When is the right time to make decisions
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Hello, I completely understand your questions and you can always hope for the best outcome but you also need to consider the worst. It depends on your personal circumstances, finances, work, your area, local press. The way things have been for my family I do think we should've moved away from our area a long time ago. Theres no way to know what will happen in the future, please message if you need to chat x
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I am 6 months in and worry about this less now.....
But I have told my OH he needs to start saving now to make sure he has enough money to cover solicitors fees etc (we keep money quite separate apart from payments into a joint account and I am paying nothing towards this as it is his issue)
I have started looking for a new job but then this also worries me re childcare, taking on too much etc . It was something I was going to do pre knock anyway but now I am taking it slowly as I can not committ to 2 or 3 days in an office without his help with childcare which he now can not do...... In fact I am angry he has also taken away my chance to restart my career after a 10+ year break.
So I am also saving all spare cash now, no meals out etc being very boring & careful in case I need to manage the house on my own. This is something I think he struggles to understand.
I feel more like I could cope with a new job now at 6 months in and if I had started something 4 months ago it would have been a disaster and I have been there before when I had a new job during a divorce and kept it hidden from all my colleagues until one day I just burst into tears in the office and told them all everything...... that was a year of hidden trauma that came tumbling out!
But I have told my OH he needs to start saving now to make sure he has enough money to cover solicitors fees etc (we keep money quite separate apart from payments into a joint account and I am paying nothing towards this as it is his issue)
I have started looking for a new job but then this also worries me re childcare, taking on too much etc . It was something I was going to do pre knock anyway but now I am taking it slowly as I can not committ to 2 or 3 days in an office without his help with childcare which he now can not do...... In fact I am angry he has also taken away my chance to restart my career after a 10+ year break.
So I am also saving all spare cash now, no meals out etc being very boring & careful in case I need to manage the house on my own. This is something I think he struggles to understand.
I feel more like I could cope with a new job now at 6 months in and if I had started something 4 months ago it would have been a disaster and I have been there before when I had a new job during a divorce and kept it hidden from all my colleagues until one day I just burst into tears in the office and told them all everything...... that was a year of hidden trauma that came tumbling out!
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We got the knock early December. For me, I've taken 0 chances, we've seperated in light of things he's told me since, and we've put the house on the market now, with the intent of having my own place this year. For me the risk is too great in terms of what the loss of his finances would do (swamp us into debt and probably bankruptcy) as he's the breadwinner by far in comparison to me.
It's going to depend on if you intend on staying with OH, the probability of NFA based on what you know, what your finances look like and what your outgoings look like etc.
To answer your question, there isn't a right time unfortunately, but there's your right time, and when you're ready to sit down and figure out what you want to do, you'll know.
It's going to depend on if you intend on staying with OH, the probability of NFA based on what you know, what your finances look like and what your outgoings look like etc.
To answer your question, there isn't a right time unfortunately, but there's your right time, and when you're ready to sit down and figure out what you want to do, you'll know.