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We moved our son into our home three weeks ago after he received a suspended sentence,community service & probation programme. We tried so hard to be supportive,positive & parental.
We expected the police to visit him here & accepted that.
Plain clothes appeared this morning & chatted to him once he was dressed & then talked to him in his room. I spoke to them a little to introduce myself. Then I left them together. Shortly after, she came down to tell me they had found stuff on his phone & he was being arrested,by uniformed officers at our house. I requested they parked discreetly but no, they parked outside a neighbours house in a fully marked police car. When they left,it was quite obvious who was being arrested.
We are back in hell,imagining all sorts.
Did he offend in our house?
Neighbours were not aware of his offending & there is a new young family next door. Will we have to disclose.
I feel sick!
We expected the police to visit him here & accepted that.
Plain clothes appeared this morning & chatted to him once he was dressed & then talked to him in his room. I spoke to them a little to introduce myself. Then I left them together. Shortly after, she came down to tell me they had found stuff on his phone & he was being arrested,by uniformed officers at our house. I requested they parked discreetly but no, they parked outside a neighbours house in a fully marked police car. When they left,it was quite obvious who was being arrested.
We are back in hell,imagining all sorts.
Did he offend in our house?
Neighbours were not aware of his offending & there is a new young family next door. Will we have to disclose.
I feel sick!
Oh my goodness what a terrible shock for you, I can't imagine how awful it must be to feel like you've gone back to the start again. Is your son home yet and has he been able to give you any explanation?
I just can't think of what I can say at the moment to make you feel any better but I'm here for you and am wrapping you up in a big virtual hug.
I just can't think of what I can say at the moment to make you feel any better but I'm here for you and am wrapping you up in a big virtual hug.
I'm so sorry this has happened to you again. It must have been a real shock. Sending you strength x
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Oh I'm so sorry - you are living in a nightmare and I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling today. The insensitivity of the police is unecessary salt in the wound for you to deal with and unforgiveable really. I'm angry on your behalf.
Hoping you can grab hold of a tiny, tiny bit of comfort from the fact that you have all of us standing behind you. I'm so very sorry xx
Hoping you can grab hold of a tiny, tiny bit of comfort from the fact that you have all of us standing behind you. I'm so very sorry xx
I think you will only need to disclose in line with the SHPO.
my thoughts are with you.
xx
my thoughts are with you.
xx
Thankyou for all your support.
Finally returned this morning on three months bail. Conditions all relate to internet use and any current & future devices checked by police.
Solicitor feels evidence is insufficient for charge as previous to January sentencing. Really thought he would be straight off to prison.
Now have to find a suitable 'Dumb' phone with no internet access. He will have to use our computer for job searches, I presume Police will want to put monitoring on it. What are our legal rights?
I am Still unsure how to feel,or accept all emotions- anger,despair,fear,wanting to distance from him. Is he still my vulnerable disabled boy who I fought so hard for,or a grown man who has to take responsibility for his addiction?
Finally returned this morning on three months bail. Conditions all relate to internet use and any current & future devices checked by police.
Solicitor feels evidence is insufficient for charge as previous to January sentencing. Really thought he would be straight off to prison.
Now have to find a suitable 'Dumb' phone with no internet access. He will have to use our computer for job searches, I presume Police will want to put monitoring on it. What are our legal rights?
I am Still unsure how to feel,or accept all emotions- anger,despair,fear,wanting to distance from him. Is he still my vulnerable disabled boy who I fought so hard for,or a grown man who has to take responsibility for his addiction?