sorry that you've had to join us here but you've done the right thing in reaching out. You'll find the people on here to be non judgemental and full of support. We've all got our own stories but also have many things in common.
At the moment you'll still be in shock as you've suffered a life changing trauma. Those early weeks are just awful but I can promise you that in time life does get easier. Your mind and thoughts will be all over the place at the moment so take your time and don't feel rushed or pressurised into making any decisions. Do what's right for you.
At the moment you'll still be in shock as you've suffered a life changing trauma. Those early weeks are just awful but I can promise you that in time life does get easier. Your mind and thoughts will be all over the place at the moment so take your time and don't feel rushed or pressurised into making any decisions. Do what's right for you.
Good advice Ocean - during the early days it feels like you've been catapulted into hell and you feel drained as you try to cope with everything.
Everyone will be also be in shock and have their 'take' on the situation, but remember you matter too - don't feel guilty about any decisions you take.
You feel your life is ruined, but honestly my lovely, it'll be changed not ruined. We are here for you 24/7
Everyone will be also be in shock and have their 'take' on the situation, but remember you matter too - don't feel guilty about any decisions you take.
You feel your life is ruined, but honestly my lovely, it'll be changed not ruined. We are here for you 24/7
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A very similar story to ours. I'm so very sorry this has happened to you too. We're four months down the line and things do become easier. It's just a terrible shock and the way these groups go about things is truly terrible x