Heartbroken, deceived and confused
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My partner was arrested suddenly in July, in front of his daughter (we were getting ready to move in together), then was denied bail, pleaded guilty to attempting to meet a child after grooming, possession of indecent images and incitement to sexual activity with a child. He has been sentenced to 4 years. We are not together anymore and I have a 15 year old daughter. Nothing happened with her, but I am devastated, to say the least. Everything I thought I knew has gone. I haven't spoken to him since. He says he doesn't know why he did it. His mum is completely unhelpful and I feel like I'm drowning in doubt, confusion and hurt. Everyone hates him. I miss him,hate what he's done, but miss our life. What do I do?
I'm sorry that you find yourself here. I have no particular advice for you but wanted to send you a virtual hug.
there are lots of women here who have partners and ex-partners and sons in prison and they can probably help you process your feelings better than I
xx
there are lots of women here who have partners and ex-partners and sons in prison and they can probably help you process your feelings better than I
xx
It sounds like you are experiencing trauma from the shock of the event and grief from the loss of everything that you thought you knew. Have you spoken to the LF helpline? Many have found it to be beneficial. It's natural to be feeling everything you listed and more. Life is flipped on its head in a split second and this takes time to process. I imagine this has impacted on your respective daughters too. I hope they are also able to access the support they need to process the situation.
You will find people here that have chosen to stay and those that have chosen to leave. Some myself included have people serving custodial sentences. Some are the children of offenders and some are parents. You'll also always find support and a lack of judgement x
You will find people here that have chosen to stay and those that have chosen to leave. Some myself included have people serving custodial sentences. Some are the children of offenders and some are parents. You'll also always find support and a lack of judgement x